i've got a mate in first year, really good lad who's just coming up to taking his first lot of exams. he just mentions all the time something that's folowed him through his whole year and i reckon it could ruin his success. i don't know wat to say.
basically he came to uni quite shy and reserved but we soon got him over that and he ended up pulling this girl in freshers week. Apparantly she tells him she'd made the promise not to sleep with anyone in the first term of uni but they do pretty much everything else etc etc. He then becomes really close to this girl, thinking she is genuine. Ends up three weeks down the line after she's told him nothings going to happen she's having a one night stand with some guy in college. if that happened to me i'd be gutted and seriously pssed of. That's y i can't think of any advice to give to help him get over it. Anybody been in a similar situation??
She's clearly not worth it. He should find himself someone genuine.
hmmm..thats a though one pal. well...its life though..so its a lesson for him, a rather nasty one though...worra b*thc she's been... not a good thing just before the exams n all. Try n tell him he deserve someone better.
I think I'd be upset if that happend to me, (if you reversed the genders, because Im a girl)
I still havent gotten over something that happened in my first year, 2 years ago
the past is something that is exceptionally tricky to let go of. Many of us find it hard to move on, and the main reason for that is that we havent found something better. If he loved this girl, but hasnt loved anyone since, it will be hard to forget her. If he had his ego damaged, but no one has restored it since by fancying him madly, then that may be the issue. If he now feels rejected, and hasnt met someone good and kind to show him not everyone will reject him, the same applies. To get over the past, we must have some hope for the future, some evidence that it will be good, better than the past, even. Give your friend hope with words of encouragement, help him find someone who will treat him much better than this girl did, and remind him that he has your friendship - someone to listen whenever he's down, even if you've heard it a thousand times before. Show him you'll always, always be ready to listen again, if thats what he needs.
yeah i see wot you're saying. thing is, everyone knows the story apart from what she said to him about sleeping with no one in the first term. they just know she slept with this one guy but wouldn't sleep with him. She's come out without the btich label and he's come out looking an idiot (his words not mine). i suppose he just thinks he should set the record straight for his own sanity.
Murder her with hooks. It's the only way.
the world is full of hoes like these... he's new to the game and fell for it, in future he'll be stronger as he would have learned from this.
Best thing to do would be to get him laid, and tell him that she's a who*e, and make him see that she isn't worthy of any of the feelings he has for her.
There isnt something magical you can say, its going to hurt, but if you go and pull random girls in clubs this is what you have to put up with, you are either in the game or you're not, if he is in he had better start playing smart.