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An Update for those that helped me before.
Original Situation Below:
Well she served me at the bar and I apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable at all. She said she didn't feel uncomftable and said she hadn't read her mail but promised to within a few days.
Thing is I'm sure she's checked it!!! Anyhow, no way of knowing and god knows whats going on in her head. Lots of smiles etc, but no response!
Aghh!!!!!!
Mr J
Originally Posted by Mr J
What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.
I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!
What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.
Mr J
Well she served me at the bar and I apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable at all. She said she didn't feel uncomftable and said she hadn't read her mail but promised to within a few days.
Thing is I'm sure she's checked it!!! Anyhow, no way of knowing and god knows whats going on in her head. Lots of smiles etc, but no response!
Aghh!!!!!!
Mr J
Originally Posted by Mr J
What i did with this girl was ask her for her email address. She was working behind a bar and didn't really get a whole lot of time to chat with her (don't have her no. either ...didn't ask) - but she seemed cool and she gave me it.
I mailed her with my no. and asked her to call me if she faniced a coffee sometime. Been about 5 days since and nothing...lol. I have seen her twice since mind. Once when I bumed into her in another bar with a girl mate -but didn't chat to her. And last night, when she was working. She smiled and stuff and didn't appear to be avoiding me at all, but I bottled it when she was near (what a wuss - usually I'm OK at chatting, but no, I bottled it) - and I think she may have been happy to have a quick chat too!
What should I do? Too many emails makes me look weird and desperate! And don't really want to make her uncomfortable either.
Mr J
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Reply 2
Mr J
OP
lol no!
Mind you, no-one really seemed to know what was happening, so just went with the flow. Was reasonably cool, not pushy at all, just surprised she hadn't read her email (or cliamed not to have read it!).
Anyhow, better to try and fail than not try at all ...you never know, I may not have failed! God knows?
Mind you, no-one really seemed to know what was happening, so just went with the flow. Was reasonably cool, not pushy at all, just surprised she hadn't read her email (or cliamed not to have read it!).
Anyhow, better to try and fail than not try at all ...you never know, I may not have failed! God knows?
Reply 3
I'll tell you where you're going wrong (again): it's email.
Reply 4
You should have got the number, not the e-mail.
Get the damn number!
Get the damn number!
Reply 5
Mr J
OP
yeah, yeah I know!!! But at the time I was trying to be different! Also, I got two email addresses in 2 days, so I can't really go back and give her back the email address and demand the number now can I!!!!
I'm working from the position I'd already got myself into!
I'm working from the position I'd already got myself into!
Reply 6
Mr J
yeah, yeah I know!!! But at the time I was trying to be different! Also, I got two email addresses in 2 days, so I can't really go back and give her back the email address and demand the number now can I!!!!
I'm working from the position I'd already got myself into!
I'm working from the position I'd already got myself into!
In other words, your making it unnecessarily harder for yourself.
Two e-mail addresses from the same person? Or from different people?
Reply 7
Mr J
OP
of which I take the point, but it doesn't really help the situation here!
No problem asking girls for emails / nos. at all, I just particularly like this one. She's grown on me as I like what I can't have and up to now, I can't have her!!
No problem asking girls for emails / nos. at all, I just particularly like this one. She's grown on me as I like what I can't have and up to now, I can't have her!!
Reply 8
Mr J
of which I take the point, but it doesn't really help the situation here!
No problem asking girls for emails / nos. at all, I just particularly like this one. She's grown on me as I like what I can't have and up to now, I can't have her!!
No problem asking girls for emails / nos. at all, I just particularly like this one. She's grown on me as I like what I can't have and up to now, I can't have her!!
She told you that she hasn't checked her e-mail yet, and it has been 5 days?
Hmm, it's not looking too good to be honest (unless she is one of those people who check e-mail like once a month).
Reply 9
Mr J
OP
...and 2 emails for 2 different girls.
Reply 10
Mr J
OP
agreed. that's what threw me. I guessed she'd have looked at her mail by now. I mean if you gave out ur mail, then you'd check your inbox! Threw me as it'd be far easier to say, sorry not interested or I have a guy,etc. And I was either expecting - Nothing or something, not the 'haven't checked my mails yet' which is neither one nor the other.
Typical bloody woman!
Typical bloody woman!
Reply 12
attractive girls cant work email. Thats why they need geek bf to work it for them. Hence you get computer geeks with hot gfs, sometimes
Reply 13
Mr J
OP
Lol. THing is I'm not so sure. I've been blown out by enough girls to know when they're plain not interested and pulled enough to know when they are. Girls who aren't interested, tend not to go near you and not make eye contact and smile and say hi, if they really don't want to know.
Thing is she does and while that doesn't necessarily mean that much, if she knows I've asked her out it may do! Only she really knows and unfortunately, I can only try and sit it out I spose. Thing is I like to flirt and a little worried about flirting too much with someone else if it goes down the wrong way!
Thing is she does and while that doesn't necessarily mean that much, if she knows I've asked her out it may do! Only she really knows and unfortunately, I can only try and sit it out I spose. Thing is I like to flirt and a little worried about flirting too much with someone else if it goes down the wrong way!
Reply 14
she could be a) really polite
b) really shy/inexperienced
c) feeling uncomfortable as she doesn't want to lose customers to the bar but doesnt fancy u
who knows, go for broke, grab her a**
- seriously, dont do that
b) really shy/inexperienced
c) feeling uncomfortable as she doesn't want to lose customers to the bar but doesnt fancy u
who knows, go for broke, grab her a**
- seriously, dont do that
metta
she could be a) really polite
b) really shy/inexperienced
c) feeling uncomfortable as she doesn't want to lose customers to the bar but doesnt fancy u
who knows, go for broke, grab her a**
- seriously, dont do that
b) really shy/inexperienced
c) feeling uncomfortable as she doesn't want to lose customers to the bar but doesnt fancy u
who knows, go for broke, grab her a**
- seriously, dont do that
a guy grabbed my ass once. I turned around and grabbed him somewhere not too gently and reminded him where his manners should be.
Reply 16
Why would anyone ask a girl for her email address rather than her number.
Get some BALLS!!!
Its as bad as those muppets who text rather than call a girl.
I am NOT a confident guy, but i'm telling u its the no.1 tactic to call a girl rather than text.
Am i right ladies..?
Get some BALLS!!!
Its as bad as those muppets who text rather than call a girl.
I am NOT a confident guy, but i'm telling u its the no.1 tactic to call a girl rather than text.
Am i right ladies..?
Reply 18
My email addresses are way to long. I would have offered my number instead. 
Reply 19
Mr J
OP
nah - no reply - not expecting one now either ...lol!
Not to worry, she works at my local and I'll chat to her if the stuation arises and see if anything happens. The one good thing about not being full on (or even remotely full on) is that I can still flirt with her no probs.
If nothing happens, well then she has a couple of nice colleagues!
Mr J
Not to worry, she works at my local and I'll chat to her if the stuation arises and see if anything happens. The one good thing about not being full on (or even remotely full on) is that I can still flirt with her no probs.
If nothing happens, well then she has a couple of nice colleagues!
Mr J
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