fed up with what i live with

i live with my parents and have just hovered (sp) the whole house. my mum started shouting cause 3 of my books were on the stairs read to be brought up she said put them in my room but theres some large bookshelves on the landing so i started putting them on there and said' i'l just push them in here' and she ran up to me screaming and slapping shouting what did you say then :confused:

when i repeated it she said no you didnt you swore i was like no i didnt get your ears checked she said 'well you talk like a ret***d' then speak proper' and my face is now full of scratches when i mentioned it she said 'ure face is full of scabs anyway' lol! I admit i have a few spots but not scabs :rolleyes:

Furthermore shes just noticed a tiny scratch on her face dunno which one of us did it lol, shes gone yelling at my dad about it telling him to chuck me out shes had enough :confused:

lol i find her pathetic but what can i do? was i in the wrong in anyway? cause little things like this just cause explosive arguments.
I cant even go and sit down next to her without her saying get lost i dont want you near me. Plus shes always saying im a loser with no friends which is embarrasing when a parent says it but its kinda true at the moment so i cant really call her. I cant afford to move out

I know its boring but thanks for listenin :redface:

Reply 1

laura789

9

exactly the same things happen to me. one word. menopause

Reply 2

alio~

OP

9

laura789

exactly the same things happen to me. one word. menopause

I suppose though puberty was no excuse for us ..at least not me lol

Reply 3

magiccarpet

2

my mom gets like that. are u at uni? if so, if you say to ur doc ur mom made those scars on ur face, he writes that down and sends it to the student loan people, they'll give u a full loan to help u move out

Reply 4

Cellardore

11

alio~

i live with my parents and have just hovered (sp) the whole house. my mum started shouting cause 3 of my books were on the stairs read to be brought up she said put them in my room but theres some large bookshelves on the landing so i started putting them on there and said' i'l just push them in here' and she ran up to me screaming and slapping shouting what did you say then :confused:

when i repeated it she said no you didnt you swore i was like no i didnt get your ears checked she said 'well you talk like a ret***d' then speak proper' and my face is now full of scratches when i mentioned it she said 'ure face is full of scabs anyway' lol! I admit i have a few spots but not scabs :rolleyes:

Furthermore shes just noticed a tiny scratch on her face dunno which one of us did it lol, shes gone yelling at my dad about it telling him to chuck me out shes had enough :confused:

lol i find her pathetic but what can i do? was i in the wrong in anyway? cause little things like this just cause explosive arguments.
I cant even go and sit down next to her without her saying get lost i dont want you near me. Plus shes always saying im a loser with no friends which is embarrasing when a parent says it but its kinda true at the moment so i cant really call her. I cant afford to move out

I know its boring but thanks for listenin :redface:

lol welcome to my world. That kind of environment is normal in my house.
I swear my dad thinks i'm a slave rather than his daughter. Last weekend he made me clean his car for literally half the day and is very controlling over my life. Every single friend i've made he's always been critical over and if ever i want to go out (which is rare because he always makes a big issue over it) he kicks up a fuss about it asking about 50 questions before i leave the house :mad:

He is also very critical over what i wear and thinks that the clothes i wear are too old for me or he will generally try and put me down. I can't remember the last time he gave me compliment. And he wonders why i don't talk to him :rolleyes:

i swear me and my dad could argue in an empty house.

Reply 5

alio~

OP

9

magiccarpet

my mom gets like that. are u at uni? if so, if you say to ur doc ur mom made those scars on ur face, he writes that down and sends it to the student loan people, they'll give u a full loan to help u move out

the thing is i have everything i need here including pets to look after plus i dont like the thought of living on my own. I can cope its just my mum who wants me out one minute then is fine the next. Just wish she'd stop calling me

Reply 6

_poptart_

2

i know exactly how ya feel! I dont think i do anything more annoying than anyone else in my family yet it is always me that gets made the scapegoat for anything that goes wrong, even when it blatantly isnt my fault!
I think there just comes a point when you need space from your parents.. roll on uni! I find the best thing to do is just ignore it all - its petty and isnt exactly helping anyone is it? Easier said than done I know

Reply 7

BlackHawk

17

can I just ask what the problem was with putting the books away where they should have gone?

Reply 8

*starry_eyed_*

14

aww hun i feel for ya! life at home with the 'rents is hard for everyone, cos of different reasons. i can't really tell ya what to do, but hang in there!

Reply 9

Emma05

I feel for you but it will get better if you are old engough why not move out at get a flat with some mates just an idea

Reply 10

Cheeky_Lickle_H

I know what you mean..as I'm sure do many people on here. Parents can be the worst as you're getting ready to leave. I tend to go to school, stay in my room, etc. to avoid stuff. But I know you can't hide forever

Reply 11

trixx

11

Same thing in my house. I just go out all the time to avoid situations. Can't wait till October. They don't realise how much they are gonna miss me.

