Muslim girls and leaving home

Miss.A.T.S

Have any young Muslim girls who come from very strict/traditional/cultural/practicing family value families ever run away from home because of the religious "rules"? If so, what happened? Where did you go? And did your family come after you? Do you regret it now in terms of if your family disowned you?

Note: I dont want this thread to turn into a religous debate about Islam etc so please refrain from doing so.

Reply 1

Nim Zaheer

I'm a Muslim girl, and no, never felt the urge to run away.

Muslim girls, especially those growing up in a Western culture, tend to run if there's a boy involved :wink:

and the morals and beliefs of her family are pulling her back.

Why, is that what's up with you?
xxx

Reply 2

ttx

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Miss.A.T.S

Have any young Muslim girls who come from very strict/traditional/cultural/practicing family value families ever run away from home because of the religious "rules"? If so, what happened? Where did you go? And did your family come after you? Do you regret it now in terms of if your family disowned you?
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The topics come up a few times before, often in the context of parents not approving of their daughter moving away to uni, dating, or in a few cases forced marriages. University/(boy)friends/hostel seem to be the common escape routes.

Reply 3

tazarooni89

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Miss.A.T.S

Have any young Muslim girls who come from very strict/traditional/cultural/practicing family value families ever run away from home because of the religious "rules"?

Just to clarify your own beliefs:
Are you actually a Muslim?
Do you believe that the religious "rules" ought not to exist?
Did God make a mistake in making these rules?

Anyway: I think most of the time, families don't impose the rules onto their children because they're particularly religious. I think most of it comes down to "What will people think if they see my daughter running around with boys, when she isn't married to them?"
The Qur'an actually heavily condemns such people, who do Islamic things only to be seen by other people.

Reply 4

YannTouchable

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LOOL yet ANOTHER typical Religion vs. Religion vs. Atheists thread.....

We're in 2009 guys...21st century and all, religion is about as irrelevant today as prejudice.

and please cut the Bible / Qu'Ran crap, simply because

1. The Bible was modified uncountable times, I could modify it myself and mass produce it

2. Qu'Ran? Oh you mean that book written to keep the people under control? yeah great poetry and some good values, but definitely not an object of worship...And it's not Holy, sorry.

Typical Muslim person's answer: Well, yes it is, retard.

Oh really? why is that? because the Qu'Ran says so?
LOL!

Reply 5

fizzypop

Miss.A.T.S

Have any young Muslim girls who come from very strict/traditional/cultural/practicing family value families ever run away from home because of the religious "rules"? If so, what happened? Where did you go? And did your family come after you? Do you regret it now in terms of if your family disowned you?

Note: I dont want this thread to turn into a religous debate about Islam etc so please refrain from doing so.

I have never felt the need to run away from home. My parents provide for my ever need and I feel safe and loved in my house with my loved ones surrounding me. They would not approve of staying away from home at Uni, unless it was like Cambridge or Oxford or a really good university; but I don't find them to be restrictive because of this. I understand and respect their reasons, and I wouldn't want to move away from my family just yet. Anyway, my parents do place some restrictions on me, but it all turns out to be for the best!

Reply 6

rufnek2k6

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YannTouchable

LOOL yet ANOTHER typical Religion vs. Religion vs. Atheists thread.....

We're in 2009 guys...21st century and all, religion is about as irrelevant today as prejudice.

and please cut the Bible / Qu'Ran crap, simply because

1. The Bible was modified uncountable times, I could modify it myself and mass produce it

2. Qu'Ran? Oh you mean that book written to keep the people under control? yeah great poetry and some good values, but definitely not an object of worship...And it's not Holy, sorry.

Typical Muslim person's answer: Well, yes it is, retard.

Oh really? why is that? because the Qu'Ran says so?
LOL!

Do you spout crap for a living? This was hardly a Religion v Athiesm thread, that was until you made that post anyway. Did you not read the last line of OPs post?

