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Masturbation is ruining my life

Keep anon or delete. I need to know if anyone can understand this 'problem' of mine.

I used to be religious so I used to always repress any sexual thoughts. I started masturbating as a teenager (like most teenagers ofc) but knew what i was doing was 'wrong' and by the time i was 16 i used to torture and punish myself every time I did it. this would involve slapping, using a razor over acne to make the spots bleed or shoving my hand down my throat until it burned with acid/bile whatever it is.

Now this is the weird bit. Every time I masturbated, in the next 24 hours, something 'bad' would happen. Something would fail and it would be out of my control to solve it. For example, my phone breaking, my mp3 not working, getting an injury at gym, my computer failing to work etc. All these things have repeatedly happened the day after I ******. Considering I used to be religious, I saw this as a way of punishment for my actions. So instead I thought I'd take it into my own hands (quite literally) and hurt myself instead; that way less extreme accidents would happen.

Now it is possible the above is all just coincidence and superstition - i'm not ruling out that option. however, there are more 'symptoms' i suffer from. this involve headaches, aching muscles (especially the back/shoulder muscles and in the upper leg, quadriceps or whatever u call em), itchy skin, spots on my face, blocked nose, lots of phlegm in my mouth, very dry hands and dry lips, my chest and back seem to excessively sweat and the list goes on and on.

I think you get the point, whenever I masturbate i'm left in a state of discomfort and paranoia that something bad will happen. As a result, i try not to go out or exercise the following day - this obvs affects me socially and physically in a bad way.

I don't know if this is caused by some chemical/hormone imbalance, or if the self-punishment I did as a teenager has had some long-term effect on me, or if i'm just making this all up in my head.

Any ideas wtf is going on?

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Reply 1
I forgot to mention that it badly affects my fitness aswell.
Reply 2
Sounds like a case of hysteria http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hysteria

(note this term is used today instead http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatization_disorder)
Reply 3
I don't mean to sound harsh but it seems as though you're a needless mad-man/ religious nut job.

Yes i would say that your condition is totally psychosomatic and self-inflicted. You used to do some really weird **** to yourself and as a result you're stressed by masturbation - sorta the opposite of what it's supposed to achieve.

I think you have a condition known as hysteria my friend. Like the guy above said.
Either Munchausen's Syndrome, or sheer lover of masochism.
Reply 5
Are you Christian or Muslim or what?

Self-harm is not the way to go about it. Sincere prayer, charity is the way to make up your sin. Oh and get married to let out that tension.
Power of positive thinking maybe?

If you think bad things are going to happen because you believe you have done someting wrong (wether its masturbation or something else) then they usually will.
You need to associate your actions with positivity opposed negativity, don't think that its unholy or whatever, think about the positive effect it has on your body of releasing endorphins and clearly you enjoy maturbation otherwise you wouldn't do it.

in short opose to punishing yourself for your actions think positively remind yourself nothing bad is going to happen, good luck.

i had the same problem with a diffrent issue, pm if you like.
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why has everyone turned on this guy??

he's just asking for help and it is clearly embarasing to talk about - hence the 'anonymous' name.

so why dont you all give him a break and be abit more considerate!!

To the thread starter - maybe a GP will be more appropriate and wont judge you so much? :smile:
i used to do the same thing but in a different way
whenever i get erect i play 40 push-ups immediately
i used to do it to avoid masterbuation
i think ur life would become much better if u can just stop this habbit
Reply 10
Think of the kittens!
Reply 11
What religion are you and why do you think that masturbation is incompatible with your beliefs?

I think this issue is more cultural than theological, for example Christian beliefs on sex have been largely based on the works of theologians (like Augustine) who were influenced by ancient greek philosophers (like Aristotle). Aristotle believed in dualism, he thought that the body (body is imperfect and eventually rots) was the prison of the soul (soul was perfect and eternal). This carried into Augustine's teachings, the idea that physical pleasure is dirty or sinful. Augustine influenced the Church at the time and beliefs which aren't based on the Bible are now widely held by Christians around the world. Some Christians think that pleasure in sex and masturbation aren't sinful, perhaps read some articles from this Christian website? http://whollylove.com/Resources/default.aspx?DepartmentID=30
Reply 12
Anonymous
this involve headaches, aching muscles (especially the back/shoulder muscles and in the upper leg, quadriceps or whatever u call em), itchy skin, spots on my face, blocked nose, lots of phlegm in my mouth, very dry hands and dry lips, my chest and back seem to excessively sweat and the list goes on and on.


the symptoms you refer to are all very common things for teens/young adults to get especially when stressed out.

Dietary improvements may be able to help with some of these things, make sure you're getting necessary vitamins, do some exercise, get out in this amazing weather and quit choking it as much.

Give it a bit of time you'll be a-ok
Reply 13
get someone else to choke ur batman :awesome:
Reply 14
Hey there.
I don't think some people realise how strong the power of religion is. It is not that you are insane.

All these bad things happening are just coincidence/bad luck. When i broke my toe last week, i didn't think '**** i've done something wrong....God is punishing me'...it was just bad luck. Sometimes i have(just as everybody does) worse luck one week then another. This does not mean that one week i did something sinful and the other i did not.

It is just life, bad and unlucky things happen but trust me God isn't punishing you...i mean don't you think it would be unfair? Him giving you all these hormones and then punishing you for outletting them? God is fair and this would not be.

Please stop punishing yourself. Countless other boys do this and none of them punish themselves (and they shouldn't) so why should you? You shouldn't.
Reply 15
Yes bad things happen because you masturbate.
Reply 16
But surely if you are that religious you believe sex before marriage is wrong so surely buy masterbating you are releasing your urges you you won't end up doing something wrong, in terms of faith that is. Stop punishing yourself too, if you feel that bad that you need to punish yourself stop masterbating, simple as. If however you can just use masterbation as a release then leave it at that, it is your body so do with it what you will (except in a harmful way).
Get a grip!
Reply 18
Anonymous

Now it is possible the above is all just coincidence and superstition - i'm not ruling out that option. however, there are more 'symptoms' i suffer from. this involve headaches, aching muscles (especially the back/shoulder muscles and in the upper leg, quadriceps or whatever u call em), itchy skin, spots on my face, blocked nose, lots of phlegm in my mouth, very dry hands and dry lips, my chest and back seem to excessively sweat and the list goes on and on.


I do wonder why
:awesome:



P.S - Maybe God is punishing you for being such a crazy nut-job :p: :yep: Alternatively, you may just be a teenager going through puberty with a cold :lolwut:
Reply 19
Anonymous

I used to be religious


MBibzle
I don't mean to sound harsh but it seems as though you're a religious nut job.


come on, it was the first line he typed :rolleyes:

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