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Okay i hate posting convos paticularly long ones..but one of my best friends said something that has completely freaked out and i want to know if i responded okay.


Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
um.. can i ask you a massive, so big you'll go what favour cat?

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
go on

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
no harm in asking

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
well, i've um... not been with a woman in a long time

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
and eh... i was wondering if... y'know, me and you could y'know...

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
.

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
i know it's like a huge thing to ask of you, and i know you'd say no, but as you said, "no harm asking".

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
you havent asked you've said you know alot..... im kinda still in the dark

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
ok

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
i was wondering if you'd have sexual intercourse with me, as a favour

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
that clear enough?

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
yes thats a clear enough request

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
thought so

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
i'll understand if you say no and think less of me now

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
i wont think less of you. but the truth is i have only slept with two people in my entire life and i was inlove with both, though tell craig that and i'll kick you very hard

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
my lips are sealed

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
it's ok cat, i understand completely

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
okay good. was that why you were funny with me earlier in the week?

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
no, it wasn't actually

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
it was the usual sunday blues i get

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
oh. i dont get the blues all that often

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
i do, every sunday

Mj: nailing jelly to a tree because its easier than finding a good man says:
oh

Hamwise - I'll wait for you, but I can't wait forever says:
yeah. your bro is very complicated


Did i respond okay?

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Reply 1

Yeah, very calm considering the request!

Reply 2

good. was he really inferring i was a slut though? i dotn get where he got the idea from, me and him have never been like that we're like brother and sister

Reply 3

I'd be VERY angry if someone asked me that in a serious manner.

Reply 4

M-J
good. was he really inferring i was a slut though? i dotn get where he got the idea from, me and him have never been like that we're like brother and sister


I don't think so. :confused:

I have never seen anyone ask that though, so I could be wrong.

Reply 5

im so lost for what to do now this guy is like my brother he beats people up who are mean to me, he takes me to the movies, hes not meant to want to sleep with me

Reply 6

That is very weird....

Reply 7

When he said he hadn't been with a woman for a very long time, I thought he was gonna ask to borrow some porn or something :confused:

Reply 8

kingslaw
When he said he hadn't been with a woman for a very long time, I thought he was gonna ask to borrow some porn or something :confused:

thats where i thought it was going, or he wanted me to fix him up with someone or something

Reply 9

hrm, my ex pretty much asked me the same thing. It sounds like the friend was trying their luck, to see how far you'd gone. I suspect they knew you would say no, but wanted to have a try. Some people will try anything. You responded fine though.

Reply 10

M-J
im so lost for what to do now this guy is like my brother he beats people up who are mean to me, he takes me to the movies, hes not meant to want to sleep with me


Generally when guys take you places and hurt people for you, it's because they want into your pants. It's like code "Hey, shall I hit these people for you?" means "Hey, lets procreate!"

Reply 11

I think some guys are just like that. Not to me personally, but i have a few guy friends that have asked just other good mates to sleep with them. Not go out with them in that way, just sleep with them because they have been single in a while. I think you handled it really well though :smile:

Reply 12

thanks everyone for your oppinion its just really hard because a year ago he admitted to being madly in love with me,

so i was actually confused as to whether he wanted to sleep with me in paticular or just that i was the nearest girl around

Reply 13

very calm reaction... very very...

Reply 14

set him up with mir - he's desperate for some action.

MB

Reply 15

musicboy
set him up with mir - he's desperate for some action.

MB

:eek:
Lol :smile: quality quote once again!!

Ruthie xx

Reply 16

M-J
good. was he really inferring i was a slut though? i dotn get where he got the idea from, me and him have never been like that we're like brother and sister

Nah i don't think he would think you were a slut. He probably just felt down or something and thought that having sex would cheer him up and since he couldn't get any, a friend could help him out? :redface:
He obviously thinks of you as an attractive girl if he is willing to have sex with you so don't be offended just take it as a (very strange) way of complimenting you. :smile:

Reply 17

lessthanthree
That's actually happened to me, but it wasn't nearly as polite.

I didn't think less of the person, or question their idea of me [as a slut/whatever]..I Understand that sometimes people have urges/wants/needs and sometimes they feel as though they need someone they can trust to facilitate that.

I was and still am, however in a fabbity-fab relationship, and said no (:

...and it was the saddest moment of my life :bawling:

Reply 18

need_money
Nah i don't think he would think you were a slut. He probably just felt down or something and thought that having sex would cheer him up and since he couldn't get any, a friend could help him out? :redface:
He obviously thinks of you as an attractive girl if he is willing to have sex with you so don't be offended just take it as a (very strange) way of complimenting you. :smile:

i suppose it is a bizzare compliment. well for an update i told my mum and now shes really shocked!

Reply 19

Butterfly
I'd be VERY angry if someone asked me that in a serious manner.


so would i. it sort of impolies u are a slut- they think you are friends so u r prepared to be F**k buddies.i'd be so insulted if one of my mates asked me that