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Has anyone ever fooled around with some you did not find all that attracttive! Just because you knew you were better looking than them and so would not have to worry about how you look because they are lucky to have you?

Basically just using them!

Come on be honest!

Reply 1

davesmate

i don't think that you would necessarily be using someone. why do you?

Reply 2

smiler87

yeah, if i'm being totally honest. I'd just split up with someone that meant a lot to me cos he cheated on me and i needed a bit of an ego boost! I admit it wasn't the nicest way to treat someone but there's 2 sides to everything adn I think we both got something out of it so I don't feel 2 bad about it.

Reply 3

Cazzi

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benieam

Has anyone ever fooled around with some you did not find all that attracttive! Just because you knew you were better looking than them and so would not have to worry about how you look because they are lucky to have you?

Basically just using them!

Come on be honest!

only when i was 15, i felt guilty the whole time tho! :rolleyes:

Reply 4

benieam

OP

davesmate

i don't think that you would necessarily be using someone. why do you?

I guess it depends on the indvidual it could be argued that they are getting some thing out of it aswell and that both people are using one and another.

But I do think it is using them.

Reply 5

saz_1989

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I've never done it with someone who was unattractive, but I have with people I haven't been attracted to. It all ends in tears because usually if you don't like them, they like you (otherwise how would you end up together?) and when they find out you're not serious and in fact are seeing other people, they get pissed off and upset. Best way is to go for the person you like and make sure everyone knows where they stand.

Reply 6

Raziel

yeh absolutely! it gives your ego a boost and it amuses you when you get bored, yes i have done it more than once :biggrin:

but even

so i perfectly know thats not the way to treat people

is mean! :eek:

Reply 7

puppy

I wouldn't say I have mainly because I can't imagine thinking someone was 'lucky to have me', surely you have to be pretty arrogant to think like that?

Reply 8

musicbloke

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puppy

I wouldn't say I have mainly because I can't imagine thinking someone was 'lucky to have me', surely you have to be pretty arrogant to think like that?

how humble of you. I have to say if a girl was less attractive than me then I wouldn't go ith her but for that to be the case she'd hav to be f*cking hideous.

MB

Reply 9

Flicker

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benieam

Has anyone ever fooled around with some you did not find all that attracttive! Just because you knew you were better looking than them and so would not have to worry about how you look because they are lucky to have you?

Basically just using them!

Come on be honest!

no. i don't think how people look determines how "good" they are anyway, or that it makes some people lucky to have others...just no.

Reply 10

puppy

musicboy

how humble of you. I have to say if a girl was less attractive than me then I wouldn't go ith her but for that to be the case she'd hav to be f*cking hideous.

MB

Humble? Was that sarcastic?

Reply 11

Sarky

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puppy

Humble? Was that sarcastic?

Musicboy is never sarcastic. He leaves that to me :wink:

Reply 12

musicbloke

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puppy

Humble? Was that sarcastic?

no, I'm on a sarcasm ban after yesterday (and apart from anything I'm only sarcastic to people who piss me off.

MB

Reply 13

saz_1989

2

why are you on a sarcasm ban? that just ruins tsr really

Reply 14

musicbloke

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Lozza

why are you on a sarcasm ban? that just ruins tsr really

self-imposed. TBH the likes of magiccarpet, gossipgirl and blueangel are still here so I probably won't be able to keep up with not being sarcastic.

MB

Reply 15

lil_crazyflakes

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Raziel

yeh absolutely! it gives your ego a boost and it amuses you when you get bored, yes i have done it more than once :biggrin:

but even

so i perfectly know thats not the way to treat people

is mean! :eek:

Reply 16

SamTheMan

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benieam

Has anyone ever fooled around with some you did not find all that attracttive! Just because you knew you were better looking than them and so would not have to worry about how you look because they are lucky to have you?

Basically just using them!

Come on be honest!

There's a well-known theory that you should always get on the dating ladder, accept offers whenever you can, even when the other person isn't that attractive.
You'll have more chance of having attractive partners later on, than if you decide that this person isn't attractive enough.

Just another random piece of info from the teenage guide to popularity.

Reply 17

SamTheMan

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lessthanthree

No, I'm not shallow enough to think "I'm prettier and they'll worship me" - I'm convinced that relationships are on even terms, and if you're not attracted to the person you're going out with, and you're with them because you think they'll dote on you because you're a bit out of their league, you're in it for the wrong reason.

I don't calculate like that. It's completely unfair on the other person.

How do you know your boyfriend isn't doing that with you?

Reply 18

benieam

OP

lessthanthree

No, I'm not shallow enough to think "I'm prettier and they'll worship me" - I'm convinced that relationships are on even terms, and if you're not attracted to the person you're going out with, and you're with them because you think they'll dote on you because you're a bit out of their league, you're in it for the wrong reason.

I don't calculate like that. It's completely unfair on the other person.

not only aimed at you lessthanthree, but why is it shallow to belive/know you are better looking than someone?

Reply 19

magiccarpet

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musicboy

how humble of you. I have to say if a girl was less attractive than me then I wouldn't go ith her but for that to be the case she'd hav to be f*cking hideous.

MB

awww

im sure thats not true!!

anyway. i am just going to be honest. in my entire life, i have only seen perhaps 8 people i would say are physically attractive. i have kissed one of them.my relationships (2) both been with people who have lovely caring personalities and they loved me and i loved them.but generally i dont think most people are good looking. and if i did find someone male or female to be truly beautiful i wouldnt find them sexually attractive, as it would seem wrong to f**k someone so perfect.

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