boyfriend and past relationships - dont add up - again

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well, I asked my boyfriend about the whole 'past' thing, and he just refused to talk to me! he said I was making things up, as he never said about the 8 month girl. he said I am making up what I want to hear. and now..hes just not talking to me. I'm getting one word answers from him when he does talk, and the rest of the time, he is just quiet. what have I done wrong? I dont understand this.

Reply 1

Zurich

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Sounds to me like he made something up and has been caught out. Maybe he lied about having more experience than he actually has?

Reply 2

queenselphie

He is being unreasonable here. He thinks he's been found out, and is using the time honoured technique of "deny everything". This is rather childish behaviour, and I think you need to have a long thought about wether or not you can live with such frustrating actions. Imagine if the two of you were enagaged, but suddenly he said he'd never wanted to get married, and wouldnt talk about it? Or less dramatic than that, if he was late in at night, and it was for an innocent reason, but because he wouldnt communicate you feared he was cheating on you?
This sort of behaviour does not breed a healthy relationship, and Im sorry he's being like this to you. Take some time away from him, with your friends, have fun, and when he gets in contact with you first, you can tell him about all the fun things you've been up to. He'll realise you're a person of your own right, not just something he can control, and maybe he'll even worry about losing you, as well he should, and open up a bit more.

Reply 3

saz_1989

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don't worry too much about his past. i'd rather not know about someone's past and be happy, than know about it and go crazy over it.
but if he's lied to you and invented stuff, that's just harsh. you'll be wondering about something that's never happened and that's unfair. i think you should find someone better, as you obviously deserve more than this.

Reply 4

viviki

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THis lie obviously means a lot to him and his pride and confidence. You have to decide whether you can live with it. If you can't then you need to finish it. I don't think you should have talked to him about it in the first place. I certainly wouldn't have done its not surprising hes gone off on one. You've made him feel like a fool catching him out in a lie.

Reply 5

BlackHawk

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If he lied so easily about one thing, how easy will he find it in the future to lie?

Reply 6

viviki

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He obviously didn't find it easy to lie about if he had he would have glibly told another lie to cover that first lie. he obviously feels amazingly awkward about it and embarrassed now. Its not a lie that directly effected you and it obviously made him feel more on equal terms with you.

Reply 7

magiccarpet

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viviki

He obviously didn't find it easy to lie about if he had he would have glibly told another lie to cover that first lie. he obviously feels amazingly awkward about it and embarrassed now. Its not a lie that directly effected you and it obviously made him feel more on equal terms with you.

i agree. it IS a weird reaction to say u r making up what u wana hear, i mean who would wana hear that?? surely his relationship with a 5yr old womwan i sWORSE rather than BETTER from your point of view???

and the fact nobody knows this 5yr older woman makes me think he genuinly did make it all up

as for sleeping with a girl at a party when he was 16, i think that is a lie to for the reason i posted ont he last thread

i think he is still a virgin but vv embarrassed to admit is, even more so if u r not one. so forget about the first lie and don t mentione it agaiaann to him, and jsut take things slowly

Reply 8

Hayley_2k4

OP

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magiccarpet

i agree. it IS a weird reaction to say u r making up what u wana hear, i mean who would wana hear that?? surely his relationship with a 5yr old womwan i sWORSE rather than BETTER from your point of view???

and the fact nobody knows this 5yr older woman makes me think he genuinly did make it all up

as for sleeping with a girl at a party when he was 16, i think that is a lie to for the reason i posted ont he last thread

i think he is still a virgin but vv embarrassed to admit is, even more so if u r not one. so forget about the first lie and don t mentione it agaiaann to him, and jsut take things slowly

thank you -x-

boyfriend and past relationships - dont add up - again

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