Angry and upset

My boyfriend is doing ten tors training and he is away for a few nights. anyway there is this guy in his team who fancies me, last night said to my boyfriend that i offerd to shag him :eek:

and I DID NOT do such a thing :frown:

about 10:30 last my boyfriend phoned me really worried asking me if it was true or not he said that he did not belive the other guy but im not so sure do you guys think does he belive him or me? :frown:

i even cried myself to sleep last night worrying about loosing my bf :frown:

Reply 1

username18215

0

10

If you have done nothing wrong then there is nothing to concern yourself with.

If he feels insecure then reassure him, but do not let some cretin disrupt or influence your relationship.

:smile:

Reply 2

BlackHawk

17

Ten Tors?

He in Cadets?

If he cares about you then he won't believe his mate. Can you confront the person who said this?

Reply 3

Devil Bunny

OP

yeah hes in air cadets :smile:

and yes i can confront the person who said this! thing is i dont know what to say.

Reply 4

BlackHawk

17

Cool, I'm starting as an adult instructor with them :smile:

Either phone or talk to him, just go up and say that you don't appreciate him saying untrue things about you, especially to your boyfriend who you care about. If he has anything to say about you he can at least have the guts to say it to your face.

To be honest he just sounds jealous that his mate has a girlfriend in the first place.

Reply 5

juice

Dragoness

My boyfriend is doing ten tors training and he is away for a few nights. anyway there is this guy in his team who fancies me, last night said to my boyfriend that i offerd to shag him :eek:

and I DID NOT do such a thing :frown:

about 10:30 last my boyfriend phoned me really worried asking me if it was true or not he said that he did not belive the other guy but im not so sure do you guys think does he belive him or me? :frown:

i even cried myself to sleep last night worrying about loosing my bf :frown:

Ah, poor you! I've been in a similar position myself before. If you are totally innocent then it will be obvious to your boyfriend, as you can tell if people lie about these things. Explain calmly that the bloke fancies you, but you didn't mention it as it was never an issueand you didn't want to make your bf feel bad. The other bloke has clearly taken your rejection as an opportunity to be an assehole and tell your bf this lie in an attempt to rock the boat. How crazy is that? Like you're gonna split up with your bf and seek comfort in this bastard's arms?!!

I'm sure you'll be ok, just reassure your bf and think about confronting the bloke, particularly if your bf is there as it will help to proove to him that you are genuinely pissed off about this lie.

Good luck!

Reply 6

BlackHawk

17

No, my advice is not to take the advice of the person above me.

First of all the original poster didn't state if he boyfriend knew at all, second why say that she was keeping something from him in the first place when she is trying to prove she is innocent in the matter. A young guy will only think "why didn't she tell me" or "what else is she not telling me"

Reply 7

juice

lessthanthree

You know what'd be cool?

If you confronted the bloke IN FRONT of your boyfriend. That'd show them both that you won't tolerate this kind of crap.

For one, it'd put your boyfriend's mind at rest, whilst you humiliate the other guy into apology [maybe :\].

Have a chat with your boyfriend and explain that the other guy has feelings for you but you've done nothing to reciprocate - and let the other guy know that he has no right to spread lies about you just because he's got some twisted fantasy that your boyfriend will break up with you and he can console you all the way to the bedroom.

Let him know how pathetic it is to play mind-games with people for personal gain - and also let him know that he's kidding himself if he has underestimated the trust in your relationship, and also assumed that you'd lower yourself to sleep with him :p:

Too right! That's good advice. I think we're on the same wave length here

Reply 8

juice

BlackHawk

No, my advice is not to take the advice of the person above me.

First of all the original poster didn't state if he boyfriend knew at all, second why say that she was keeping something from him in the first place when she is trying to prove she is innocent in the matter. A young guy will only think "why didn't she tell me" or "what else is she not telling me"

I see what you're saying, but I don't think the boyfriend will think that, he might just appreciate an explanation as to why this is the first he's heard of it all. She should just be entirely honest, and if if that's the reason why she didn't mention it before then she should say so and apologise that it has actually blown up in her face. This happened to me, and my bf was comforted that I was trying to protect his feelings due to the awkwardness of him being mates with the bloke trying it on. He also was pleased that I admitted I had learnt the lesson to always be honest and tell him when stuff like this happens.

Do what's right for you though

Reply 9

Devil Bunny

OP

Hiya, thanks for all your help :cool:

you are all great!

well i phoned my boyfriend and told himwhat I was going to do, when he gets back im going to go up to that S**t stirer and well lets put it in a nice way im gonna give him a piece of my mind :p:

that will sort him out LOL anyway thanks again!!

p.s Im pretty sure my realationship is safe for now :smile:

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