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Testing partners/friends/family reactions

Has anyone ever tested someone, i mean its sort of not something you intend to do in a malicious way. Like seeing how someone reacts to something you tell them, and them telling them you didn't mean it, as if you were testing their reaction?

Earlier tonight i was talking to my boyfriend earlier on msn and well, he has this thing for not really liking to talk on msn. anyone i was asking him how he was and he kept saying he didn't care, and he said that about me. and then asked me how i felt, and kept going on and on. i thought he was breaking up with me and he gave no signals that he wasn't. he let me think that.

it was only after an hour or so that he told me he wsn't splitting up with me and "maybe now you'll not take things so seriously..."

i was slightly shocked beofore. has anyone else done this? am i overreacting?

Reply 1

username18215

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Get over it...

Reply 2

username18215

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If you knew him, his habits and his opinions on msn then surely you could have used your intuition?

Perhap he was being mean, but i think you have learnt from it, although from his part i think an apology is in order.

Reply 3

queenselphie

I suppose we all play tricks, but you have to trust someone a bit and not do mean sneaky things.
the "tricks" I'd play would be psychoanalytical ones, like leaving my watch near him and seeing if he picks it up/puts it on/pushes it away/leaves it where it is, that sort of thing, for analysing their feelings.

Reply 4

xXMessedUpXx

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yup

thos we did have a heart-to-heart (ok me taking soemthing the wrong way and being pissy bout it, telling him he didn't care, him telling me not to take everything so seriously) about it.

i was just kinda shocked that he could do taht to me.but then im blaming myself thinking "i should't have taken him seriously" but its really hard not to espesh on msn etc

Reply 5

Piggsil

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I'm sure he wasn't being horrible, but that was obviously his way of telling you to lighten up - maybe there's an issue there?
You should talk to him about why he did that and get it sorted out. :smile:

Reply 6

xXMessedUpXx

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md_red_uk

If you knew him, his habits and his opinions on msn then surely you could have used your intuition?

Perhap he was being mean, but i think you have learnt from it, although from his part i think an apology is in order.

he's a difficult person to "read" at times

and he's kind of depressed atm so doesn't show his feelings.

i'm trying..

Reply 7

username18215

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I have to admit MSN allows you take any comment the way you want to and not how it was intended!

MSN and the internet in general actually!

Reply 8

pikaboo

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queenselphie

I suppose we all play tricks, but you have to trust someone a bit and not do mean sneaky things.
the "tricks" I'd play would be psychoanalytical ones, like leaving my watch near him and seeing if he picks it up/puts it on/pushes it away/leaves it where it is, that sort of thing, for analysing their feelings.

Cosmo trick! :eek:

Reply 9

Piggsil

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Also, MSN isn't a very good way of judging how someone is feeling because you can't hear their tone of voice. I never have serious conversations on MSN.

Reply 10

xXMessedUpXx

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i did ask him to call

and kinda told him i'd come and see him

Reply 11

Piggsil

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xXMessedUpXx

i did ask him to call

and kinda told him i'd come and see him

Talking in person is sooooooooo much better than MSN. Plan: Block him on MSN or just delete his contact so you're never tempted to try and speak to him online!

Reply 12

xXMessedUpXx

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he told me he'd call me later

so we'll see

Reply 13

erk

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queenselphie

I suppose we all play tricks, but you have to trust someone a bit and not do mean sneaky things.
the "tricks" I'd play would be psychoanalytical ones, like leaving my watch near him and seeing if he picks it up/puts it on/pushes it away/leaves it where it is, that sort of thing, for analysing their feelings.

Out of interest, how is a reaction to a watch related to feeling? and how do you analyse it?

A girlfriend once tested me to see if i was actually going where i said i was going - i didn't tell her it was obvious, she then tested to see if i would cheat. She was dumped 10mins later. :smile:

Reply 14

queenselphie

pikaboo

Cosmo trick! :eek:

seen it in a couple of mags now :smile:

Reply 15

queenselphie

erk

Out of interest, how is a reaction to a watch related to feeling? and how do you analyse it?

A girlfriend once tested me to see if i was actually going where i said i was going - i didn't tell her it was obvious, she then tested to see if i would cheat. She was dumped 10mins later. :smile:

I think them picking up your watch and playing with it is good, but them putting it on is better... I wish I could remember :/

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