I don't believe in sex before marriage

For most people marriage is more than 'just a piece of paper'.

This might sound like an old fashioned stance, but I don't believe in sex before marriage. For religious reasons I am not allowed to engage in sexual behaviour and I wonder what others think about this.
Yes it can be hard but I think it's worth it and I feel better for it.
"Because I'm worth it!"
Just think what society might be like if everyone followed this rule. Would it be better - fewer sexual diseases, less promiscuity, less broken relationships, fewer unwanted children, fewer broken hearts, less getting involved with the wrong sorts of people before you know them.
I believe that sex causes a strong link on many levels - physical, emotional and spiritual between you and another person before you really know whether or not you are compatible.
Inappropriate sex can cause us to be spiritually debased, for example via one night stands and other unsavoury activities.
I believe that God created sex for marriage and marriage for sex.
What do others think? and what are others' attitudes. Do you believe in just following your feelings or are there any constraints on your behaviour?

You could say that about anything though.

Just because another species does something doesn't make it beneficial for us to do the same thing.

Dogs defecate in public.
Scorpions rape each other
Spiders kill their sexual partners
Rabbits kill their children
etc.


In this post, I am not trying to prove that sex before marriage is wrong. I'm just trying to show that "it is natural because other species do it" is not a great reason for us to do it as well.

No it isn't.

I don't personally want to sleep with random people all the time, I don't crave sex and I don't want it whenever. Long term relationship sex is what I personally prefer.

But each to their own. I don't think people should impose their views and state when it is right and wrong to have sex. (Not referring to you, OP).

Sex should be done whenever it feels right, whenever two (or more) people want it.

Immature? I don't think so.

Read between the lines.

I don't believe in sex at all. I think it's just a myth made up to make me feel bad for not getting any.

So why didn't you write all that crap before? You just put "sex whenever" like some sort of teenage slapper.

to compare it to having sex before marriage though is ridiculous. what's the difference between having sex before marriage and after marriage? What if you don't want to get married? should you be deprived of a natural instinct to have children?

You realise that marriage in biblical times was a formal arrangement, and rarely anything to actually do with love? And so the idea of marriage in those times is actually very, very different to marriage today?
And the whole Mary being a virgin thing - mistranslation of virgin, can also be used to mean 'young woman'.

Why is a one-night stand 'unsavoury'?

And yes, it may lead to less stis and less pregnancy - but if we believe what the pope says, ignore the pregnancy one, and the sti one - well, only if people remain truthful. However, it also wasn't uncommon for affairs to happen left, right and centre in biblical times, so no, it may not cause a drop in sti rates.

Respect you on the explaining your view thing.
But please don't judge others based on it. I respect your view, but I don't accept you calling me 'spiritually debased' for having sex with my partner who I have been going out with for a year, or for actually (shock!) enjoying sex.

I hate this assumption that christian people are somehow more moral or better people because they're christian. At the end of the day, they're still people, and people cock up.