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Clingyness
Hi well i was thinking ill ask girls what they think,pretty straight forward do girls like it when men are clingy?I am very clingy i like hugging 24/7 and kiss at any possible time but it strikes as some girls dont like stuff like that i just wanted to know what more preferred clingy or not clingy? 
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Reply 2
As with most things in life there's a happy medium I would say. Clingy has negative connotations. It's definitely important to be able to do things other than kiss and hug and be affectionate. I would prefer more affection than less affection and these things probably balance themselves out quite well after a while anyway. If you're totally in love with someone and happy with them etc then clingy isn't even the right word
Reply 3
Raziel
OP
allisandro
i like my boyfriend to be affectionate, as long as it's appropriate! it's not nice to be out with a couple of friends who are constantly snogging or whatever, but it's nice to feel loved. just needs to be within reason!
obviously wouldnt be like not stop snogging because i find that quiet annoying i just meant like when you are out walking on your own then just feel like turning around and give a hug or kiss or something and holding hands or link arms that i think is got to be a must do thing, then like when watching a film at home or something then hugs and kisses shall be given at all times lol
Reply 4
I put don't mind either- but I really wanted to put clingyness within reason as has already been said....
Lots of hugs and kisses are of course very necessary but again over clingyness can make things very difficult when 1) in a public place 2) when you want to do something independently of the other person....
Too much clingy can also lead to you neglecting your friends and stuff which of course isn't a good thing to do (speaking from experience
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Ruthie xx
Lots of hugs and kisses are of course very necessary but again over clingyness can make things very difficult when 1) in a public place 2) when you want to do something independently of the other person....
Too much clingy can also lead to you neglecting your friends and stuff which of course isn't a good thing to do (speaking from experience
) Ruthie xx
Reply 5
As a man, I hate clingy women.
It would be different if in a relationship, but if not, I hate it.
It would be different if in a relationship, but if not, I hate it.
Reply 6
Raziel
obviously wouldnt be like not stop snogging because i find that quiet annoying i just meant like when you are out walking on your own then just feel like turning around and give a hug or kiss or something and holding hands or link arms that i think is got to be a must do thing, then like when watching a film at home or something then hugs and kisses shall be given at all times lol
Damn right you should
I wouldn't like someone's tongue constantly down my throat in public, but if you are with someone then i like to feel like it. Like holding hands walking down the street etc. Also i like the constant texting and stuff, emotional clininess not just physical clinginess.
Reply 7
Raziel
OP
The Doc
As a man, I hate clingy women.
It would be different if in a relationship, but if not, I hate it.
It would be different if in a relationship, but if not, I hate it.
so you are saying you'll have a clingy girlfriend?i think is sweet when girls are clingy, to me all kinds of clingyness is good cant ever have enough clingyness lol
but there is got to be a balance between sweet clingyness and just being plain dodgy in front of all your friends family etc
affectionate is good. calling/texting constantly and hugging constantly is NOT good. it's different if you're watching a film and snuggling or whatever. but pda's are the worst thing ever and really embarrassing. a guy i was with used to try to hug me or kiss me in practicals, omg i hated it so much.
Reply 9
Lozza
affectionate is good. calling/texting constantly and hugging constantly is NOT good. it's different if you're watching a film and snuggling or whatever. but pda's are the worst thing ever and really embarrassing. a guy i was with used to try to hug me or kiss me in practicals, omg i hated it so much.
Yeh obviously that is an example of a bad situation, but what about just being together when you are out, or walking down the street or something. Obviously you don't want someone all over you in class, but i like feeling wanted
Reply 10
if u're in love, then it's brill.......u want to be affectionate as much as possible. everything feels perfect. so i wouldn't use the negative term 'clingy' in this case.
but i have previously had very clingy guys which i didn't love, and that was SO annoying. but as i said, when u're in love......the more txts/fone calls/emails/affection.......the better keeps u smiling all the time!
but i have previously had very clingy guys which i didn't love, and that was SO annoying. but as i said, when u're in love......the more txts/fone calls/emails/affection.......the better
keeps u smiling all the time!Reply 11
wonkey
if u're in love, then it's brill.......u want to be affectionate as much as possible. everything feels perfect. so i wouldn't use the negative term 'clingy' in this case.
but i have previously had very clingy guys which i didn't love, and that was SO annoying. but as i said, when u're in love......the more txts/fone calls/emails/affection.......the better keeps u smiling all the time!
