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21 year old dating a 17 year old, wrong?

Recently met a girl through my job (she is a student nurse) She's great and we get on really well.

Thing is, she is 17 and im 21. Alot of my mates think that the age gap is too big?

Im not sure, what do you think?

Cheers

S

Reply 1

BJP

13

the age doesn't define it as wrong.

if you get on well then it's fine.

you are both legal and old enough to know what you want.

have fun :smile:

Reply 2

Champagne Supernova

21

It's fine.

Reply 3

Pan's-Labyrinth

14

stuart_hatch

Recently met a girl through my job (she is a student nurse) She's great and we get on really well.

Thing is, she is 17 and im 21. Alot of my mates think that the age gap is too big?

Im not sure, what do you think?

Cheers

S

Not at all Im 17 my boyfriend is 22 :smile:

at first he was abit wary of what people would think but at the end of the day, its your happiness don't let others stop you from having that.

Im nearlly 18 so its the same age gap.

Go for it.

Reply 4

xmarilynx

18

21/7*2 = 17.5, so you're fine :smile:

I'm 17 and I've had boyfriends of your age and older and it hasn't felt weird. If you think she's mature etc go for it - don't just judge her on her age or what your friends think.

Reply 5

balloon_parade

14

I don't think it is wrong.

Only possible problem would be her not getting in places if you were to go out on a night time, but what do I know she might look old enough or have fake ID!

Reply 6

Emily069

11

When I was 16 I dated a 24 year old.

It ended very badly - it turned out he had a FIANCEE and hadn't told me.

Man I was immature.

As long as your intentions are honorable then theres nothing wrong with the age gap at all. :smile:

Reply 7

Smoosh

13

Nope, it's not that much of a gap.

Reply 8

username114658

0

12

Sounds fine.. The fact you're checking means your responsible though.. good on you :smile:

Reply 9

Morbo

17

xmarilynx

21/7*2 = 17.5, so you're fine :smile:

I'm 17 and I've had boyfriends of your age and older and it hasn't felt weird. If you think she's mature etc go for it - don't just judge her on her age or what your friends think.

Actually, 21/7*2 = 6. That's like a paedo's rule of thumb for maximum age.

It's 21/2 + 7 (which = 17.5, as you said...)

Reply 10

phantasmagoria08

I don't think its wrong

Reply 11

anitawee

14

i know two people living together 19 girl and 24 guy, i think ur problem is the subconscious thought that shes not 18 yet

Reply 12

Pebbles13

2

I don't see a problem I've dated and had a large gap between us...like a 12 year gap. But the only thing is, which I don't know how the law is there, but here you have to watch out. If you are older than 18 and you date younger than 18 that can wind you up in jail.

Reply 13

TIJK

Half age + 7, go by the rule and you'll never fail :P (If your under 16 however I don't think you should even consider using the the rule :P)

Reply 14

stuart_hatch

OP

2

Thanks alot guys, let's hope it goes well :smile:

Reply 15

DJkG.1

17

A four year difference, that's nothing! Sometimes you have to imagine it out of the artificially extended dependency periods you find in the west and imaging yourselves double the age.

I suppose the only reason you're concerned is because a lot changes in the four years from 17 to 21, but as you say she is a student nurse so she's not a little girl. And it's not like your a scary old man either, 21 isn't far away from a 17 year old.

Meh I see no issue.

Reply 16

SpamBa

14

Not really. My friend is 17 and her boyfriend 22, but they have a really fantstic relationship. Age is just a number tbh, it is more about the people you both are.

Reply 17

markwaza

3

You know she's too young when you have to make aeroplane noises to get your **** in her mouth!

Reply 18

Cryforhelp.

don't get her pregnant.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Nahhh Im 17 and the guy Im seeing is 21ill be 18 the same day as hes 22
we don't find age as an issue to be honest we have alot in common and enjoy being around each other

21 year old dating a 17 year old, wrong?

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