21 year old dating a 17 year old, wrong?

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stuart_hatch
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Recently met a girl through my job (she is a student nurse) She's great and we get on really well.

Thing is, she is 17 and im 21. Alot of my mates think that the age gap is too big?

Im not sure, what do you think?

Cheers

S
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the age doesn't define it as wrong.

if you get on well then it's fine.

you are both legal and old enough to know what you want.

have fun
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It's fine.
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(Original post by stuart_hatch)
Recently met a girl through my job (she is a student nurse) She's great and we get on really well.

Thing is, she is 17 and im 21. Alot of my mates think that the age gap is too big?

Im not sure, what do you think?

Cheers

S

Not at all Im 17 my boyfriend is 22 at first he was abit wary of what people would think but at the end of the day, its your happiness don't let others stop you from having that.

Im nearlly 18 so its the same age gap.

Go for it.
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21/7*2 = 17.5, so you're fine
I'm 17 and I've had boyfriends of your age and older and it hasn't felt weird. If you think she's mature etc go for it - don't just judge her on her age or what your friends think.
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I don't think it is wrong.

Only possible problem would be her not getting in places if you were to go out on a night time, but what do I know she might look old enough or have fake ID!
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When I was 16 I dated a 24 year old.

It ended very badly - it turned out he had a FIANCEE and hadn't told me.

Man I was immature.

As long as your intentions are honorable then theres nothing wrong with the age gap at all.
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Nope, it's not that much of a gap.
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Sounds fine.. The fact you're checking means your responsible though.. good on you
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(Original post by xmarilynx)
21/7*2 = 17.5, so you're fine
I'm 17 and I've had boyfriends of your age and older and it hasn't felt weird. If you think she's mature etc go for it - don't just judge her on her age or what your friends think.
Actually, 21/7*2 = 6. That's like a paedo's rule of thumb for maximum age.

It's 21/2 + 7 (which = 17.5, as you said...)
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I don't think its wrong
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i know two people living together 19 girl and 24 guy, i think ur problem is the subconscious thought that shes not 18 yet
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I don't see a problem I've dated and had a large gap between us...like a 12 year gap. But the only thing is, which I don't know how the law is there, but here you have to watch out. If you are older than 18 and you date younger than 18 that can wind you up in jail.
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Half age + 7, go by the rule and you'll never fail :P (If your under 16 however I don't think you should even consider using the the rule :P)
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Thanks alot guys, let's hope it goes well
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A four year difference, that's nothing! Sometimes you have to imagine it out of the artificially extended dependency periods you find in the west and imaging yourselves double the age.

I suppose the only reason you're concerned is because a lot changes in the four years from 17 to 21, but as you say she is a student nurse so she's not a little girl. And it's not like your a scary old man either, 21 isn't far away from a 17 year old.

Meh I see no issue.
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Not really. My friend is 17 and her boyfriend 22, but they have a really fantstic relationship. Age is just a number tbh, it is more about the people you both are.
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You know she's too young when you have to make aeroplane noises to get your **** in her mouth!
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don't get her pregnant.
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Nahhh Im 17 and the guy Im seeing is 21ill be 18 the same day as hes 22
we don't find age as an issue to be honest we have alot in common and enjoy being around each other
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