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Parents who don't understand A levels

OMG!!! Does anyone else have this problem? Neither of my parents went to college and have no idea. Exams come around and when i cant clean the house for them, they have a go at me. They have no concept of the amount of work i have to do. It stresses me out so much. They treat is as just an excuse so i can sit in my room. I also work 3nights a week and am really struggling and just can't deal with the added stress! sorry to rant but i needed to get it off my chest!

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my mom wasnt content with my forecast A at parents evening, so she asked my teacher why wasnt i going to get a n A* for my alevel.

she didnt know my subjects eitherrr
Reply 2
My mum was the same but as she so rightly put it, she has just as much stress in work and after a 10 hour shift she doesnt want to have to come home and clean either but it's gotta be done and since I live there I should help too.
Reply 3
I have a similar thing.
My Dad keeps telling me to work and asking if I have been doiing enough studying. Then in the next breath he will tell me that I need to relax and stop working so hard because I will make myself ill. And then gives me a lecture on eating properly and getting enough sleep etc.

He just doesn't seem to be able to get a balance.
Reply 4
I've tried, i do help but i dont need the massive lecture for not having taken up my washing. They scream at me for the tiniest things and blow everything out of proportion. I've gotta work cause my dad tells me i need to stand on my own two feet and won't give me much money and i've gotta run my car. I'm taking off holiday running up to exams to give me a chance.
Yep absolutely!

It was like just because I got A grades at GCSE then it was just assumed i would get the same at A level.

I was just like, 'dude, wtf??!!11oneone' in not so many words. :smile:
I find it amazing, the amount of stress you lot go through over A-levels. Just ignore your parents like I used to do. :biggrin:
Reply 7
Inverurie Jones
I find it amazing, the amount of stress you lot go through over A-levels. Just ignore your parents like I used to do. :biggrin:



yes,i think ignoring is the best option.but it's hard because you feel as if everythings gettign out of control, and whatever you do is wrong.i'm majorly stressed right now
Reply 8
My mum understands but my dad keeps calling me lazy because he normally asks me to do a job for him when I'm studying soI can't do it for him straight away. I normally say I'll do it when I'm finished and explain why its important. Another thing he says is "Come on, you've done enough now" even though I've only just started revising or am nowhere near finished.
Reply 9
My parents are the same! It is so bloody annoying. I'm doing my final assignments for my degree, and I am so stressed out but they have no idea! They still getting on my case, does my head in! ARGH!
Reply 10
thank god my parents both work in schools.

i became a total recluse during my a levels and refused to come out of my room.
Reply 11
luck or unluck for me my parents understand all about A-level as my brother took them the year before.

if you parents don't understand about you exams, then you don't have to worry about having to get better a-levels than you brother/sister. i am expected to study extra hard and getgood grades, work and help around the house. plus i get them every minute asking whether i've done enough revision for the day!!
Reply 12
What you need to do is sit down a nd write a biography entitled "my parents ****ed my exams" then we will burn all copies cos you are soooooooooo boring. This is not a problem, this is life, get used to it. Bloody cry babies.
This is exactly why I didn't go to uni in london - I had to escape from housework - I'm capable of keeping my bedsit as tidy as it need be.

MB
Reply 14
twinkledust
OMG!!! Does anyone else have this problem? Neither of my parents went to college and have no idea. Exams come around and when i cant clean the house for them, they have a go at me. They have no concept of the amount of work i have to do. It stresses me out so much. They treat is as just an excuse so i can sit in my room. I also work 3nights a week and am really struggling and just can't deal with the added stress! sorry to rant but i needed to get it off my chest!


One evening annoy them that you need some help with your revison. Hand them some papers with the most difficult stuff on it and tell them to ask you questions about it to see if you know the answers. then moan how that is just the basics that you need to know and how you have a 100 other pages just like that and just don't have time to learn it all...
lol, just bascially not only tell them how hard the work is, show them... shock them :wink:

These are just a few weeks and they will determin your future, it is stupid of them to make you work around the house too much, because these marks might determine which uni you go to and then that maybe on which job you get later, etc. Try and make them understand that, that it's a lot of work but that it's only for this short time.
Reply 15
well my parents don't know anything about IB diploma or british education system and tbh they're so dull when i try to explain them anything about it so i gave up :rolleyes:

last week when i was doing my homework till 2 a.m. mum was so anxious and kept asking me if everything was ok if i didn!t wanna change school etc. :eek:
Reply 16
im lucky, my mum is a teacher of languages (i do french germran spanish english) so she understands exactly. oonly problem with that is that she knows EXACTLY what i should be doing and when lol
twinkledust
OMG!!! Does anyone else have this problem? Neither of my parents went to college and have no idea. Exams come around and when i cant clean the house for them, they have a go at me. They have no concept of the amount of work i have to do. It stresses me out so much. They treat is as just an excuse so i can sit in my room. I also work 3nights a week and am really struggling and just can't deal with the added stress! sorry to rant but i needed to get it off my chest!


Yeah that must be so annoying.

Hmmm... how nice is your form tutor? Maybe ask him to phone up your parents and chat to them about how much work you have to do... he could even say you're suffering and achieving less because of the work you have to do :rolleyes:
Reply 18
twinkledust
OMG!!! Does anyone else have this problem? Neither of my parents went to college and have no idea. Exams come around and when i cant clean the house for them, they have a go at me. They have no concept of the amount of work i have to do. It stresses me out so much. They treat is as just an excuse so i can sit in my room. I also work 3nights a week and am really struggling and just can't deal with the added stress! sorry to rant but i needed to get it off my chest!

get someone experienced to show 'em what you mean. then they'll listen...
Reply 19
My mum didn't know what subjects i was doing. I worked 3 days a week the first time i did my A levels, and 5 days a week second time round. Still called me lazy.