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how do you mean? do you feel down? or are you shy around people?
i cant go up on a stage to speak about something, i dont like talking to anyone apart from my family and friends
if i have fallen out with someone, i get all shaky when they come
i know know why, but i didnt used to feel this. I mean i started wearing a hijab a couple of years ago and that needs the most energy ever, especially if your in my school
if i have fallen out with someone, i get all shaky when they come
i know know why, but i didnt used to feel this. I mean i started wearing a hijab a couple of years ago and that needs the most energy ever, especially if your in my school
TSR_Princess
i cant go up on a stage to speak about something, i dont like talking to anyone apart from my family and friends
if i have fallen out with someone, i get all shaky when they come
i know know why, but i didnt used to feel this. I mean i started wearing a hijab a couple of years ago and that needs the most energy ever, especially if your in my school
if i have fallen out with someone, i get all shaky when they come
i know know why, but i didnt used to feel this. I mean i started wearing a hijab a couple of years ago and that needs the most energy ever, especially if your in my school
i used to be like that when i was up to age 15. then i got a job in Pizza Hut where the better you are at chatting people up, the more tips you make. being forced to talk helps you get used to it.
i have also been learning 3 languages but cannot bring myself to speak them due to shyness. however if i wa in tht country and given a choice- speak or starve, i'd quickly get over it.
so perhaps get a job or something where u gotta talk to toher people often
public speaking is hard for most people, and experience is the only true way to get over it.but ont worry too much cos u prob dont need to do that often.
as for talking to other people, just randomly say 'hi, how was ur weekend/holiday/i like your bag' and let them talk about themself
im not meaning to be racist, but to me it seems that perhaps you feel embarrassed and self conscious wearing the hijab, so you tend to be keeping yourself away. perhaps find a really nice one that you are happy and proud to wear? i think your shyness comes from looing different to the others at school
magiccarpet
i used to be like that when i was up to age 15. then i got a job in Pizza Hut where the better you are at chatting people up, the more tips you make. being forced to talk helps you get used to it.
i have also been learning 3 languages but cannot bring myself to speak them due to shyness. however if i wa in tht country and given a choice- speak or starve, i'd quickly get over it.
so perhaps get a job or something where u gotta talk to toher people often
public speaking is hard for most people, and experience is the only true way to get over it.but ont worry too much cos u prob dont need to do that often.
as for talking to other people, just randomly say 'hi, how was ur weekend/holiday/i like your bag' and let them talk about themself
im not meaning to be racist, but to me it seems that perhaps you feel embarrassed and self conscious wearing the hijab, so you tend to be keeping yourself away. perhaps find a really nice one that you are happy and proud to wear? i think your shyness comes from looing different to the others at school
i have also been learning 3 languages but cannot bring myself to speak them due to shyness. however if i wa in tht country and given a choice- speak or starve, i'd quickly get over it.
so perhaps get a job or something where u gotta talk to toher people often
public speaking is hard for most people, and experience is the only true way to get over it.but ont worry too much cos u prob dont need to do that often.
as for talking to other people, just randomly say 'hi, how was ur weekend/holiday/i like your bag' and let them talk about themself
im not meaning to be racist, but to me it seems that perhaps you feel embarrassed and self conscious wearing the hijab, so you tend to be keeping yourself away. perhaps find a really nice one that you are happy and proud to wear? i think your shyness comes from looing different to the others at school
Some people have too much self-confidence.
MB
well at least im trying to spead it around and actually be helpful
i used to be so so shy but not i can see that other people dont care at all what you do or say, half as much as the shy person at most. so just be calm and see it from the other persons viewpoint
just get yourself a job or position where you HAVE to talk then u'll get used to it
i used to be so so shy but not i can see that other people dont care at all what you do or say, half as much as the shy person at most. so just be calm and see it from the other persons viewpoint
just get yourself a job or position where you HAVE to talk then u'll get used to it
yeah i was like that, but then i changed social groups, and met more and more people and jobs helped cuz u meet ppl der
and life is rly good for me at the moment becasue i have the best group of mates ive eva had! and i fink, well i'm just going to be myself and if no one likes it then its ther problem, since then my confidence has grown and grown
so i think its down to being happy about yourself, theres always going to be monents when u dont but they dont last very long, i jus listen to heavy music at those moments (system of a down WOO!) and i feel better again
and life is rly good for me at the moment becasue i have the best group of mates ive eva had! and i fink, well i'm just going to be myself and if no one likes it then its ther problem, since then my confidence has grown and grown
so i think its down to being happy about yourself, theres always going to be monents when u dont but they dont last very long, i jus listen to heavy music at those moments (system of a down WOO!) and i feel better again
hmmm, perhaps be frinds with other hijab wearing muslims at your school so you feel less alone and standing out.and brad is right, if people dont accept you for who u r, thats their fault.
i think it is that you feel odd with wearing one. perhaps, wearing makeup if allowed, and a hijab in a beautiful colour or fabric will help you feel more confident at looking different.
http://www.amicalmant.ca/files/hijab.jpg look, she looks gorgeous with nice eye makeup and a bright hijab
and look, even non asians are supporting hijab wearing http://www.planetbollywood.com/Pictures/Actress/Aish/aish10P.jpg
see? it loks NICE!
i think it is that you feel odd with wearing one. perhaps, wearing makeup if allowed, and a hijab in a beautiful colour or fabric will help you feel more confident at looking different.
http://www.amicalmant.ca/files/hijab.jpg look, she looks gorgeous with nice eye makeup and a bright hijab
and look, even non asians are supporting hijab wearing http://www.planetbollywood.com/Pictures/Actress/Aish/aish10P.jpg
see? it loks NICE!
the hijab is lika a headscarf, not a full length dress thing, and jobs DO have to allow it, under the Europena Convention of Human Rights.
and i think it is just that she looks ifferent and is aware of it, like how we feel weird wearing eg braces/glasses for the first time
and i think it is just that she looks ifferent and is aware of it, like how we feel weird wearing eg braces/glasses for the first time
yes but either way, they arent full length religious dress- that is the chador
cha·dor (chä-dôr')
n.
