What should I do?

What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.

I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!

What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.

Mr J

Reply 1

BlackHawk

17

well to be honest you aren't exactly showing any signs that you like her. Look at it from her point of view.

She gives you her email, you ask her to call

You see her twice and avoid talking to her

To be honest if that was me I would think the guy wasn't interested! Guys should always make the first move, but then I'm quite traditional. Drop her an email, saying that she looked like she was having a good time and just generally chat or the next time you go up to her ask for her number and call her!

Reply 2

Adarah

16

Mr J

What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.

I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!

What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.

Mr J

whatever you do don't try and chat her up while you're drunk.
I used to work behind a bar too, you get a lot of unwanted attention. Just try and talk to her again, if the bar/club is very busy might be a bit hard and you'd have to wait until nearlly closing time when things get a bit quieter - hey and if you talk to her then and you don't sound drunk you'll get bit plus points from her. there is nothing worse than dealing with drunks at the bar all the time who keep trying to get away with not paying, or paying to little or generally being a pain in the arse.
well, send her another mail once you've chatted to her again.

Reply 3

BlackHawk

17

Adarah

there is nothing worse than dealing with drunks at the bar all the time who keep trying to get away with not paying, or paying to little or generally being a pain in the arse.

:dito:

Reply 4

Apricot Fairy

16

Go and talk to her again, and ask her for her number. Then call or text her a few days later. You'll soon know if she's interested.

Reply 5

username18215

0

10

Get her number, e-mails are easier to ignore than phone calls.

Reply 6

Mr J

OP

ai - but to get her no. I need to chat to her again. If I do that I have to bring up the email. Aghhhhhhhhhhhh ....lol

I think it's going to have to be Spontaneous improvisation as usual. Just hope she's not embarassed.

Mr J

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