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He keeps letting me down!! What should i do??

I've been meeting this guy for a few weeks, everything was amazing and we get on great and everything. Anyway this past week i've not seen him once, he was supposed to come mine on sunday but he didnt cos he told me he was ill on the tuesday, but he didnt ring or anything to tell me he werent coming. Then i've spoke to him a few times on facebook over the week and yesturday was speaking and he was like yeh i am definately coming yours tomorrow babe i miss you so much.

Anyway he was meant to be here at 1 and its nearly 3 now!!

I seriously cant take being let down anymore cos it hurts!! I really do like him and we've both said we both wanna be more than friends but i dunno what to do. I told him that if he wasnt gonna come to tell me straight cos i'd arrange to go out with my friends.

Do you think i should tell him we should leave things and just be friends? :s-smilie:

Reply 1

Kevin J

15

Give him the elbow, like's too short and you're too young.

Reply 2

CloudStrife

8

Sounds like he isn't that keen. I would probably say let's just stay friends before you get hurt anymore.

Reply 3

Codeine Addict

8

put out once, that will get him more intrested.

Reply 4

tom_tom_tom

18

To start with he may have a good reason to be late, even though given it is inconsiderate not to let you know. Tell him what you have said here ask him what is going on, but to be honest if this is the start of the relationship then i dont think it is going to get much better down the line, as your most keen at the start of a relationship, i think if he dosent make a markable change then moving on is the best bet :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Im kind of in the same situation at the minute...Its soo annoying and really does hurt. We both know we have something and want to be together. Just he never makes the effort, Or he always suggests meeting up, going out etc. But always lets me down and everything always on his terms. Its no good, and wont ever change i dont think so im leaving it.

Maybe you should do the same, it could onl,y get worse. Also if hes that keen he'll realise what hes post and try and prove himself. :rolleyes:

Just my opinion though.

Reply 6

FallenPetal

15

You can keep going out with him keep having him let you down, keep feeling dissapointed etc etc

or you can dump his sorry ass and find someone who deserves your time. It might suck now but months down the line when you have a new guy who does treat you right you will ask "why did I ever date that loser?"

Reply 7

hermy

when he turns up you're not there...you're out wit your friends don't wait around for him...its like he likes keeping you waiting and he's getting a kick out of it!

Reply 8

*crazy chick*

OP

1

Yeh i really dont know what he's playing at! :s-smilie:

I'm gonna message him on facebook tonight, saying i wanna leave things cos i cant deal with it anymore. I really thought he was different :frown:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

*crazy chick*

Yeh i really dont know what he's playing at! :s-smilie:

I'm gonna message him on facebook tonight, saying i wanna leave things cos i cant deal with it anymore. I really thought he was different :frown:

It might be for the best to tell him. Make him realise you arn't going to be messed about. I really need to do this aswell lol.

Reply 10

*crazy chick*

OP

1

Anonymous

It might be for the best to tell him. Make him realise you arn't going to be messed about. I really need to do this aswell lol.

Yeh i'm gonna tell him, i'm not gonna be messed about anymore.

I've got some of his stuff and he's got some of mine....do you think i'm better off calling him today or waiting a couple of days?

Reply 11

Papo1489

17

let him down like a hot air balloon

Reply 12

BellaMemoria

Has he let you down more than this.. or is just not coming round cos he said he was ill, and he's late today? Doesn't seem like a huge let down really, he should definitely let you know he's gonna be late unless somethings come up, and he should have told you when he was ill that he wasn't going to come, but it is really worth ending things already because of that? So i'm assuming it's worse than these two incidents?

Reply 13

*crazy chick*

OP

1

BellaMemoria

Has he let you down more than this.. or is just not coming round cos he said he was ill, and he's late today? Doesn't seem like a huge let down really, he should definitely let you know he's gonna be late unless somethings come up, and he should have told you when he was ill that he wasn't going to come, but it is really worth ending things already because of that? So i'm assuming it's worse than these two incidents?

Yeh the first time was sunday which was when he was meant to come, but he told me on the tuesday he was ill which i did believe and everything but still thought he could of phoned me.

Then on wednesday he said he would phone me at 9 on my home phone, i came home from my friends early so i could speak to him but he never phoned. Thursday he messaged me on facebook saying sorry for not phoning i was just busy all day and when i got home i was just soo tired. So i said its ok.

Then Thursday he was being quiet, i was like whats up with you and he was just like i'm feeling abit fed up atm. So i said to him leave tomorrow if you want if your not feeling up to it, but he said he would definately be coming and he wasnt gonna let this come between us.

So he's now nearly 3 hours late, he has my number and not even bothered calling!! I really wanna phone him up and ask him wtf is going on!

Reply 14

alenax

14

Don't put up with it, honestly, you'll feel much better not taking his ******** and he'll respect you more for not putting up with it. You might like him a lot now but there's always better people out there. Tell him you don't think anything can happen between you two because he's unreliable and you don't think he's in the right place for dating right now, get dressed up and go out for dinner/drinks with your girl mates. It'll make you feel much better!

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

*crazy chick*

Yeh i'm gonna tell him, i'm not gonna be messed about anymore.

I've got some of his stuff and he's got some of mine....do you think i'm better off calling him today or waiting a couple of days?

Do it sooner rather than later then u can move on a do your own thing. He needs to know. Just say when ever your want come round and collect your stuff. He'll know your being serious then lol. :yep:

Does he have exams?

*crazy chick*

Yeh the first time was sunday which was when he was meant to come, but he told me on the tuesday he was ill which i did believe and everything but still thought he could of phoned me.

Then on wednesday he said he would phone me at 9 on my home phone, i came home from my friends early so i could speak to him but he never phoned. Thursday he messaged me on facebook saying sorry for not phoning i was just busy all day and when i got home i was just soo tired. So i said its ok.

Then Thursday he was being quiet, i was like whats up with you and he was just like i'm feeling abit fed up atm. So i said to him leave tomorrow if you want if your not feeling up to it, but he said he would definately be coming and he wasnt gonna let this come between us.

So he's now nearly 3 hours late, he has my number and not even bothered calling!! I really wanna phone him up and ask him wtf is going on!

Hmm i see, well that would certainly get me down too, not just the not turning up but not having the decency to let you know. And it's happening so early on in this relationship which doesn't look great for a future unless he changes his ways a bit..

Before doing anything major though, i'd tell him exactly how you feel, that it hurts when it seems like he's not bothering- because i know alot of people don't see that things like this can really hurt someone. It's not fair on you having to put up with it, and you deserve better.

Reply 18

mattydedon

1

Well, you have been through all this, you might as well ask what is he actually doing,

get the fella to actually get his head right on the shoulder

Reply 19

*crazy chick*

OP

1

I rung him earlier, he said he's feeling down atm and that he's sorry. Which i do understand and he does have his reasons but thats why i said to him yesturday dont come round tomorrow if your not feeling up to it, but tell me now so i wont arrange to go out. So he says hes defo coming but he dont and dont even call.

So then we chatted for a bit about just stuff, then we got on to us. He said that he does really like me and he has feelings for me but he has to sort his issues out first. He said he doesnt want to get hurt again aswell (he was in a 5 year relationship and she cheated).

So i just said to him well i am here for you as a friend cos we are close and he said we wll just leave it for now and maybe in the future it will turn into something. But i move away to uni in sept anyway so maybe its best i just leave it.

Anyway i'm now going out tonight with my girlies, he said he's going out with his mates tonight now and said he will see me in the club. I doubt he comes but oh well. I feel abit better now :smile:

He keeps letting me down!! What should i do??

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