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Cutting self off from 'friends'

Since starting at college, I've found I could quite easily cut myself off my friends from school - I can't exactly change my house number but I can avoid talking to them. I can delete/block their number on my mobile, delete texts, not answer calls...I can delete emails...It's now so easy to just cut myself off.

And it's been a bit weird lately - I've actually WANTED to do just that. Cut myself off and just live my life. I don't know if it's because I may have matured or I'm out of that school now and I need my own life...

*shrugs*

It's quite scary to think that these people you've known for years could be cut off within an instant.

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Reply 1

magiccarpet

yea i do that too, since coming uni, i didnt talk with my school frinds hardly at all.dont worry bout it,and if they say anything, just say u r very busy at college

Reply 2

Debussy

i only speak to two of my friends from before uni... it just happens..

Reply 3

Davie_Moyes

Im getting a new phone number and e-mail before I go to Uni.

Want to cut myself off from a number of losers from school :biggrin:

Reply 4

queenselphie

I think it happens to everyone. You see someones number flash up on the screen and realise you dont have anything to talk to them about anymore. Just please bear in mind how you would feel if someone did this to you, and approach it senstively if you decide to do it.

Reply 5

Spider

You've hit the nail on the head. It may be hard if you're in a situation where you see each other a lot, but if there's been a big change(new college, university, new town), it's surprisingly easy to fall out of touch completely!

Reply 6

Apricot Fairy

I lost touch with most of my school friends when I went to college, and now I'm on a gap year I don't talk to too many people either. But I do have some good friends from school and college who will be there for life. Which is nice. :smile:

It's not cool to forget who you grew up with.

Reply 7

magiccarpet

i lov my bf and he's going back to hk forever. im scared he'll cut me off cos he'll have a new fon no, new address etc and even tho we wont meet again i want to stay in touch. any ideas?

Reply 8

Adarah

wow! I thought I was the only one who felt a bit like that! :-O
I mean I am still in contact with my best friends, but not as much as I would have thought.

Reply 9

Scooba

Hey, New to the Thread, but if u want advice i say, hold on to everyone you can, be friends with everyone possible, build a huge network of aquaintences, you never know who or what they'll turn out to be

Reply 10

darkknightuk

What will you do when you're home for summers?

Reply 11

No Future

I'm still at school and I find it easy to cut myself off...

Reply 12

lostinfantasies

Right now, I feel as if it doesn't matter that I may not be friends with them - which may say a lot about me, or them.

It's not imperative that I try and keep these friendships going - I have a new life now, and I don't want to keep going back to my "old" one.

Reply 13

treff

It's normal for friends to drift apart when they move on to new stages in their lives. When people grow, sometimes they just grow apart, literally.

:smile:

Reply 14

spider from mars

To be brutally honest Lost I'd guess that you don't care enough about them to keep the friendships going so I wouldn't bother. Besides if one of my friends ever said "I have a new life now" to me I would immediately wonder why I was friends with them anyway.

Reply 15

Ericz

Friends come and go.. it's part and parcel of life.

My advice is, keep friends who are trustworthy.. those who aren't, just treat them as mere acquaintances.

It's always good to know more people + it's good practice for the adult world too ^^ being sociable hehe..

Another advice would be try to adapt to a new environment, make new friends. It's not good being alone all the time. Pretty freaky I would say.

Reply 16

lostinfantasies

I've made friends at college - quite a few, and I'm happier than I've ever been. It's like...I can feel my life moving forward and it's...it's great.

Me and the friends in question have been through a lot - we've all defected to the side of someone and then to someone else each time there's been a fight. We're girls - we bitch. It's threatened the engagement of one friend and the health of another (one girl has epilepsy - at the time of GCSE exams she was under stress and our "group" had had a big fight).

It's been too much hassle and it's just...now I'm here at college, while they're at the school's sixthform. I don't HAVE to see them, to speak to them. I haven't been involved in that much bitchiness, and I haven't had to take sides or whatever or to try and sort this pair out, that pair out.

Reply 17

naivesincerity

Scooba

Which translates as: Spread yourself thinly in a bunch of superficial relationships in case you get to use somebody for your own gain

*cackles*.

I've found that true friends (of which there are never many) will always somehow stay in touch and even if you don't speak for an age when you do conversation will flow. When I left High School a while back I left (almost) everyone behind as at the time I felt it was the right thing to do and to this day I still think I made the right decision.
Yeah in High School its nice to have mates to pass the time with and have a laugh but at the end of the day alot of the time thats all it is really they aren't people who'll stand by you.