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Help me stop being a bitch!

Well basically, I bitch about people a lot (sometimes close friends, sometimes people at my school) and I hate it, not just because theres a danger of being caught but it makes me feel like an angry person. Also sometimes I actually like these people and will obv be civil to them but then that makes me look 2-faced. Sometimes I'll criticise my friends too like I'll hate the fact that one of my friends never texts me back etc. Help, I don't wanna be known as a bitch!?

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Reply 1
then stop bitchin. it's easy
What do you honestly expect anyone to say to you?
Quit acting like a bitch if you want to.
If you don't, I guess you are a bitch.
Bad mouth people in your head all you want, but anyone can control what they say to others.
There is no excuse for your bitchiness behaviour, and yes, you will look two-faced.

Only you can help you.
Very simple. Think before you speak.
I've bitched about a friend's girlfrind before now and it just ends in a mess.

If you want to change that much, you'll think about it enough to not do it again.
Reply 4
bitch.
It's easy besides, people probably bitch about people maybe even you and not just because you're being a bitch. It's easy enjough anyway.

Fox
Remember that Karma will get you in the end.
Reply 7
My advice to you is to see things from their perspective before you open your mouth. Think about how you appear to them when you are bitching.
Reply 8
kat2pult
My advice to you is to see things from their perspective before you open your mouth. Think about how you appear to them when you are bitching.


helllooo darling ^.^
Reply 9
Every time you feel like saying something about someone stop and think "i don't want to be known as a bitch". Remind yourself of your reason for not bitching.

Remember, would you like it if you found out someone was bitching about you? No. Therefore don't talk about others cause they don't like it.
Reply 10
Im naturally not a bitchy person, but when i hang around with certain people i find that every second word that comes out of my mouth is negative. Look at your friends and the people you hang around with on a daily basis, are they bitchy? do all they talk about is negative things about other people? I found this with a couple of people i was friendly with and so began to make an active attempt to steer the conversation onto something else. Not only did it stop me feeling like such a bitch, but i think it helped my friends in a way too.
Theres nothing more irritating than someone who slags someone off and then is their best friend to their face. It actually one of the only things that really get on my tits. Like lola stars said, quit acting like a bitch if you want to - its in your power, you just have to become more aware of what you are saying.
Before you bitch think - do i really mean what im saying, or am i just trying to add to the conversation? If you dont mean it, dont say it. If you do mean it, and are going to say it, think about if you would say it the person who you are talking about's face. If not, dont say it either.
As much as people flame others for being "bitches", it is innate in all of us, you just have to control it. Once you clear up the negativity you'll feel a lot more positive about yourself - which will help with the whole feeling angry thing.

Sorry that this reads like a counsellor rant, but you know what i mean.
Reply 11
1Mperios
helllooo darling ^.^


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Reply 12
kat2pult
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Maybe your bitching about your friends to other people as a way of bonding, almost like a mutual interest (most people love a good bitch now and then). If you consciously try and stop yourself from doing this and find other ways of being interesting to talk to, you'll eventually get over it. The fact that you recognise this behaviour and want to change probably means you're already on your way to resolving the problem.
Reply 14
silly bitch. kill yourself.
I was just like you when I was 17/18 in 6th form. It caused a lot of grief, so in the end, I simply said nothing. I complimented people when I felt it was warranted, but other than that I kept quiet.
Reply 16
Can I just say most of the people who say it's easy to stop being a bitch probably do it themselves sub constiously. I still have a lot of trouble to not say anything mean.
It is in your nature, you won't be able to change. You're doomed to betray the trust of all of those closest to you...
Original post by TrashLeisure
Maybe your bitching about your friends to other people as a way of bonding, almost like a mutual interest (most people love a good bitch now and then). If you consciously try and stop yourself from doing this and find other ways of being interesting to talk to, you'll eventually get over it. The fact that you recognise this behaviour and want to change probably means you're already on your way to resolving the problem.


This.

Also, if it is really bothers you maybe keep a diary and write all the things you want to say in there. Obviously don't let anyone see it EVER, but the good thing is also you can go back over what you wrote, what you could have said, and see if you still feel that way.

also before you talk about someone, ask "would I defend what I said to this person's face? If they asked me for the exact words?" Either you'll become less of a bitcher or you'll just become a really honest person. Both are good. Good luck.
Reply 19
Original post by lying_cake
Can I just say most of the people who say it's easy to stop being a bitch probably do it themselves sub constiously. I still have a lot of trouble to not say anything mean.


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