A Profile of a Married Muslimah ~
~ Al Hamdullilah~
She obeys Allah subhana wa ta ala first, and everyone else is secondary. She is a spiritually woman that completely covers her entire body. And, she loves praying five time a day as well as studying Islam daily. She projects a positive attitude, peaceful demeanor, and she loves helping others. She is truthful, wise, confident, and patient with all of her issues. She is conscience of her health, body odors, and she exercise often. She is always fair with her friends. She is content with staying inside the home; therefore, she only goes outside whenever it is necessary. However, if she wants to go to college or work, she finds an environment that is best for a Muslimah. She makes sure her home environment is always very clean and peaceful. She makes sure that her family clothes are clean and as well as iron. Her foods are always healthy and prepared, and she enjoys serving her family. Furthermore, shaytan cannot convince her that she is a slave for her husband because she knows all her hard works are written as good charities on her permanent records.
~ Subhana Allah~
She loves and adores her husband, and she respects the fact that he has a higher degree above her. She misses him whenever he is away, and she is very happy whenever he returns. She is conscience that he has stressful days, so she understands that he may need her to listen to his stressors, give him a partial or full body massage, or he may need quality time alone. Therefore, whenever he walks through the door, she does not have friends over, or talking on the phone, or have the children running around the house making loud noises. She meets him with a positive attitude, good appearance, and the greetings of ýýýAs salaam alaikum beloved husband how was your day?ýýý She gives him a beautiful smile, a warm hug, a sensual kiss, and she keeps all bad news away from him until he has rested.
~ Marshaýýý Allah~
She always thanks her husband for his provisions even if; it is as small as a grape. She does not place unnecessary financial burdens on him, but accepts their lot. And, she does not make personal or business plans without talking to him first. Also, she does not embarrass him by not covering correctly, unnecessary intermixing with non-family or Muslim males, disrespecting him in front of people, or placing other people before him.
Whenever she is in disagreement with him, she does not disrespect him by raising her voice over his, or have a tempted tantrum to make her point, instead she uses wisdom. Also, she does not call her family or friends and tell them about his flaws, but instead she covers him. However, she prays to Allah subhana wa ta ala for guidance. Lastly and most important, she does not divorce him unnecessary because she knows if she does, metaphoric it is like taking off her garments (khimar/hijab/jilbob/ayaba/niqab) in front of everyone. In addition, she does not want to become among the ungrateful wives, in the hell-fire.
Bukhari 1:28, Narrated Ibn 'Abbas
The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (Are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ýýýI have never received any good from you.ýýý
If she is blessed with children, she understands that she will have to account to Allah subhana wa ta ala, for her children growth and development in Islam. Therefore, she teaches her own children, enhance their Islam, teach them good manners, respect for others, and how to conduct themselves in a positive rational matter instead of allowing them to become unbalanced out of controlled wild children. Also, if she wants to go to college or work, and her children are under the ages of eighteen, she makes arrangement to do these tasks from home instead of leaving her children in the care of others.
All and all, a married Muslimah has a profile of a Noble Pious Wise Woman.
~ Al Hamdulillah~
InshaýýýAllah, if you are married, ask your zawaj (mate) to give you an evaluation of your status thus far as a zawaj, or ask your zawaj this hypothetical question:
If I was a computer, and you could write my program regarding your idea zawaj, what would you write for my software? This, psychology question, inshaýýýAllah, may give you both an opportunity to find out more information regarding each other desires, which will enhance your relationship