were u hit at home?

Its just my mate said him and his family were and he said its how asian families tend to bring their kids up thats why theres less crime among asians. Thing is doesn't it lead to all that sexuality rubbish like fetish's etc?
Ive always wondered why people like that stuff yet parents still spank their kids knnowing that some people have it as a fetish?
Im confused how can it be used for disciplining kids and sexual stuff

strange post i know but when u think about it its mad

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Reply 1

pink_lucie

my sisters were hit and i was when i was younger, but when my mum trys to hit me now i hit her back

Reply 2

Apricot Fairy

When my brother and I misbehaved we used to get our arses smacked. Didn't do us any harm, and I certainly don't have a fetish for violence now.

Reply 3

username18215

Smacked bottom a few times when i was really young.

Reply 4

Herleif

i was hit at home as punishment, sometimes excessively in my view, but i don't think its had large effect on me. Although i wouldn't do it to my kids. For starters it doesn't teach the kid why what he has done is wrong, just that it is wrong. This can be confusing.

Oh yeah, and also, I dont have a violence fetish :p:

Reply 5

marychrist

yeh my dad used to hit me / pick me up and throw me out the door etc, out of frustration during particularly heated arguments.. I managed to pull muscles in my arms once during a fight where I was trying to shut the door on my dad.

not for ages tho.

Reply 6

Monii

yes... i'm slapped even now (but very occasionally) - seems like some weird tradition in the CZ coz it's normal to hit kids here :rolleyes:

Reply 7

marychrist

and I don't really think it has much of an effect on me, other than that I lash out when frustrated occasionally.
I don't really think one can blame my father for that though.

Reply 8

Herleif

marychrist

and I don't really think it has much of an effect on me, other than that I lash out when frustrated occasionally. I don't really think one can blame my father for that though.

i'd say that its the opposite because i can see that violence does not solve anything, EVER.

Reply 9

pink_lucie

my sisters really should of been put in care for the things my mum did to them, thats why i wont let my mum hit me.

Reply 10

Monii

gossip_girl

my sisters were hit and i was when i was younger, but when my mum trys to hit me now i hit her back

i'd never dare to do this...

Reply 11

marychrist

metta

i'd say that its the opposite because i can see that violence does not solve anything, EVER.

and I'd agree with you, but my point was, who is to say I wouldn't lash out if my dad had never hit me?

Reply 12

Herleif

Monii

i'd never dare to do this...

only my dad ever hit me, and he could still destroy me in a fight even tho im almost 18 :p:

i would not start on him.....

unless i had an escape plan. :smile:

Reply 13

Herleif

marychrist

and I'd agree with you, but my point was, who is to say I wouldn't lash out if my dad had never hit me?

Reply 14

marychrist

metta

if I had lashed out long before my father had ever hit me, what would be the reason then? that I've unfortunately inherited rubbish genetics which have left me prone to violence?

I'm sorry, but I don't see blaming my father for my incapability to deal with frustration as valid.. more, a way out of accepting that it's my own problem which I should deal with myself.

Reply 15

pink_lucie

Monii

i'd never dare to do this...

niether would i! :eek:

Reply 16

LennonMcCartney

I was hit by my dad and mum when younger, although I seem to remember my dad did it unfairly and my mum was reasonable. In retrospect, I think neither of them was unreasonable, and anyway, they stopped hitting me when I became about 12-ish, since I could start deciding by myself between right and wrong.

It certainly disciplined me and I don't have a fetish for violence at all. In fact, I'm a boring old heterosexual.

Although "Venus In Furs" is very intriguing.

Reply 17

Lush Law

My dad used to hit me when I was little, I was scared of him, and thus always sought the company of my mum. I was always quite clingy around my mum when I was little, and now I have virtually no relationship with my dad - we never speak really, even though we live in the same house!

Reply 18

Feefifofum

Well I was smacked if I was really naughty, but hasn't made me violent/become a fetish or anything, didn't really affect me except to mean that I didn't act so naughty the next time, ie it worked!

Reply 19

keano

i was never hit at home... but i did get hit a lot at school (primary school in turkey)..as I was a little tareaway I probably deserved it all... my god that ruler on tips of the fingers did hurt... well...i didnt turn out to be a violent person... a lot of parents do hit their kids in Turkey, my aunty she was the best flip-flop thrower ever...very good aim she had.. anyway..it certainly disciplines kids but it really is unnecessary and I am totally against it.. right and wrong can be tought to a kid by different ways and means.. me thinks..