but i have previously had very clingy guys which i didn't love, and that was SO annoying. but as i said, when u're in love......the more txts/fone calls/emails/affection.......the better
keeps u smiling all the time!Exactly
hmm. i guess i need my own space. when u first get with sum1 u wanna be with them all the time. i do feel like that but i guess i'm also quite happy that i cant be with them all the time, thanks to lectures/work/pracs etc. if i was with sum1 24/7 i'd rapidly learn to hate them!
another example is a guy who likes me, we've had a few dates, still kinda together, but when i'm in a club with my friends he always comes up to me and tries to talk or dance and i'm like "hello?? im with my friends! piss off!!" i hate people forcing themselves on me, whether i like them or not.
another example is a guy who likes me, we've had a few dates, still kinda together, but when i'm in a club with my friends he always comes up to me and tries to talk or dance and i'm like "hello?? im with my friends! piss off!!" i hate people forcing themselves on me, whether i like them or not.
Reply 13
Raziel
Hi well i was thinking ill ask girls what they think,pretty straight forward do girls like it when men are clingy?I am very clingy i like hugging 24/7 and kiss at any possible time but it strikes as some girls dont like stuff like that i just wanted to know what more preferred clingy or not clingy?
hrm....sephiroth avatar....nice!
I think Im quite clingy but I always consciously tone it down because I know guys dont like it much. Im loving and affectionate and sometimes jealous but I try not to go ott. I do like clingy guys, its nice, but only when Im in love or obsession with them...when Im just in lust it can be too much and make me feel pressured. I spend the first stage of any relationship in doubt and confusion and if they presssure me I end up wanting to leave. Sometimes it takes me a month to settle in, sometimes a day, but after that Im less likely to get scared by clignynes.
Reply 14
Raziel
OP
everyone is different i understand how annoying that would be i wouldnt drag my girlfirend out off being with her friends but i certainly will take up any available opportunity to see her at any time and any place cos even after a year and a half i havent had enough hehe but wouldnt like to embarrass her by my clingyness ill keep it till the time is right hehe
but wouldnt like to embarrass her by my clingyness ill keep it till the time is right hehe Reply 15
Raziel
everyone is different i understand how annoying that would be i wouldnt drag my girlfirend out off being with her friends but i certainly will take up any available opportunity to see her at any time and any place cos even after a year and a half i havent had enough hehe but wouldnt like to embarrass her by my clingyness ill keep it till the time is right hehe
but wouldnt like to embarrass her by my clingyness ill keep it till the time is right hehe 
Reply 16
Raziel
so you are saying you'll have a clingy girlfriend?i think is sweet when girls are clingy, to me all kinds of clingyness is good cant ever have enough clingyness lol
but there is got to be a balance between sweet clingyness and just being plain dodgy in front of all your friends family etc
but there is got to be a balance between sweet clingyness and just being plain dodgy in front of all your friends family etc
Well personal preference.
To me, there are certain things which are for relationships only, like texting/calling 24/7, sex, that sort of thing.
If I am not in a relationship with a clingy person, I find it annoying and intrusive....
Reply 17
Lozza
affectionate is good. calling/texting constantly and hugging constantly is NOT good. it's different if you're watching a film and snuggling or whatever. but pda's are the worst thing ever and really embarrassing. a guy i was with used to try to hug me or kiss me in practicals, omg i hated it so much.
totally agree, pdas should be kept minimal. no snogging in tv room for instance.
englishstudent
As with most things in life there's a happy medium I would say. Clingy has negative connotations. It's definitely important to be able to do things other than kiss and hug and be affectionate. I would prefer more affection than less affection and these things probably balance themselves out quite well after a while anyway. If you're totally in love with someone and happy with them etc then clingy isn't even the right word
Well said!
I think "clingy" is a horrible word and if you are seeing something as clingy it surely means that there is something wrong with your relationship. In my eyes, I can't really see any affection as TOO MUCH unless it was really unrequited. Generally speaking the more the better. That doesn't necessarily mean more hugs and kisses but generally more quality time together. I wouldn't start suffocating if I had too much time together with someone who's most important to me.
On the other hand, you obviously want to do other things - but whatever those things are, I'm more likely to prefer them with my partner.Reply 19
I like a girl who can manage without me, but doesn't particularly want to.
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