A loose, usually black robe worn by Muslim women that covers the body from head to toe and most of the face.
[Urdu chādar, cover, cloth, from Persian, screen, tent, from Sanskrit chattram, screen, parasol. See chuddar.]
cha·dor (chä-dôr')
n.
A loose, usually black robe worn by Muslim women that covers the body from head to toe and most of the face.
[Urdu chādar, cover, cloth, from Persian, screen, tent, from Sanskrit chattram, screen, parasol. See chuddar.]
Its isnt because of the Hijab! i can assure you now, i have menay different hijabs and they look gorgeous, i dont wear make and i dont want to. It isnt nothing to do with that, i have many firends both hijab wearing and not. i have never and will never regret wearing the hijab- that isnt the problem!
i agree with 3, do something that forces you to talk, then you'll get used to it.
things like:
drama/acting
singing
art/writing/dancing - will make u meet new people so u have to talk
helping teach something - will make you talk
team sports
or any of the following jobs:
waitress/barmaid
receptionist
exotic dancer
commisioned sales eg currys or double glazing
door to door salesmen
things like:
drama/acting
singing
art/writing/dancing - will make u meet new people so u have to talk
helping teach something - will make you talk
team sports
or any of the following jobs:
waitress/barmaid
receptionist
exotic dancer
commisioned sales eg currys or double glazing
door to door salesmen
Generally, wear something that you are comfortable with and perhaps do things that you are comfortable with and confidence, self-esteem will come 
I.e. if you are not interested in a particular job and you force yourself to do it. I doubt you will be happy. If you are not happy and enthusiastic about the job then I doubt you will be able to fully absorb everything and when you are tasked to do presentations, I doubt you will have the confidence and self-esteem.
On the contrary, if you do something you like and enjoy, you are more likely to be confident in it because you know what is going on as you have paid attention to it
I.e. if you are not interested in a particular job and you force yourself to do it. I doubt you will be happy. If you are not happy and enthusiastic about the job then I doubt you will be able to fully absorb everything and when you are tasked to do presentations, I doubt you will have the confidence and self-esteem.
On the contrary, if you do something you like and enjoy, you are more likely to be confident in it because you know what is going on as you have paid attention to it
Ericz
Generally, wear something that you are comfortable with and perhaps do things that you are comfortable with and confidence, self-esteem will come
I.e. if you are not interested in a particular job and you force yourself to do it. I doubt you will be happy. If you are not happy and enthusiastic about the job then I doubt you will be able to fully absorb everything and when you are tasked to do presentations, I doubt you will have the confidence and self-esteem.
On the contrary, if you do something you like and enjoy, you are more likely to be confident in it because you know what is going on as you have paid attention to it
I.e. if you are not interested in a particular job and you force yourself to do it. I doubt you will be happy. If you are not happy and enthusiastic about the job then I doubt you will be able to fully absorb everything and when you are tasked to do presentations, I doubt you will have the confidence and self-esteem.
On the contrary, if you do something you like and enjoy, you are more likely to be confident in it because you know what is going on as you have paid attention to it
Hey thanks for your replies but is their any other way i can boost my confidence with out working
TSR_Princess
Hey thanks for your replies but is their any other way i can boost my confidence with out working
If it's speaking on a stage in front of the whole school...
Practise.. Practise and Practise I guess.
Practise in front of your mirror everyday and slowly move on to in front of your family, then your friends hehe.
I don't know if it works for you but the practising in front of the mirror thing sure works well for me in the past heheh
I hope it does for you too.
joining clubs as listed above? your school/local area must do drama/singing/acting class. learning a language is good too cos it makes you tlka.
also, perhaps try talking to old people randomly while eg in a shop queue/waiting for a bus, like 'nice weather today' etc
or just generally do whatever you lie and dont give a f..k what anyone thinks. with pub speaking.u prob never will c any of them again so u should forget about it as easily as they will. and talking to frinds-they prob dont mind u talking boring crap, just as long as u talk dont just stand there like a melon!
also, perhaps try talking to old people randomly while eg in a shop queue/waiting for a bus, like 'nice weather today' etc
or just generally do whatever you lie and dont give a f..k what anyone thinks. with pub speaking.u prob never will c any of them again so u should forget about it as easily as they will. and talking to frinds-they prob dont mind u talking boring crap, just as long as u talk dont just stand there like a melon!
d of e might help u to meet more frinds, allthat camping etc. i think millenium volenterrrs woul be quit good, but the other suggestions might be better
TSR_Princess
thank you for your replies- do you think doing millenium vollenteers or duke of edinburgh would help?
duke of edingburgh would probably help. and i expect millenium volunteering would, but ive never done that tho. but with dofe be prepared for a lot of walking!
and as for public speaking, i HATE it, hate it (and i want to be a barrister)! everyone does. apparently it gets better with practise. one of my lectureres said that he stil gets nervous before giving lectures.
lessthanthree
oh YES!
you can actually run them both together, and do milennium volunteers hours at the same time as your d of e community service.
It'd be an excellent thing to do - because with community service you could build up skills with people you don't know, plus d of e will definitely encourage you to communicate with your team.
you can actually run them both together, and do milennium volunteers hours at the same time as your d of e community service.
It'd be an excellent thing to do - because with community service you could build up skills with people you don't know, plus d of e will definitely encourage you to communicate with your team.
it also looks rather good on your cv. but d of e is not that fun in february, when it rains and the field is full of mud.
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