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I need someone to love.

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Does anyone ever get really depressed when they don't have any romantic feelings in their life? I don't know what it is with me but i really really feel like i need someone to love or "obsess" over. It feels like every where i go, everyone else has boyfriends and girlfriends and i'm the only one without. :frown:

It probably sounds pathetic but it really is getting me down.
Even when i go on msn to try and escape all the lovey-dovey stuff i am faced with a million names like "blah blah Loves blah blah" :frown:

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Reply 1

Piggsil

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need_money

Does anyone ever get really depressed when they don't have any romantic feelings in their life? I don't know what it is with me but i really really feel like i need someone to love or "obsess" over. It feels like every where i go, everyone else has boyfriends and girlfriends and i'm the only one without. :frown:

It probably sounds pathetic but it really is getting me down.
Even when i go on msn to try and escape all the lovey-dovey stuff i am faced with a million names like "blah blah Loves blah blah" :frown:

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I've had this feeling before and it's not nice, and I've been on both sides of it. It's really hard sometimes, I know but you can't tell someone to stop being in love just because it upsets you. And btw, EVERYONE ELSE doesn't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. :biggrin:

Reply 2

erk

14

The fact is 99% of your friends don't know what love is. Your 14/15/15 ffs, does it really matter. Your role on this earth is to reproduce, you have plenty of time to do it - just kick back and have fun. :| :rolleyes:

Reply 3

Piggsil

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lessthanthree

I think it's probably mandatory on the list of "sad things that just have to happen in life" -being a bit upset about love and schtuff.

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I mean, there's nothing out there actively preventing you from seeing someone you like, and who knows, falling in love. I know it seems like everybody's happy in their little love bubbles, but I'm a firm believer in letting things like these just *happen* - because when you actively persue it, it seems so go a bit pear shaped.

Hear, hear. Things happen when you least expect them!!

Reply 4

lil_crazyflakes

12

Hugs i know how you feel, but someone WILL come along :smile:

When they do it will be great. In fact if you're anything like me than about 4 will come at once after ages of feeling unwanted and lonely *violins*.
Just enjoy going out with your mates and flirting with other guys while you can :wink:

Reply 5

need_money

OP

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erk

The fact is 99% of your friends don't know what love is. Your 14/15/15 ffs, does it really matter. Your role on this earth is to reproduce, you have plenty of time to do it - just kick back and have fun. :| :rolleyes:

No but thats the thing. I don't mean REAL love necessarily. Just that sort of fake stuff. :rolleyes:

I can't enjoy myself when all my friends have boyfriends though.

Reply 6

Piggsil

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need_money

No but thats the thing. I don't mean REAL love necessarily. Just that sort of fake stuff. :rolleyes:

I can't enjoy myself when all my friends have boyfriends though.

Maybe you should tell them how you feel, then ask them to come on a girls' night out with you!!

Reply 7

Aeris

15

I can identify with those feelings. I don't think they ever really go away until, alas, you have a boyfriend (even then....questionable). But everytime I have to make a decision, I can either let it get me down--which ultimately leads to swollen red eyes and too much chocolate :mad:

-- or I can think about something more constructive.

Reply 8

lil_crazyflakes

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Rebecca/Becca

Maybe you should tell them how you feel, then ask them to come on a girls' night out with you!!

Good idea. No boys allowed hehe

Reply 9

at least lara

1

n_m, half the people our age don't know what love is. and half of those who think they are in love spend so much time obsessing over that part of their life that they end up messing that relationship up anyway.

it can't be forced, n_m. focus on yourself a little bit more and be happy with who you are (*not meaning to sound like a hallmark card :redface:

* ). whoever does end up coming into your life should not be your only priority.

Reply 10

need_money

OP

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Rebecca/Becca

Maybe you should tell them how you feel, then ask them to come on a girls' night out with you!!

I like that idea :biggrin:

Reply 11

lil_crazyflakes

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xbellax

n_m, half the people our age don't know what love is. and half of those who think they are in love spend so much time obsessing over that part of their life that they end up messing that relationship up anyway.

it can't be forced, n_m. focus on yourself a little bit more and be happy with who you are (*not meaning to sound like a hallmark card :redface:

* ). whoever does end up coming into your life should not be your only priority.