Note: I dont want this thread to turn into a religous debate about Islam etc so please refrain from doing so.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

I have recently left home, i think you are partly right in saying it only matters when a boy is involved but you cannot go on living in that environment if it is not the way you intend on living your life in the future.

I 100% respect the islamic religion, i have grown up around it and although it wasnt explained to me the way it should have been explained i understand that it is a religion of peace and equality.

nevertheless, it is a conflict in how i am now wanting to live my life it wasnt so much the religion but how i was treated and how it was used against me

Reply 8

_xAnonymous

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Generally they run away in the case when theres relationship or marriage involved.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

I have recently left home, i think you are partly right in saying it only matters when a boy is involved but you cannot go on living in that environment if it is not the way you intend on living your life in the future.

I 100% respect the islamic religion, i have grown up around it and although it wasnt explained to me the way it should have been explained i understand that it is a religion of peace and equality.

nevertheless, it is a conflict in how i am now wanting to live my life it wasnt so much the religion but how i was treated and how it was used against me

Hi anon..

I also recently left home. Is there any way for me to contact you...I'm desperatly in need of someone who understands!!

Reply 10

Miss.A.T.S

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi anon..

I also recently left home. Is there any way for me to contact you...I'm desperatly in need of someone who understands!!

If you want someone to talk to who understands, you are more than welcome to contact me :smile:

Reply 11

Girl786yorkshire

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Hi anyone here that can help me need some advice

Reply 12

neverfadeaway

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Anyone need any advice, feel free to drop me a pm - several of my female relatives & friends have taken this step so I can sympathise with the situation :smile:

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Reply 13

username1283829

I'm 15 at the moment and am considering leaving home once i turn 18. I love my family a lot and it will be hard but i don't want to live THEIR life; i want to live my own. I don't personally follow Islamic beliefs although i love Islam as a religion. I want to choose who i marry (and am currently in a relationship with a Sudanese boy whose family are also Muslims but he himself is Agnostic, so that doesn't help matters). I've never really been physically abused, except for getting slapped from time to time by my older brother (22) when he's mad at me. However, i've just had it really hard mentally and i'm broken in every way inside. My parents don't understand; don't help; think i'm an embarrassment. I also want to study outside of London at uni, which, of course, they won't let me. I don't want to wear a hijab and i want to show my skin: doesn't mean i want to become a nudist. it's all too much for me, so i have decided i will certainly leave. There's nothing for me here anymore. Anyone want to persuade me otherwise?

Reply 14

Al-Mudaari

Most cases always involve "some guy", which is quite sad. Obviously, parents [who themselves may be "strict", but not religiously educated] that don't teach their children Islamic values also plays a part.

Reply 15

ArsenalObsessed

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Original post by Al-Mudaari

Obviously, parents [who themselves may be "strict", but not religiously educated] that don't teach their children Islamic values also plays a part.

Yep. And the important word here is "teach". Many Muslim parents try to raise their children to practise Islam but they don't actually teach them properly, i.e tell them exactly why they have to do what they do. I know many people who have been in this situation, and being told to do something and not actually understanding the reasons why seems to be a major cause of them beginning to resent Islam (in my experience)

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Reply 16

Origami Bullets

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This thread is 4 years old...

Reply 17

Anonymous 257

Hi please contact me if u get this I'm also in the same situation and scared

Reply 18

Anonymous 257

Original post by Miss.A.T.S

If you want someone to talk to who understands, you are more than welcome to contact me :smile:

I'm almost going through the same thing I need help and someone to understand i knw this thread is years ago I wonder if u would get this and would be able to help me

Reply 19

Airmed

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Original post by Anonymous 257

Hi please contact me if u get this I'm also in the same situation and scared

Original post by Anonymous 257

I'm almost going through the same thing I need help and someone to understand i knw this thread is years ago I wonder if u would get this and would be able to help me

Please start a new thread as this is an old thread.

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