the one u love turning up....

Flattered, they are doing something to really show they care, and that they do want you ,despite you thinking it's in their best interest not to. Wow i'd love it if someone did that for me, and definately would never turn them away whatever my reason for not wanting to see them anymore x

If the person Ive loved more than anyone else in the world came to my door, I'd be very surprised. We've spent the past two years avoiding each other because of a complicated love triangle (which then became a love square)
We are becoming friends again now, but not to the extent that he'd be at my door.
First, I'd assume he was there to see someone else in my house, as they vaugely know him, but if he told me he was there to see me, I'd be surprised, delighted, and overwelmed. I have very intense feelings about him and our joint past, so I'd probably get quite shaky and faint. I'd offer him a drink, bring him in, and be nervous and apprehensive about what he wanted, but excited, and hopeful too.
I get the same worries about calling on people unannounced. It's actually something I have a phobia of, nothing I can think of a name for other than "being where Im not supposed to be". Ive never found anyone who shares it. It's a sort of fear of being somewhere without an invite, a heightend sense of territory and politness. I used to hide behind the sofa when my mum put alice in wonderland on the tv because she goes to the mad hatters tea party uninvited. The bit where they discover her and tell her off for gatecrashing made me terrified, even as a toddler. So yes, I understand its scary to call on someone unannounced.

If the person Ive loved more than anyone else in the world came to my door, I'd be very surprised. We've spent the past two years avoiding each other because of a complicated love triangle (which then became a love square)
We are becoming friends again now, but not to the extent that he'd be at my door.
First, I'd assume he was there to see someone else in my house, as they vaugely know him, but if he told me he was there to see me, I'd be surprised, delighted, and overwelmed. I have very intense feelings about him and our joint past, so I'd probably get quite shaky and faint. I'd offer him a drink, bring him in, and be nervous and apprehensive about what he wanted, but excited, and hopeful too.
I get the same worries about calling on people unannounced. It's actually something I have a phobia of, nothing I can think of a name for other than "being where Im not supposed to be". Ive never found anyone who shares it. It's a sort of fear of being somewhere without an invite, a heightend sense of territory and politness. I used to hide behind the sofa when my mum put alice in wonderland on the tv because she goes to the mad hatters tea party uninvited. The bit where they discover her and tell her off for gatecrashing made me terrified, even as a toddler. So yes, I understand its scary to call on someone unannounced.

omg.......yeah this is a love traingle/square too!! still think i should go ahead?

it depends entirely on whether I meant what I said.

If I told you not to see me anymore, and you turned up, then I'd be pretty irritated.

However, if I was *only saying that* as a gesture to show that I think it's better for you if you're not with me, and you ignored me and still loved me and wanted to carry on, I'd probably be chuffed, deep down.

now the question is -why did they say it, and did they mean it?

nope, we saw each other on sunday but there were too many people around and we never got to speak. when i didn't turn up the sunday before, i was told how disappointed they were to have missed me. i know for a fact that it's 'i think its better for u if u're not with me' cos this has been going on for a while. i know neither of our feelings have changed........but i'm just worried i'll get chucked out and rejected.

I wonder why they think it's better for *you*. How peculiar.

If they missed you, I doubt you'd be popped out on your bum ^_^ - g'luck

thank u all for ur support! i think i will go ahead with it now on the day my exams finish. i've never been there so i'm just going to get a taxi from the station and sit and wait outside their house and it'll be a surprise when all of a sudden i'm right in front of their eyes! lol

Good luck, i really hope it works out. I know if someone did that for me i'd adore them lol x luv lil_crazyflakes x

how would u react if totally unexpectedly the one u love turns up at ur door after taking a very long journey and they've never done it before? but bearing in mind that u've decided to stop contacting them cos u think it's in their best interest. would u be angry if they turned up? would u tell them to go back home? or would u be over the moon that they've made the effort just to c u?!

thoughts pls!!

so your gf (or bf) has basically dunped u, and u are going to make a long trip to see them....
hmmmmm

no, its not about dumping here. he doesn't think he's gd enough 4 me and is trying to back off and leave me alone so i can move on and find someone better.

how would u react if totally unexpectedly the one u love turns up at ur door after taking a very long journey and they've never done it before? but bearing in mind that u've decided to stop contacting them cos u think it's in their best interest. would u be angry if they turned up? would u tell them to go back home? or would u be over the moon that they've made the effort just to c u?!

thoughts pls!!