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Forming a relationship on the net
I got my own computer Christmas 2003, in January 2004 i got this guys addy on MSN from Irvine. He's in the same year at school and we got on really well. Anyways, we talk a lot and have become really close friends as far as the internet goes. But we've ALWAYS just been friends, which is weird for me since i've never really talked to a guy on the internet as "just a friend" but it's always been that way just naturally. He is nice looking and he's what you would call "my type". We've always said we will meet up in Glasgow one day but again just as friends. The thing is though...i've started to like him as more than a friend. But is it weird to form a really close friendship with someone over the internet? And if it isn't would it be weird if i told him that i liked him as more than that? I'm quite confused over this.
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need_money
I got my own computer Christmas 2003, in January 2004 i got this guys addy on MSN from Irvine. He's in the same year at school and we got on really well. Anyways, we talk a lot and have become really close friends as far as the internet goes. But we've ALWAYS just been friends, which is weird for me since i've never really talked to a guy on the internet as "just a friend" but it's always been that way just naturally. He is nice looking and he's what you would call "my type". We've always said we will meet up in Glasgow one day but again just as friends. The thing is though...i've started to like him as more than a friend. But is it weird to form a really close friendship with someone over the internet? And if it isn't would it be weird if i told him that i liked him as more than that? I'm quite confused over this.
I don't think its weird, its just a taboo because of the negative publicity regarding paedophiles pretending to be someone else. I often find that people are more open on the internet. Whether that be on a forum or on instant messenger. Not sure ive really answered your queston there
You shouldn't form the relationship online in my opinion. Things shouldn't get serious while you're chatting online. Meet up if you like this person and only then, you can decide about how you feel. It's just not right to make everything weird and strange before you've even met up.
you can often get to know a person quite well from online as people are usually a lot more open. probably learning a lot about the person you wouldnt have found out otherwise. (if they're honest in the first place that is)
in my experience thats great and valuable but you dont really know a person until you've met them and spend time in their presence. theres a lot about a person you can learn just from how they look, speak, act, and move in the flesh.
its good to make friends online who you probably wouldnt have ever met otherwise, but from experience its not a good idea to go into meetings with other feelings beforehand. for example, a lot of people here think im quite nice, a lot think im a total dick. if they met me they might change their mind for better or worse!
my advice would be to meet him if you know hes been truthful and isnt some paedophile actor, but dont rush in.
in my experience thats great and valuable but you dont really know a person until you've met them and spend time in their presence. theres a lot about a person you can learn just from how they look, speak, act, and move in the flesh.
its good to make friends online who you probably wouldnt have ever met otherwise, but from experience its not a good idea to go into meetings with other feelings beforehand. for example, a lot of people here think im quite nice, a lot think im a total dick. if they met me they might change their mind for better or worse!
my advice would be to meet him if you know hes been truthful and isnt some paedophile actor, but dont rush in.
I think there are no hard and fast rules for these kind of relationships. Like the person above mentioned, his friend had a successful relationship (but I haven't heard many more).
It's easy to get lost in the virtual world, because on the internet, people can be whoever they want to be - they can show you only the good bits about themselves. That's not a good basis for a relationship. You'll miss out on bits like looking into their eyes, physical contact etc.
But building up a good friendship is fine. Just try to control the romance, and keep level-headed. xoxo
It's easy to get lost in the virtual world, because on the internet, people can be whoever they want to be - they can show you only the good bits about themselves. That's not a good basis for a relationship. You'll miss out on bits like looking into their eyes, physical contact etc.
But building up a good friendship is fine. Just try to control the romance, and keep level-headed. xoxo
Thanks for the advice. I know for a fact that he's not some paedophile so there's nothing to worry about there lol, i've seen him on webcam and i talk to some of his friends and his big brother and his cousin as well. But you're right. I'll meet with him like we planned, as friends and see what happens from there.
I know for a fact that he's not some paedophile so there's nothing to worry about there lol, i've seen him on webcam and i talk to some of his friends and his big brother and his cousin as well. But you're right. I'll meet with him like we planned, as friends and see what happens from there. 
Good luck to you! I hope things turn out well and that your meeting is enjoyable.
I hope things turn out well and that your meeting is enjoyable.
Meeting as friends is the best idea. That way it doesn't put any pressure on either of you to be attracted to each other. If sparks fly when you meet, then you'll know that what you feel for him is more than just friendship.
Of course not... its only weird if you are one of those people who ONLY seem to meet people via the internet, finding someone who is really lovely is just a credit to technology.
I think meeting someone off the internet is a bit weird, less so if they are local, but very much so if they live miles away. i dunno why, i just find it a bit creepy.
susiemakemeblue
Meeting as friends is the best idea. That way it doesn't put any pressure on either of you to be attracted to each other. If sparks fly when you meet, then you'll know that what you feel for him is more than just friendship.
Agreeing with that
its probably the best thing to do. But they can work if you want them too even if you are miles and miles apart. Some people dont get it or how it works, but there are people out there who are married but dont love each yet they stay together, people dont get that either!does that even make the slightest sense? probs not
foolfarian
I think meeting someone off the internet is a bit weird, less so if they are local, but very much so if they live miles away. i dunno why, i just find it a bit creepy.
This guy lives 40 miles away. But we're both always in Glasgow which is sort of in between us (although its closer to me than him) so thats why we were just going to meet there. Is that weird?
I met one of my girlfriends through a message board. It didn't work out, but she's the best friend I've ever had and we still chat every night. The anonymity inherent in the internet can be worrying, but I'm still glad I took the chance and I always will be.
need_money
I got my own computer Christmas 2003, in January 2004 i got this guys addy on MSN from Irvine. He's in the same year at school and we got on really well. Anyways, we talk a lot and have become really close friends as far as the internet goes. But we've ALWAYS just been friends, which is weird for me since i've never really talked to a guy on the internet as "just a friend" but it's always been that way just naturally. He is nice looking and he's what you would call "my type". We've always said we will meet up in Glasgow one day but again just as friends. The thing is though...i've started to like him as more than a friend. But is it weird to form a really close friendship with someone over the internet? And if it isn't would it be weird if i told him that i liked him as more than that? I'm quite confused over this.
So you don't really wuv me after all!?
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