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deary me...

hey, I'm just feeling really down and have been for a while, it sounds very...lame. I used to be really good friends with this guy, we ended up going out and everything was good except i got pissed off because it began to feel like he spent more time with me before we were going out....anyway, he broke up with me a few weeks ago because he 'doesnt really want a relationship' (basically he wasn't willing to make sacrifices/changes that you have to make when not single) I know that he has been really harsh but i still want to be with him...we don't really speak to each other now either :frown: i don't know what to do
Well, i'm not entirely sure he has been harsh- he just may not be ready for a relationship. You can't blame him for deciding to break up with you, as long as he did so in an open, honest manner. It's not a nice feeling, I know, but it would be worse for him to stay with you if he felt that way. If you were good friends before the best thing you can do is try and build that back up again, but it'll take time and patience on your part. Good luck with him!
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Well, i'm not entirely sure he has been harsh- he just may not be ready for a relationship. You can't blame him for deciding to break up with you, as long as he did so in an open, honest manner. It's not a nice feeling, I know, but it would be worse for him to stay with you if he felt that way. If you were good friends before the best thing you can do is try and build that back up again, but it'll take time and patience on your part. Good luck with him!


thanks, i know that he probably wasn't ready for a relationship...just the way it ended really hurt..i've been trying to be friends again but sometimes when i ask him something or try to have a normal conversation, he looks at me like im stupid. other times he's nice...it's really hard...
Yeah, he's probably a bit confused and scared he'll give you the wrong idea and hurt you even more? I'm sure he cares about you a lot, but it might be a little bit soon. I reckon you should take it slowly and show him you're still there for him in the non-relationship sense.