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She's so SENSITIVE!!!

I have a friend who is so sensitive!!! :frown:

...she takes every joke about her very seriously (no exaggerations). Most of the time, I would really have to think carefully + sensibly before saying something about her.
I really don't know if she has got some emotional/psychological problems... :confused:

Do I really have to keep our friendship and make it as long-lasting as possible? Because Im thinking that perhaps one day, I might offend her :frown:

accidentally.

Help, what shall I do??? Post your comments, please. ta :smile:

Reply 1

80s Love Child!

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Reply 2

Clodagh

Tell her she's oversensitive and you're not going to tiptoe around it. Or how else will she put up with the real world?!

Reply 3

The Crow

well im the same. iv been through a lot, my mates joke with me, n deep down i know theyre just messing half the time, but it really hurts. i take it literally- you probably will offend her, but at the end of the day she probably appreciates you being there.
or maybe she was just brought up without a sense of humor?
either way you should talk to her and sort this out with her unless you dont really like her, in which case just tell her....
if that makes any sense?
xxx

Reply 4

john !!

I wouldn't bother

Reply 5

Sam_B

Clodagh

Tell her she's oversensitive and you're not going to tiptoe around it. Or how else will she put up with the real world?!

:dito:

Reply 6

80s Love Child!

But i dont know how to say it in a way that she will not feel offended. :frown:

Reply 7

Alcohol5%

There's no point being in a friendship with someone when your constantly walking on egg shells. Either ditch the friendship or put her straight.

Reply 8

silence

go on trisha

Reply 9

cheesecakebobby

If she means a lot to you, you should want to help her. Pussyfooting around won't do that. Its worth upsetting her in the short-term if it helps her in the long-term.

Reply 10

Adarah

Talk to her and tell her that if you make any jokes you don't mean to offend her - you can't help it if she is offended by everything, but letting her know you don't really want to offend her at all should help.

Reply 11

wiwarin_mir

Alcohol5%

There's no point being in a friendship with someone when your constantly walking on egg shells. Either ditch the friendship or put her straight.

You do know that some people cannot help but take everything serious as they cannot actually tell when people are joking or being sarcastic, so it will do no good to confront her and ttry to make her change when she won't be able to.

I cannot tell when people are joking or being sarcastic so I have got a reputation for being serious and having no sense of humour, but I cannot help it as it is one of the ways in which my aspergers syndrome (a form of autism) effects me.

I would just not make jokes about her and stop using sarcasm around her since she cannot detect it, since that is the only thing that is causing problems.

Reply 12

The Crow

just explain how you feel, tell her what your friendship means to you, but tell her you joke!!!!!!!!!!

Reply 13

Psycho Gerbil

I know someone who's like that sometimes too and because I tend not to have the patience to pussy-foot, I've offended her tons of times. I find it easiest to just apoligise like crazy until she forgives me. It's normally just a small thing like taking a joke to far, and sometimes, her lack of humor is kinda irritating, but I don't know if telling her that would help.

Reply 14

at least lara

you've started like every other thread this weekend........................................................................................................................................................................................control yourself :cool: