I had this sort of relationship for about 2 months. We'd been going out just over a year. My boyfriend was at Oxford Brookes and I was at Oxford. In the second half of the spring term I got quite rundown with coughs and colds and had a lot of work to do as well so wasn't getting better. This meant I got quite stressed and occasionally depressed.
Because I had a lot of work to do(occasionally 2 essays and problem sheet a week) and it took more effort to do it because I was ill, we didn't see each other as much and when we did, we bickered about everything and nothing. I got annoyed because I thought he didn't understand how much work I had on and he always went out with his friends and not me. We always did the same thing - cook a meal, watch a film, go to sleep. It was nice, but it gets a bit boring after a while. And when he was at uni and i was at home, I felt that I rarely heard from him and that I was making all the effort.
We haven't broken up. We had a fortnight of talking about everything and now things are really good again. We do go out and do different things more, although this is always easier when we are at home and don't have work to do. We do still sit and watch a film but now i think how nice it is to have a quiet night in. People do change and either you can break up and be friends (an option we considered but didn't want to do) or you can adjust if possible to the new people you've become. And also you have to accept that if you want a long-term relationship you can never keep that excitement and newness you feel in the first months of being with someone. It just doesn't happen I don't think. You just have to find other ways of appreciating and enjoying being with your boyfriend/girlfriend.