This guy won't add me on Facebook. Really upsetting me. Watch

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There's a guy in my circle of friends (I'm male), who I was always a little bit paranoid didn't like me, anyway this was confirmed when he rejected my Facebook request. This left me really paranoid what it is about me that he doesn't like as I try so hard to be amiable and get along with everyone, and do a good job with this. I can appreciate you can't be best mates with everyone but surely you can get along with them to be Facebook friends? Anyway we're out together lots for drinks, dinners, clubs as its a small circle of friends, so I confronted him what his issue was with me. He said no issue whatsoever, just acknowledged like I said you can't be mates with everyone. But nonetheless when we're out together I can get on with him just as much as everyone else, have the same sort of conversation I would a mate. So I added him again and got rejected again. This sounds trivial but it just constantly crops up in my head given on a daily basis there'll be group messages/emails we're both reply-all-ing to me being very aware he doesn't like me, when I put up photos I have to get a friend to tag him in it etc. This is making me deeply upset.
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Unfortunatly there isn't much you can do in this situation. You've discussed the matter, and you can't force him to add you. I suggest you try not to think about it.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
There's a guy in my circle of friends (I'm male), who I was always a little bit paranoid didn't like me, anyway this was confirmed when he rejected my Facebook request. This left me really paranoid what it is about me that he doesn't like as I try so hard to be amiable and get along with everyone, and do a good job with this. I can appreciate you can't be best mates with everyone but surely you can get along with them to be Facebook friends? Anyway we're out together lots for drinks, dinners, clubs as its a small circle of friends, so I confronted him what his issue was with me. He said no issue whatsoever, just acknowledged like I said you can't be mates with everyone. But nonetheless when we're out together I can get on with him just as much as everyone else, have the same sort of conversation I would a mate. So I added him again and got rejected again. This sounds trivial but it just constantly crops up in my head given on a daily basis there'll be group messages/emails we're both reply-all-ing to me being very aware he doesn't like me, when I put up photos I have to get a friend to tag him in it etc. This is making me deeply upset.
Try not to think about it and distract yourself.
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That's pretty weird. :confused: he sounds like a retard anyway so don't worry too much. :yy:
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he doesn't like you, get over it

why would you want someone you don't like as a friend on facebook? it's only the internet anyways
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It's just facebook. If you go out and get along with him you're doing pretty well. You're relationship with people shouldn't be dictated by the constraints of a social networking website. There could be any number of reasons why he doesn't want to add you as a friend, many with nothing to do with you.

Maybe his friends wind him up about being in love with you and that you becoming friends on facebook would give them more ammunition and end up outing him which he isn't ready for. It's best not to speculate.
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Leave Facebook!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
There's a guy in my circle of friends (I'm male), who I was always a little bit paranoid didn't like me, anyway this was confirmed when he rejected my Facebook request. This left me really paranoid what it is about me that he doesn't like as I try so hard to be amiable and get along with everyone, and do a good job with this. I can appreciate you can't be best mates with everyone but surely you can get along with them to be Facebook friends? Anyway we're out together lots for drinks, dinners, clubs as its a small circle of friends, so I confronted him what his issue was with me. He said no issue whatsoever, just acknowledged like I said you can't be mates with everyone. But nonetheless when we're out together I can get on with him just as much as everyone else, have the same sort of conversation I would a mate. So I added him again and got rejected again. This sounds trivial but it just constantly crops up in my head given on a daily basis there'll be group messages/emails we're both reply-all-ing to me being very aware he doesn't like me, when I put up photos I have to get a friend to tag him in it etc. This is making me deeply upset.
hes a hypocrite. Plain and simple.
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so ******* what, who cares.
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I learnt only too late that these sorts of petty, silly people aren't worth bothering with.
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he probably just didn't have the balls to tell you he doesn't like you, so he pretends that everything is cool to avoid awkwardness since you have mutual friends. you can't make everyone like you, so i suggest forgetting about the whole thing.
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You shouldn't have bothered adding him.

Why do you crave acceptance from people who aren't worth your time?
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you're probably annoying him by being so obsessed by him
why are u so worried about him anyway
ask urself, are u even going to know him three/four years from now??
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What a weirdo
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gay
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You can't get everyone in the world to like you. Get over it.
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Dont be that guy - a "begfriend"
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It's his facebook and his life he can choose who he want's to like and who he doesn't.

Tough **** if he didn't add you. I don't add most of the random requests I get after night outs. I keep my facebook for family and friends (aka those people I like).

OVER SENSITIVE MUCH? :nothing:
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(Original post by Supersplodge)
hes a hypocrite. Plain and simple.
Not necessarily: perhaps his standards are somewhat higher.
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