Reply 12

Herleif

Cellardore

lol welcome to my world. That kind of environment is normal in my house.
I swear my dad thinks i'm a slave rather than his daughter. Last weekend he made me clean his car for literally half the day and is very controlling over my life. Every single friend i've made he's always been critical over and if ever i want to go out (which is rare because he always makes a big issue over it) he kicks up a fuss about it asking about 50 questions before i leave the house :mad:

He is also very critical over what i wear and thinks that the clothes i wear are too old for me or he will generally try and put me down. I can't remember the last time he gave me compliment. And he wonders why i don't talk to him :rolleyes:

i swear me and my dad could argue in an empty house.

I dont want to go out anymore because its just not worth it considering the detailed plan of my evening i have to give. Including 1) where im going 2) who with 3) times at each destination 4) when getting back 5) done enough work??

God im too broken in spirit to want to go out. Uni is gonna be such a breath of fresh air :biggrin:

Reply 13

alio~

OP

9

BlackHawk

can I just ask what the problem was with putting the books away where they should have gone?

she said put them in my room which is only tiny and i didnt want to clumber it up lol there was space on the bookshelf and thats where the rest of the family put their education books so i didnt see a problem

anyway shes been laughing since shes ok now :confused:

I can relate to everyone of your posts i suppose its just 'normal' family life innit :redface:

Reply 14

david cool

10

I aint taking the mick , maybe ur mum has a real problem , coz I have a cousin thats really wild and will argue about anything if he doesnt get his way (and hes 17 !) and will try to start fights when I walk with him , (maybe hes taking to show hes tough) but I dont really like him that much.

Reply 15

Juno

20

magiccarpet

my mom gets like that. are u at uni? if so, if you say to ur doc ur mom made those scars on ur face, he writes that down and sends it to the student loan people, they'll give u a full loan to help u move out

Um, no actually

Reply 16

magiccarpet

2

Juno

Um, no actually

umm.....yes actually. if you get a note from the professional person eg a doc/counsellor/teacher saying they are aware of your family prob, your parents dont need to provide any info on their income, and u count as an independant student. i know cos i've helped my frind with depression apply for her loan without her parents- they hate her and dont talk to her and refuse to pay for her

call student finance direct and ask them if u dont believe me, or read the leaflet that comes with the forms, or pm me for more info :top:

dont worry with juno, she's just being nasty and ignorant b**ch as usual. but people on here are getting pretty used to that, especially from her attention seeking and insensitive comments on the 'Help' rape thread.

Reply 17

Luize

13

magiccarpet

umm.....yes actually. if you get a note from the professional person eg a doc/counsellor/teacher saying they are aware of your family prob, your parents dont need to provide any info on their income, and u count as an independant student. i know cos i've helped my frind with depression apply for her loan without her parents- they hate her and dont talk to her and refuse to pay for her

call student finance direct and ask them if u dont believe me, or read the leaflet that comes with the forms, or pm me for more info :top:

dont worry with juno, she's just being nasty and ignorant b**ch as usual. but people on here are getting pretty used to that, especially from her attention seeking and insensitive comments on the 'Help' rape thread.

Juno is right. I don't doubt that the SLC will help you out if you have a serious problem with family.
By saying that to a Doctor you are opening a huge dilemma. It could and most likely would get other forces involved, police, social workers (depending on age). Abuse is a really serious matter and what was described doesn't sound like abuse. It just sounds like an argument that got out of hand.
It could cause serious problem for the parents.
It's just wrong to do it to just get some money.

Reply 18

BlackHawk

17

magiccarpet

umm.....yes actually. if you get a note from the professional person eg a doc/counsellor/teacher saying they are aware of your family prob, your parents dont need to provide any info on their income, and u count as an independant student. i know cos i've helped my frind with depression apply for her loan without her parents- they hate her and dont talk to her and refuse to pay for her

call student finance direct and ask them if u dont believe me, or read the leaflet that comes with the forms, or pm me for more info :top:

dont worry with juno, she's just being nasty and ignorant b**ch as usual. but people on here are getting pretty used to that, especially from her attention seeking and insensitive comments on the 'Help' rape thread.

That is utter rubbish. You need to prove to a counsellor that you are independant of your family and in most cases for three years. You almost must provide detailed accounts of financial ingoings and outgoings. My parents refused to pay for me to go to uni, I went through all the channels and still ended up paying for it myself.

I think you calling someone ignorant, especially juno is rich.

Reply 19

niamhster

10

BlackHawk

That is utter rubbish. You need to prove to a counsellor that you are independant of your family and in most cases for three years. You almost must provide detailed accounts of financial ingoings and outgoings. My parents refused to pay for me to go to uni, I went through all the channels and still ended up paying for it myself.

I think you calling someone ignorant, especially juno is rich.

I think what was trying to be said was, in exceptional circumstances if someone comes from a difficult background that may prevent them from going to university.

A doctor's letter or some other professional can provide a back up letter about the individual's circumstances, that will allow them to apply for finance either a bursary or loan independantly without the parents needing to contribute.

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