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No alcohol, no sex, no drugs, no smoking - no fun with fellow students?

Hi!

I'm worried about this stuff for some time now... due to former experiences I now do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, do not take drugs and I'm not interested in having sex with someone outside a relationship or even marriage. (Not to say that I don't want a relationship anway... at the moment.)

Now in my former class in high school we were three (of 24) in almost the same position and it was hard to keep contact with my classmates as they often went out partying a lot, pissing themselves not to say, and I just couldn't get along with it. I rather studied and prefer a quiet lifestyle.

Now I'm afraid at higher education it'll become the same. I went to parties as well, I just didn't enjoy all of them. I know studying in London offers a night-life experience (excl. cinemas, theatres, operas, pubs etc.) I hadn't in Switzerland and I really will be putting some effort to give this a chance as I don't want to distance myself from my fellow students.
But will this non-drinking etc. attitude prevent me from coming in touch with the others? Especially at freshers week?

Furthermore I'm quite a shy person. I'm polite and helpful and loyal, but I usually don't open up emotionally if I don't know a person so well. It doesn't make the whole thing better, though.

Would be nice to hear from people who are/ were in the same situation.

PS: Sorry for my English. :-)

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you english is nearly beter than mine and i'm english
Thank you. :-)
Reply 3
As long as you don't mind clubbing & going to the pub sober you will be fine. People don't care if your t-total as long as you don't take some superior attitude around them.
Reply 4
Once you have made friends they should be fine with it.
You could just drink small glasses of coca-cola, people won't be able to distinguish it by looking from vodka/rum/whisky and coke.
Not smoking shouldn't be a problem, nor should not doing drugs, since they are not really "expected" behaviour like drinking is, and even with drinking there are plenty of people who don't drink, and even more who drink just a small amount.

I don't like to get really drunk, although I do drink. I will sometimes drink on a few nights out in a row, sometimes I won't drink for over a month, people just accept that I am not drinking at the time.
I don't smoke unless I am drunk, which happens by accident now and then if I am particularly tired, or haven't eaten properly and I drink a bit too fast.
I don't really take any drugs. I use cannabis now and then, more in the past, but if I am with friends who are smoking it they are happy to let me be a part of the situation without smoking anything.
Reply 5
Trust me, there are a whole bunch of people like you and me at university. Just stay away from those that pressure you into doing something you do not want to do.
Reply 6
So long as you dont take a 'Im better than you because I dont drink, smoke etc' you'll be fine. Many others will be like you, so you neednt worry. Again though dont act as though you are better because you dont drink or whatever, its immensly irritating!
Oh no, no. I don't act superior - I think everyone should do what they like to do as long as it doesn't harm other people and animals... well and sometimes the enviroment. (I'm a vegetarian as well and had to eat catered food in school and it were my classmates, saying stupid jokes about what I had on my plate. However.)

I probably can't go clubbing a lot as well - as most of the students I won't have a lot of money but I actually like the pubs in London. It should be working, somehow. :-)

Thank you.

@essaichay
Yes... I mean, I like working and was considered as a geek and treated like one - but I never saw the advantage in pretending I'd hate school and make myself unhappy.
Reply 8
lordbonney
So long as you dont take a 'Im better than you because I dont drink, smoke etc' you'll be fine. Many others will be like you, so you neednt worry. Again though dont act as though you are better because you dont drink or whatever, its immensly irritating!


This, I have drunk a LOT these last two days since exams ended, but I pace myself, and thus have not been wasted but anyone who comes across with that I'm holier than thou attitude gets a slap, its worse than the people who think they are oh so cool for taking drugs
Boooorrrrrriiiing!
a_t
This, I have drunk a LOT these last two days since exams ended, but I pace myself, and thus have not been wasted but anyone who comes across with that I'm holier than thou attitude gets a slap, its worse than the people who think they are oh so cool for taking drugs


You're right, this fecks me off even more. I dont do drugs because I think Im cool, I do it because I enjoy them, and, depending on the drug, I like the different way of thinking they give you. I cant stand people who are like 'Oh mygodzz I got soi h igh last nigth!!1!' Really gives the rest of us a bad name.
Reply 11
FiveFiveSix
Boooorrrrrriiiing!


Don't be silly. OP, there'll be loads of students like yourself at university, it's just a case of finding them!

Bit off-topic, but where you go to uni. You say you're a student, but also an infantryman? :confused:
Reply 12
JenniferRebecca
Hi!

