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MittenKrust
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Especially as a student, im not talking about going to uni but in the way you do things, I found it incredibly hard making friends at uni because people wouldnt involve me in anything as they think I wont be interested and when I ask them they say that because I dont go drinking every day then I am not interested in going out at all so they never invite me, I once managed to talk my way into a night out with a guy from the halls and his friends were giving me weird looks all night(they are 18 year olds) and I heard one of them say "isnt he a bit too old to hang about with us" and in the past I have gone clubbing and seen a girl aroune 19 or 20(and I would of been around 24 then) and tried dancing with her and she would be like "You are far too old for me!"

One of my best ever friends turned 18 in Janurary and we get on well because he is still innocent as such and more into just hanging around and having a laugh and has had 1 girlfriend for 2 years and doesnt drink any alcohol and has no intention of starting so he doesnt judge in the same way.

I still think I am young just not teenage young i.e I like to go on nights out but not every night and prefer to chat a girl up than getting in her knickers(though I want to do that lol)

I feel emotionally still late teens early 20's but physcially my age.

Anyway blah blah blah.

What is "old", when I came back from a night out last week I said to my friend and the person serving that we came back early because the clubs were full of very young people and both my friend and the server smiled and said I am still young.

IMO it maybe more about field of view, when I was 21 I thought 25 was young but far older than me and wanted a girlfriend no older than 23 as I thought the 25 year old wanted to settle down so I'm almost as bad but I had and still have friends far older.

I'm not sure what im getting at so is 25 old in a young persons sense i.e clubbing and wanting to go partying, sleep around etc.
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Not really man.

It's just a number, would be worse being like 35 and chatting to people half your age at uni
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You've used up probably ~1/3 of your life (unless you die young or commit suicide [don't do this]). So no, I'd say you're still pretty young, but beware; when you find your first grey hair you may as well be incontinent.
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No, 25 is fairly young (even for for a student). My sister is 22 and I see her as barely older than myself (19). You're old for being a student at about 30 I'd say.

And you're properly old when you're 70 ...
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No. I'm 24 and I have no problems really.
It sounds as if you look older than you are...
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You've used up probably ~1/3 of your life (unless you die young or commit suicide [don't do this]). So no, I'd say you're still pretty young, but beware; when you find your first grey hair you may as well be incontinent.
Men go grey late in my family, its baldness that seems to effect us more, my dad had a bald patch from late in his thirties but he blames that on having a mini metro so his head rubbed against the ceiling, and my brother is 31 and has a high hairline and in 6 months has got a massive bald patch, but he suffers from bad depression since his fiance was murdered and he uses gel every day.

So they may just be different since my hair always grows long fast and I have no signs of a higher hairline.
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25 is not that old (or young) but thse 18 year olds are probably still a bit immature - just deal with it.
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No. I'm 24 and I have no problems really.
It sounds as if you look older than you are...
I dunno, if you ask someone older than me they will get my age correct ask someone younger and they will say between like 25-30 but I do know I look "old" due to weight and depression since 3 years ago before I was depressed I looked youthful and always got female attention in clubs, now I not only arent chatted up but get people acting as if I have a virus they can get by even looking at me.
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I wouldn't say so tbh..
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I'm 25 in 9 days and I don't feel much different to how I did at 18-19. So no, it isn't old.
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Just for proof, check this:

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?pa...073&ref=search

Now HE is too old for clubbing, he's in there almost every night, trust me. People smile at him, etc, but they are taking the piss really. I'd think nothing of being friends with a 25 year old, I think I'd actually PREFER that to friends my own age, I'd expect that you are slightly more wise and have actually "been there", rather than talking crap and telling fake stories about the stuff they have done, like most people my age do.
Basically, I wouldn't consider you "out of place" in my friends, or too old.
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Cheers, I'll be 30 when I graduate :p:
Sorry Well I actually know plenty of students even older than that :P (my cousin for one) what I meant was, you're a "mature" student when you reach 30ish, but even then I'd still say you're still young as a person; you're just young person hanging around with a group of even younger people - which makes you seem older compared. Like I say, 75 is old (I even see people in their 50s/60s as middle aged).

The world is getting older, the boundaries have got to be increased, by 2070 they say 100 will likely be the average life expectancy, so maybe I'll live to 110ish?

Now watch a 75 year old student appear on here :P
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I've had similar comments and I'm only 23. **** 'em, they're idiots. I'll be old when I'm 50 and not before.
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You've been trying to hang with 18 year olds, no wonder you feel old. Anyway the answer to your question, in terms of being a person, is "no", but if you're the only one in your mid-20s in a group of 18 year old kids, then "yes".
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People have such funny ideas about age, it's the most subjective fact out there! My boyfriend is 25 and I'm 18, all my friends thought he was my age and all his friends thought I was his age. There's not THAT much difference, especially if you're at uni (it's a younger life stage), I think people grow up when they get spouses and mortgages (here's hoping). As far as the clubbing and casual sex thing goes, you find a mixture of people from 18 to 30 who are into it, and some who would rather socialise in other ways... So no, you're not old, just find some like minded people, I assure you, we do exist!
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You've been trying to hang with 18 year olds, no wonder you feel old. Anyway the answer to your question, in terms of being a person, is "no", but if you're the only one in your mid-20s in a group of 18 year old kids, then "yes".
Well not as such, its just most clubs are full of under 22/23 year olds and being on the pull they want the young attractive ones not someone who is older.

And kinda similar for uni, people want to hang about people their own age since when I was in halls last year it was almost all 21-23 year olds who all hung around together.

When I speak to people my own age they also seem to hate clubbing as they are fed up with 18-21 year olds acting superior and as if everyone older than them is ready for the zimmer frame.
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I think Ivars is right, it's about attitude and how mature the person you're dealing with is.

A good quater of my class are over 26, me inc, but everyone gets on with everyone else. We all seem to be at about the same level in terms of how mature we are in diffrent situations and senses of humor.

The youngest person to hang out in our group is a 19 year old girl from the first year and the oldest is a 29\30 year old guy but when we're altogether, everyone sees everyone else as being the same age as them!

Only differnce seems to be income, the older guys and girls seem to have more saving or earning power ...
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no way 25 is the best time of your life in my eyes! 35 is old!
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(Original post by MittenKrust)
I dunno, if you ask someone older than me they will get my age correct ask someone younger and they will say between like 25-30 but I do know I look "old" due to weight and depression since 3 years ago before I was depressed I looked youthful and always got female attention in clubs, now I not only arent chatted up but get people acting as if I have a virus they can get by even looking at me.
Aww damn! I recently got diagnosed with depression (again :rolleyes:) am I going to start to look old?

Sort the weight out and concentrate on your inside/wellbeing? :yy:
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I don't think it's old, maybe it's time to try changing your group of friends? When we go to raves we've got a pretty broad range of ages in the group, anywhere from 17 to around 27, we get on great as we share the same passion - the music. Maybe try to find something which you have in common with the 18 year olds so you get on a little better?
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