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Self-harm.

That's my friend's case. He likes someone, but she doesn't like him as her bf, she looks on him as a normal friend. So he was sad, and hurt himself by pricking his cigarette into his hand. I don't know whether he felt better or not, but deffinitely it's disease. Do you think he needs a psychologist for that?

Reply 1

Fleffzilla

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If it continues, he may need to get some advice from someone, if it's just a one time thing and it never happens again, then it shouldn't be too much of a problem.

One of my friends went for over a year hurting herself, of course no one knew until around a year had passed. She was referred to a psychiatrist, but stopped going after only one or two sessions. She's managed to get over it by herself after that, with the support from us, so not everyone needs professional help (but I would advise it if it becomes a habit)

Reply 2

Amzybaby24

1

No

as a person whos been through this, let it run its course, it helps the apin .

geting more people involved will amke him (probably) do it all the more.

Reply 3

username18215

0

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exercise when depressed is a form of self-harm in my humble opinion.

It works on the same principle; running or whatever, until it hurts and that pain releases anger perhaps.

Reply 4

Cellardore

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Amzybaby24

No

as a person whos been through this, let it run its course, it helps the apin .

geting more people involved will amke him (probably) do it all the more.

yes i would agree, although i could imagine this isn't the same for everyone. Some people may actually need professional help.

edit: although self harming might just be the beginning- just keep a close eye on your friend.

Reply 5

lou p lou

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Amzybaby24

as a person whos been through this, let it run its course, it helps the apin .

but sometimes it's dangerous to let it run it's course, i have a flatmate who has self harmed since she was 12 and attempted suicide 3 times during that period. she is now much better (she managed to go 6 months without doing it) but she has had a lot of counselling and says that she wishes that she'd got help earlier because she's stuck with very bad scarring for life.

as for the thread starter- it may be justa one-off, just make sure you're there for your friend and keep an eye on him, if it gets out of hand try and get him to help

lou xxx

Reply 6

princessbabyboo

I have been through something like this with my friend and my mum told her mum and she now knows. Although her mum now is fully aware of this, my mate hates her mum and now lives with her dad. The only reason we told her mum was because I was worried about her so was my mum I thought she would of ended up in hospital or dead. I was scared for her. I feel bad and good for what I have done.
Its better people that care and love the person know so they can stop it from getting out of hand.

Reply 7

Inverurie Jones

1

That's a bad road to go down. Deliberately damaging yourself is never good. He definitely needs help.

Reply 8

Hanzing

13

I think with the first thread, It may be a one off.. I mean occasionly when i get really really annoyed with myself I kick something, cause pain.. it makes you feel better.. But if this becomes a regular thing you really need to tell someone about it.
I was pretty sure my friend was self harming last year, but she kept saying she had cut herself acidently and other things.. But then she took an overdose. It took things that far before she got help she needed.

Reply 9

Daveo

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Amzybaby24

No

as a person whos been through this, let it run its course, it helps the apin .

geting more people involved will amke him (probably) do it all the more.

To be honest thats a pretty stupid thing to say...whether or not you've 'been through' it, everyone is different and we don't need you, who probably has only a limited expereince to tell people what to do in such a decisive way...by all means give your advice but remember its a personal experience. Some people cope well with help others not so well so unless you know the detailed circumstances of a case please kindly keep quiet!

Reply 10

Daveo

16

And in reply to the thread... if this is a one off then I don't think there is much of a problem however it may be the tip of an already present iceberg or just the start of something a lot bigger which could get worse and worse, keep your eyes open and be as supportive as you can...if you notice anything then you could ask them about it.
Good luck.

Reply 11

john !!

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md_red_uk

exercise when depressed is a form of self-harm in my humble opinion.

It works on the same principle; running or whatever, until it hurts and that pain releases anger perhaps.

yes, only exercise is constructive, self harming is destructive

Reply 12

Daveo

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lessthanthree

It does sound like a one-off cry for attention, to be honest. I mean - a girl he likes doesn't like him? come on.

If you feel the problem's a bit more deep rooted than that, and you see he's done it again, then sure, mention it, but I think if it's just a one-time thing, then you oughtn't to draw too much attention to it. It might be what he wanted :\

Yes in which case it'll make him realise if he does things like that he gets noticed which would NOT be a good thing!

Reply 13

SciFi25

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lessthanthree

It does sound like a one-off cry for attention, to be honest. I mean - a girl he likes doesn't like him? come on.

That could be the thing that tips the balance. Its often not just one problem that leads to depression, self-harm or suicide attempts. Often it is a number of different problems which means it becomes too difficult to cope.

Reply 14

Fleffzilla

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lessthanthree

I still stand by the fact that it's best not to draw attention to it, or let him know you've noticed. That way, if he *did* have a problem, and continued to do it, he wouldn't be inclined to do it in secret/lie about it, OR he won't do it again because it got him no attention.

Yup, my friend (a different one) did it, only she scratched arrows onto her arm and hands, then rolled her sleeves up so they were on show, obviously attention seeking. Her tutor/biology teacher saw them and said 'is that to show the direction of your blood?' And walked off. He obviously wasn't happy. She stopped after that. Amazing what a bit of ridicule does. But then that's just her, she is quite odd, so it might not to apply to your friend. Don't draw attention to it, but keep an eye on him just incase it becomes a bit too serious.

Reply 15

SciFi25

1

What an odd thing to do!

Reply 16

Fleffzilla

3

SciFi25

What an odd thing to do!

My mate? Yeah... She's the one I was moaning about earlier in the moaning thread (don't know if you even saw it), she is rather odd. Demoting me from my own site to a mere member :mad:

(I'm really annoyed about it, sorry for taking it a bit off topic). But yeah, she has that personality where she'll do almost anything for attention, sadly that included cutting herself.

Reply 17

Niaya

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BCHL85

That's my friend's case. He likes someone, but she doesn't like him as her bf, she looks on him as a normal friend. So he was sad, and hurt himself by pricking his cigarette into his hand. I don't know whether he felt better or not, but deffinitely it's disease. Do you think he needs a psychologist for that?

you friend need support but he has to decide that for himself all you can do is be there and dont judge him if you havent harmed then you dont know what its like

Reply 18

azukibean

6

Maybe at this stage a psychologist isn't necessary. If you see that the situation does get a lot worse...suicide attempts, serious self harm...then it may be necessary for a psychologist. Maybe a counsellor or a good friend for him to talk to him would be good enough for now.

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