Don't know what to do about these 2 guys.....

It's hard having a long-distance relationship like that. The chances are that you will drift apart. It sounds like what you had is already starting to wear off, as you say he is contacting you less etc. Also you said you were only together for a short period of time. In order for a relationship to last in such circumstances it would have to be really solid to start with.
So, i wouldn't have thought that he would expect you to wait for him, or to be waiting when he gets back. If you are single when he gets back, then obviously there will be something there still and you could probably pick up the romance where it left off.
I say go with the flow. If something happens with this other guy at uni, let it happen. Don't think about it or analyse it so much, just let your heart decide Obviously you will still have feelings for the other guy, but they are already fading.
Spend time with the other guy on a more one-on-one kind of level, as you only know him as a friend, and take it from there.
Hope it all works out ok, luv lil_crazyflakes

Thanks lil_crazyflakes I mean we never agreed to have a relationship, or to wait for each other or anything....and he could have met lots of nice girls on his travels...

The uni guy is really shy so I think I'd have to make the first move, which I'm kind of reluctant to do in case he doesn't feel the same....

Ruthie xx

I say go with guy number 2. To be perfectly frank I doubt traveller man is waiting. If you'd been together a while and sat down to discuss it before he left then perhaps. But it's such a long time and like you said things are already fading slightly. See how you get on with guy 2 is my advice!

.....You and the travelling guy didn't make any promises to each other. If nothing materalises with the uni guy then maybe the travelling guy will be back in the picture when he gets back - but I don't think he'd begrudge you having found somebody else in the meantime when between you and him it was just kissing rather than a committed relationship. Travelling changes your perspective on a lot of things and I should think he'd want you to share the same freedom.......

Yeah he is right,it's great that you're frinds already because you already have something to base a relationship on, and you already know you get on

But what if he doesn't feel the same and I ruin the friendship

Ruthie xx

That's why i said to see him in a neutral kind of environment. Then you won't scare him off, but if he feels the same way, you will be able to tell as it's just the two of you. Just don't come on too strong, guage how he feels about you from how he acts.

I would say from having been in a just the two of us several times before ,that he likes me, i mean he finds stuff i say funny and sometimes winks at me and stuff....and if I ever give him a lift home he always invites me in for coffee...but he's really well mannered and stuff so he might be the same with all the girls...

Ruthie xx

Get him drunk and then pull him

MB

Suppose that's one way of doing it lol......

But I would prefer him liking me to be actually true rather than through simple intoxication of alchoholic substances!!

Thanks for your input though, oh how i love your little comments

*hugs*

Ruthie xx

while a high level of alcohol might cause you to do things you don't mean to (normally passing out in strange places) low levels generally just make yu lose your inhibitions - he wouldn't be just doing it cos he was drunk.

MB

while a high level of alcohol might cause you to do things you don't mean to (normally passing out in strange places) low levels generally just make yu lose your inhibitions - he wouldn't be just doing it cos he was drunk.

MB

Hmmm.....perhaps i could lace his cofee with something.......

Ruthie xx