Well said

You may get envious when you see your friends 'all loved up' but it's hassle, and right now it's better to be free and happy. Enjoy going out with friends and suchlike. They are probably envious of you too sometimes :smile:

Reply 12

RetiredAccount89

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But your idea of love is getting groped up by some spotty 19 year old oik (with his own car!!!!) after a few bottles of lambrini....

Reply 13

need_money

OP

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foolfarian

But your idea of love is getting groped up by some spotty 19 year old oik (with his own car!!!!) after a few bottles of lambrini....

a) i dont know any spotty 19 year olds.
b) I don't know any guys with his own car
c) i hardly drink lambrini

Get your facts right. :p:

Reply 14

visesh

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need_money

a) i dont know any spotty 19 year olds.
b) I don't know any guys with his own car

That could explain why you havent "found love" yet :p:

Reply 15

queenselphie

need_money

Does anyone ever get really depressed when they don't have any romantic feelings in their life? I don't know what it is with me but i really really feel like i need someone to love or "obsess" over. It feels like every where i go, everyone else has boyfriends and girlfriends and i'm the only one without. :frown:

It probably sounds pathetic but it really is getting me down.
Even when i go on msn to try and escape all the lovey-dovey stuff i am faced with a million names like "blah blah Loves blah blah" :frown:

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yes.

I feel like this a lot.

the point of my life is love and romance, so I feel wierd when Im not obsessed with someone. my crushes are very intense and overwelming when they happen. I miss them when I havent got someone. Even the painful bits are part of it, and I feel wierd when Im not longing for someone.

Also, right now Im feeling quite bitter about people who are happy in their relationships. I dont know why. its so mean of me. I just miss being in love :frown:

my love life is too confusing to comit to anyone right now, so it's all half measures, nothing full on obsessive, totally in love, really intense. It's all "maybe's" and "if"'s and "when"'s.

I used to have so many crushes when I was younger...the older I got, the less I had them. It worried me, because I liked having crushes. I wonder if Ive had my last big obsessive crush and that scares me. I dont want ONLY mature, settled love, I want wild crazy passionate longing too, high romance, and tragic tales of love lost, or forbidden.

damn crazy world :frown:

can you tell Im annoyed this evening? Someone close to me is making me jealous :frown:

Reply 16

RetiredAccount89

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need_money

a) i dont know any spotty 19 year olds.
b) I don't know any guys with his own car
c) i hardly drink lambrini

Get your facts right. :p:

Spotty 22 year olds then
using their mum's car
Drinking spirits and coke.

Reply 17

need_money

OP

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foolfarian

Spotty 22 year olds then
using their mum's car
Drinking spirits and coke.

Ok, 22 year olds, not spotty
Mums car, don't think so. People just walk here.
And buckfast.

Reply 18

covered farm wagon

11

Grr, I know just how you feel. I'm incredibly single right now and have been for, like, ever. I'm some sort of specialist in meaningless relationships; never really dated anyone for more than a few months, and it's never really had much emotion in it. And I'm studying abroad for a year in September, so it's not like I'm going to in the foreseeable future... wah! And when I come back I'll be having my 23rd birthday :eek:

If you want to have a steady boyfriend, think about the sort of man you want to attract. Not implying anything about you (I'm talking from my experience here), putting too much emphasis on sex etc in the beginning of a relationship will attract men who are just looking for that. Reputations, whether they're justified or not, are easy to get and difficult to lose. That's why I've decided to hang out in the MORSE building at uni - to see if I can bag me a statistician who will inevitably be bringing in an enormous income in a few years :wink:

Reply 19

xxSpicyChickenxx

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need_money

Does anyone ever get really depressed when they don't have any romantic feelings in their life? I don't know what it is with me but i really really feel like i need someone to love or "obsess" over. It feels like every where i go, everyone else has boyfriends and girlfriends and i'm the only one without. :frown:

It probably sounds pathetic but it really is getting me down.
Even when i go on msn to try and escape all the lovey-dovey stuff i am faced with a million names like "blah blah Loves blah blah" :frown:

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feeling the pain ... love hurts they say, but everyone wants it sometimes... :rolleyes:

or maybee just a fling. :smile:

I need someone to love.

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