What did I do to deserve such a great boyfriend that loves me with all his heart?

Sorry its sooo long.....I think that my boyfriend is the most amazing person in my life. Yesterday I met up with a guy from the past...well the next thing I find is that I cheated on the most important person in my life. I felt that I owed it to Scott(my boyfriend) to tell him what happened, I did and he said that because he didn't go home the night before at all so that he could stay the night with me he lost his car and his mom is about to kick him out of the house. He said that he couldn't talk to me at the current time and hung up on me, I can completey understand why he hung up on me. And to make matters worse him and the guy are suppose to be friends. Well later on after I told him I went to McDonalds and got a phone call while sitting in the parking lot and it was Scott, he said that he was coming to talk to me. He left his house without his mom knowing and took her cellphone. Here I am knowing that I completely ****ed up and not knowing if the most important person in my life was going to say. When he got to McDonalds he came an sat in my truck with me and then we started talking about it and he told me that he blaimed himself for it, he was suppose to go to church with me that day but didn't get up in time, he said that it was his fault because if he had went to church he would have been with me and nothing would have ever happened between me and Aaron. I then asked him if he still wanted to be togther and he said I still love you with all my heart and that he told me before that I was stuck with him for the rest of my life and of course we were still toghether. I now know that my boyfriend Scott means the world to me and I have no clue what I would have done if I had lost him last night. I also know that he truley does care about me and that when he says that he loves me, he really does mean it.

Soo what makes me soo lucky to find a boyfriend and why in the world would he want to stick around after what I did to him?

Reply 1

Tnacilppa

What did you do to deserve him?

Not much by the sound of things. :smile:

Reply 2

blissy

15

So you want to know why he took you back after you cheated on him?

I think a lot of people in long term relationships are prepared to forgive infidelity, but then it is down to the individuals.

Reply 3

SciFi25

1

blissy

So you want to know why he took you back after you cheated on him?

I think a lot of people in long term relationships are prepared to forgive infidelity, but then it is down to the individuals.

If it was truly an 'accident' and it really wasn't premeditated then yeah, i think most people would forgive and forget. It would depend on how strong the relationship is and how much they care about you.

Reply 4

RetiredAccount89

18

blissy

So you want to know why he took you back after you cheated on him?

I think a lot of people in long term relationships are prepared to forgive infidelity, but then it is down to the individuals.

You would?
I might be prepared to fogive a pull, but finding out they slept with someone else is pretty terminal in my mind.

Reply 5

musicbloke

17

Your boyfriend is taking you back forr one reason and one reason only. It is easier for him to get some action with a girl who wants his forgiveness than it is for him to go out looking for a new girlfriend. Ok, well maybe not but it's a possibility.

MB

Reply 6

RetiredAccount89

18

SciFi25

If it was truly an 'accident' and it really wasn't premeditated then yeah, i think most people would forgive and forget. It would depend on how strong the relationship is and how much they care about you.

See this is my issue
You can get caught up in a kiss without too much thought.
But further than that there has to be at least one point when ur mind flicks back to your partner/to the fact you're cheating.

Reply 7

SciFi25

1

foolfarian

See this is my issue
You can get caught up in a kiss without too much thought.
But further than that there has to be at least one point when ur mind flicks back to your partner/to the fact you're cheating.

I dunno I kind of switch over to automatic and don't think about too much else!!

Reply 8

saz_1989

2

foolfarian

But further than that there has to be at least one point when ur mind flicks back to your partner/to the fact you're cheating.

what if you do go further and dont think about your partner?

Reply 9

bobthebluenose

Do you think that due to the fact you've cheated, and he's forgiven you- you'll be more likely to cheat again in the future?

Reply 10

kingslaw

14

Lozza

what if you do go further and dont think about your partner?

Then, to be honest, they'd be an absolute idiot for managing to go through all that without once thinking of their partner.

It p*sses me off when people say they never thought of their partner, because, well, they're lying.

Reply 11

SciFi25

1

kingslaw

Then, to be honest, they'd be an absolute idiot for managing to go through all that without once thinking of their partner.

It p*sses me off when people say they never thought of their partner, because, well, they're lying.

I've never been in the situation nor ever intend to be so I guess I will never know if you think about you partner in these situations.

Reply 12

TheLameMonkey

Hmm, I wouldn't be able to take back my girlfriend if she cheated on me.

Fidelity is too important to me, I'd feel sick and betrayed. If he can manage to take you back after that, then he's either a better man than I, or he doesn't have the same priorities that some of us do.

Yeugh.

Reply 13

Create

2

??? To me, if someone was completely head-over-heels in love with someone, and wanted to be with them for the rest of their life, they wouldn't even have to look at anyone else, let alone get close enough to them to be in a kissing (or further) situation. If you know in your heart that you've got the best by your side, why do people feel the need to look? imo, if you've got to the point where you're thinking about being with other people, the person you're with is not the one for you.

This wasn't meant to be in direct reference to the original poster - more a general point of view. Original poster - if he means that much to you - don't do it again! He may not be so forgiving a second time round.

Reply 14

kingslaw

14

musicboy

Your boyfriend is taking you back forr one reason and one reason only. It is easier for him to get some action with a girl who wants his forgiveness than it is for him to go out looking for a new girlfriend. Ok, well maybe not but it's a possibility.

MB

I rarely agree with you. But you could well be onto something there...

Reply 15

naelse

15

i've been in that situation before and, yes, quite often the gut reaction is to stay together no matter what because you love each other. but the relationship very rarely goes back to normal. the idea of another man touching you, doing things to you could play around in his head for months. he could become overly possessive and clingy. he might get angry and suspicious if he sees you talking to a male friend or if you go out without him. you can only really assess the effects of an affair in a few weeks or months when the whole thing has sunk in.

Reply 16

LennonMcCartney

Create

??? To me, if someone was completely head-over-heels in love with someone, and wanted to be with them for the rest of their life, they wouldn't even have to look at anyone else, let alone get close enough to them to be in a kissing (or further) situation. If you know in your heart that you've got the best by your side, why do people feel the need to look? imo, if you've got to the point where you're thinking about being with other people, the person you're with is not the one for you.

This wasn't meant to be in direct reference to the original poster - more a general point of view. Original poster - if he means that much to you - don't do it again! He may not be so forgiving a second time round.

Yes, I must say I agree with Create here.

Reply 17

Helenia

20

foolfarian

See this is my issue
You can get caught up in a kiss without too much thought.
But further than that there has to be at least one point when ur mind flicks back to your partner/to the fact you're cheating.

Yeah, I agree with that one - to go further does require an active decision, and if you can make that decision without thinking of your partner, are they that important to you?

Reply 18

ZigZag

11

I think perhaps the feeling you're experiencing is a combination of relief and gratitude that he didn't leave you, rather than that you love him (at least, to the extent you claim). If you really did, then the very thought of cheating would be an alien concept, and not something that just happens.

Reply 19

LennonMcCartney

Helenia

Yeah, I agree with that one - to go further does require an active decision, and if you can make that decision without thinking of your partner, are they that important to you?

Yeah but what could be happening here is that the cheated loves the cheater more than the cheater loves the cheated. Often what love is, or how mutual it is is clouded by the situation at hand, or recent events etc.

What did I do to deserve such a great boyfriend that loves me with all his heart?

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