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one for the ladies

i usually post here about guys thoughts etc. I was thinking though, be interesting to see how womens minds work.

Girls

If you like a guy and get his details, how long do you wait before contacting him?

I always find it's always tricky finding the balance between showing interest and not looking needy - girls tell me - is it the same for you?

Mr J

Reply 1

at least lara

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Mr J

i usually post here about guys thoughts etc. I was thinking though, be interesting to see how womens minds work.

Girls

If you like a guy and get his details, how long do you wait before contacting him?

I always find it's always tricky finding the balance between showing interest and not looking needy - girls tell me - is it the same for you?

Mr J

a day at least. i guess if i got it friday noght i'd call him sunday afternoon.

Reply 2

covered farm wagon

11

Whenever I feel like it. Usually, whenever I have something to say. Phone calls for the sake of it are usually awkward when you don't know someone very well.

Reply 3

puppy

Mr J

i usually post here about guys thoughts etc. I was thinking though, be interesting to see how womens minds work.

Girls

If you like a guy and get his details, how long do you wait before contacting him?

I always find it's always tricky finding the balance between showing interest and not looking needy - girls tell me - is it the same for you?

Mr J

When I want to, usually the next day. If you wana call them at all it means you like them, if you like them why would you **** about decided what's a suitable time to call someone? No wonder so many relationships go wrong if people mess about with mind games right from the start.

Reply 4

queenselphie

I'd hope he got in contact first. If he didnt (and they usually do. I think I meet guys who dont care about looking cool, which is good.) I'd probably wait two days then get in contact with him, unless either of us had said we'd get in contact quicker than that, like "do you want to go to the movies tommorrow night? ring me and let me know"... then I'd just work within the set time frame.

Reply 5

SamTheMan

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xbellax

a day at least. i guess if i got it friday noght i'd call him sunday afternoon.

Swingers says it all: "Two days is like industry standard"

Reply 6

magiccarpet

2

there's the three day rule.
personally if a guy exchanges numbers with me, i wait for him to call me. he's the man, he should make the moves

Reply 7

Agha Zain

I usually wait for a day or two before calling. I dont tend to be in a hurry when it comes to calling.

Zain

Reply 8

magiccarpet

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M@255

That's completely stupid! I can never comprehend people's opinions on these issues. It's like when men are always expected to buy drinks for women, just because they're men. It's not fair I'm afraid.

well it doepends on the girl and what kind of vibes you get from her. guys who meet me know im quiet and shy so not going to make the moves- they tend to be the protective types so they always call me.
if a girl ays 'ok i'll call u' then she will call.

i did meet a shy guy who expected me to make the moves but i was too shy and didnt wana seem a ho, so i didnt call him. he called me but then the next day cancelled our date.

ok what i suggest, is if the girl has given u her number, wait 3 dys then call her and ask her out. if she wana then she ll say yes. if she don wana, she'll say im busy.if she hasnt given u her number and isnt calling, she isnt interested.

as for expecting guys to pay on dates, yes i do. this is because the amount of money us girls spend on looking good is equal to the cost of a date. guys just gel their hair, put on a nice shirt, soap/shave then leave.

us girls need to paint our nails, lipstick eyeshadow,foundation,concealer, blusher, perfumes,mascara,eyeliner,eyebrow pencil,then there's which shoes to wear, which outfit, which skirt etc etc. i'd say the value of my makeup and toiletries comes to over £50, if you include my coloured contact lenses, over £100. so yes. if a guy thinks i look good, he should pay his half
saying this, i lov to buy my bf gifts and take him out cos he is so lovely :wink:

Reply 9

magiccarpet

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yes but you'd agree with me cos you date guys as well. and as u both are aguys you both should pay

Reply 10

Nikki J S

Call me old fashioned, but I prefer the guy to get in touch, and probably wouldn't get in touch with him first. :frown:

Reply 11

onlylittleme

M@255

Sorry but I still disagree! You can't expect men to pay for everything on a date! That's so unfair! You should go halves on a meal. I'm not a tight arse, btw, when I ever go on dates I always like to pay and always insist on it...but you can't expect men to pay because women apparently spend more on looking aesthetically pleasing! I'm a guy and I spend a lot of money on myself, especially if I have a date. I wear make up, do my nails etc - its not just women who spend money on themselves.

But as a girl it feels as if we cant win. With my last boyfriend hed always offer to pay for everything and I'd always refuse. But hed either insist on paying, sometimes physically stopping me lol, or get really offended and think that I didnt like him. But then again he was REALLY insecure.

Reply 12

helen**

no its always better for the guy to get in touch. i wouldn't think a guy was desperate if he called me the next day, i'd prob b put off tbh if he waited like a week as i like impulsive guys who dnt worry bout how they come accross... i prob wudnt get in touch first.

Reply 13

magiccarpet

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helen**

no its always better for the guy to get in touch. i wouldn't think a guy was desperate if he called me the next day, i'd prob b put off tbh if he waited like a week as i like impulsive guys who dnt worry bout how they come accross... i prob wudnt get in touch first.

yea i'd like my guy to call me the very next day if we'd just met in a pub/clud to show he cared to get to know me. theres no way id think it was desperate

Reply 14

Mr J

OP

What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.

I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!

What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.

Mr J

Reply 15

mangomaz

14

no guys ever give me their numbers so theres that problem sorted :rolleyes:

Reply 16

magiccarpet

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Mr J

What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.

I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!

What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.

Mr J

hmm perhaps she hasnt checked her emails!!! when u see her say hiya how u been etc etc then ask hey, did u get my email?' if she says 'yes, XYZblahblahbalh, the fact she hasnt called u means she isnt interested. if she says no, then you can ask her out.

personally i dont think she has checked them, otherwise she'd be weirdly avoiding u

Reply 17

frost105

14

Mr J

i usually post here about guys thoughts etc. I was thinking though, be interesting to see how womens minds work.

Girls

If you like a guy and get his details, how long do you wait before contacting him?

I always find it's always tricky finding the balance between showing interest and not looking needy - girls tell me - is it the same for you?

Mr J

Ah the 3 day rule! My best mate met a guy and I was like wait for him to contact you and I bet its in 3 days....sure enough 3 days later he called!