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People who marry/have sexual relationships with their teachers after leaving school

What do you think of such occurrences? I don't know. It would undoubtedly give rise to questions about what the teacher was thinking when the person was their student. Indeed, it's a strange case of affairs. If the teacher began a sexual relationship with their student during the final year of sixth form they'd possibly be fired and put on the sex offenders register, whereas if it happened a year later then it'd be perfectly legal. Also, in general, do you find something quite repulsive about a teacher getting involved with a former student, or do you believe it's totally benign?

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Reply 1

NW86

12

Interesting and difficult question. Generally I would think it is benign if it takes place after the person has left school, but you do have to question the intentions of both parties if school was the place they met, and how they socialised with each other during that time. Although over 18, both consenting adults.

Anecdotal story: a teacher at my old school married someone who left the 6th form, she then went on to have an affair with another teacher at the same school. Maybe she just like teachers?

Reply 2

emioly

A young teacher and a student in their final year of sixth form or the year after I don't find weird. It's not like the age difference is that much - there is the issue of abuse of trust I suppose but most of the time I don't think it would be a teacher 'grooming' a pupil. Some people in sixth form have boyfriends older than some of our student teachers/recently qualified teachers and no one thinks that's weird.

Reply 3

TurnBlue

4

I have an opinion on this, but as has been said, it's difficult, as well. What I think is this - if a teacher has a relationship with a former pupil, after they've left sixth form and are, therefore, no longer their teacher, then fair enough. It's perfectly legal and not incriminating, and so they have no fear in that respect. However, I do agree that, if a teacher is willing to have a relationship with an ex student, then you have to question what was going on in their minds while they were teaching the pupil in question. I've (and a lot of other people, for that matter) always seen teachers as more of another mother or father, in a way, people who pass on knowledge for the good of the future generation (it sounds corny and cliched as hell, but it's a truism, lol), and so I couldn't possibly fathom having a sexual relationship with an teacher. But, then again, that's just me, and as we all know, affairs between teacher and student have happened.

And I'm officially rambling, lol. Soz...

Reply 4

Pinapse The Synapse

I think it's ok if the age difference isn't massive. Some people in my sixth form have boyfriends the same age as student teachers and no one is fussed about that.

Reply 5

EskimoJo

18

I don't think it matters at all regardless of the age gap. As long as the student is not still a student in the same school/college or under 18. It's like any other relationship.

Reply 6

Mastermind`

17

I think it's quite sexy. The teaching goes on - the student is just taught more stuff in a different, more relaxed environment. :yep:

Reply 7

WaffleBakingStar

1

In my opinion, it's the age gap that matters. This is like disapproving of an executive having a relationship with his/her secretary.

Reply 8

Lady_Luck

I know someone who started dating her teacher after she left school after her GCSE's. She went college to continue her education there instead. So she was 16.

I personally could never date a teacher, but she seems happy enough.

Reply 9

steeler4life

13

Someone I was friends with got together with his teacher after we left school. It was about 2 years after we left though, and he was 18 at the time. The teacher (who was also my teacher for a while) about 8 years older than him. They ended up living together, although, not sure if they're still together.

The weird thing was that she'd been teaching him from the age of 13.

I couldn't care less as long as they're both consenting adults.

In fact, I think it's ridiculous how a teacher can be placed on the sex offenders register for dating 16, 17 & 18 year old students.

Reply 12

RyanT

15

edited - thanks acalia.

Reply 13

cowsgoquack

16

I don't care about it anymore than I care about any relationship between two people I don't know.

Reply 14

MSB

17

I don't imagine there are many teachers ticking the days of the calendar around.

Reply 15

Viewless Wings

8

It's hot.

/mature response

Reply 16

username234673

0

17

caroline147

I couldn't care less as long as they're both consenting adults.

In fact, I think it's ridiculous how a teacher can be placed on the sex offenders register for dating 16, 17 & 18 year old students.

I feel sorry for teachers. They take **** from everyone and can get screwed over so frikin easily.

Reply 17

necessarily benevolent

OP

14

emmers1990

That was inspiration for this thread. :p:

Reply 18

>Anna<

15

caroline147

I couldn't care less as long as they're both consenting adults.

In fact, I think it's ridiculous how a teacher can be placed on the sex offenders register for dating 16, 17 & 18 year old students.

I agree.

Actually, one of my favourite teachers is, and has been for years, in a relationship with an ex-student. I don't see a problem with it as long as everyone's happy and there isn't an abuse of the professional relationship eg if the student is vulnerable for whatever reason.

Reply 19

nolongerhearthemusic

13

Slightly creepy but I honestly don't care.

I do agree with laws preventing teachers having relationships with their current pupils. Even in the sixth form, teachers are in a position of authority. That's not there with a 16-18 year old who has never been their pupil or one who is no longer their pupil.

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