I'm worried about this stuff for some time now... due to former experiences I now do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, do not take drugs and I'm not interested in having sex with someone outside a relationship or even marriage. (Not to say that I don't want a relationship anway... at the moment.)

Now in my former class in high school we were three (of 24) in almost the same position and it was hard to keep contact with my classmates as they often went out partying a lot, pissing themselves not to say, and I just couldn't get along with it. I rather studied and prefer a quiet lifestyle.

Now I'm afraid at higher education it'll become the same. I went to parties as well, I just didn't enjoy all of them. I know studying in London offers a night-life experience (excl. cinemas, theatres, operas, pubs etc.) I hadn't in Switzerland and I really will be putting some effort to give this a chance as I don't want to distance myself from my fellow students.
But will this non-drinking etc. attitude prevent me from coming in touch with the others? Especially at freshers week?

Furthermore I'm quite a shy person. I'm polite and helpful and loyal, but I usually don't open up emotionally if I don't know a person so well. It doesn't make the whole thing better, though.

Would be nice to hear from people who are/ were in the same situation.

PS: Sorry for my English. :-)


As a student in London I can tell you that the great benefit of attending university here is that the social life isn't dependent on student club nights etc as in other UK cities (to some extent). While there will be groups that enjoy going out a lot and getting drunk and so on, there will always be people who identify with you. I would say this number actually grows at university as there are people here who enjoy their studies and maintain groups of friends who don't revolve around getting drunk, etc etc.

Basically, don't worry: Soon enough you'll find people with the same interests as you, there is no doubt about that.
You'll be fine. I know loads of people who don't drink and stuff, and they seem to be getting on perfectly okay.
Thank you again! It really calms me down.

@pevhan
Are you asking me? I will be studying at Central School of Speech and Drama - but what do you mean by 'infrantryman'? (Not sure if I should just translate it.) I might have written something wrongly.
Reply 15
Come to Leeds instead of London and then I'll have someone with whom to do something a bit more interesting than "gerrin mashed".
pevhan
Don't be silly. OP, there'll be loads of students like yourself at university, it's just a case of finding them!

Bit off-topic, but where you go to uni. You say you're a student, but also an infantryman? :confused:


Aye, good that, innit?
Reply 17
JenniferRebecca
Hi!

I'm worried about this stuff for some time now... due to former experiences I now do not drink alcohol, do not smoke, do not take drugs and I'm not interested in having sex with someone outside a relationship or even marriage. (Not to say that I don't want a relationship anway... at the moment.)

Now in my former class in high school we were three (of 24) in almost the same position and it was hard to keep contact with my classmates as they often went out partying a lot, pissing themselves not to say, and I just couldn't get along with it. I rather studied and prefer a quiet lifestyle.

Now I'm afraid at higher education it'll become the same. I went to parties as well, I just didn't enjoy all of them. I know studying in London offers a night-life experience (excl. cinemas, theatres, operas, pubs etc.) I hadn't in Switzerland and I really will be putting some effort to give this a chance as I don't want to distance myself from my fellow students.
But will this non-drinking etc. attitude prevent me from coming in touch with the others? Especially at freshers week?

Furthermore I'm quite a shy person. I'm polite and helpful and loyal, but I usually don't open up emotionally if I don't know a person so well. It doesn't make the whole thing better, though.

Would be nice to hear from people who are/ were in the same situation.

PS: Sorry for my English. :-)


One of my good friends didn't drink for the whole of his first year (decided not to to help him do well in first year). I think the worst you could expect is a bit of teasing for it, but if you're still willing to go out and socialise with people, they'll probably be more than happy for your company.

You might also want to use freshers' week to get to know the people who don't necessarily want to get really drunk and involve themselves with other stuff.
Reply 18
lordbonney
You're right, this fecks me off even more. I dont do drugs because I think Im cool, I do it because I enjoy them, and, depending on the drug, I like the different way of thinking they give you. I cant stand people who are like 'Oh mygodzz I got soi h igh last nigth!!1!' Really gives the rest of us a bad name.


Yeah same, winds me right up, keep it on the down low
JenniferRebecca
Thank you again! It really calms me down.

@pevhan
Are you asking me? I will be studying at Central School of Speech and Drama - but what do you mean by 'infrantryman'? (Not sure if I should just translate it.) I might have written something wrongly.


She's talking about me m'love.

But seriously, if you don't drink, don't shag, don't smoke, don't take all sorts of weird and wonderful mind altering chemicals and worst of all, don't eat meat... What DO you do?

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