Turn on thread page Beta

i love this guy but...???? watch

    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    HOw do you get into male prostitution at that age?

    shocked :eek:

    Talk to him, you obviously love for him after what you've said, tell him. He, apparently, loves you, so get him to stop his job; whether he enjoys it (he shouldn't!) or not it is wrong and the risks are high!
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    i wont let myself love him?
    we've been best mates for 6years, i kinda wanted him to ask my out from the start, but then he did, i really wanted to say yes but i couldnt let myself..? anyway i told him i'd think about it(-this was 3 yrs ago!)
    well he keeps bringing it up, n the other day he kept bringing it up in my txts to him, so i kinda told him i love him...but i dont know how i love him- why i cant go out with him.
    then today he told me he loved me always n really thought i was the one, but now he thinks hes bi so hes fukd up? but me telling him how i feel has made me wana be with him more than ever...? i dream about him n think about him none stop n its drivin me crazy! he has plans for us to buy a house together...n hes...just...
    he keeps sayin if we went out it wouldnt ruin our friendship, i told him i love him n i always will no matter what...n he told me it was probably best just to stay friends....
    what's going on..?im so messed up now..?!i have no idea whats going on?!
    well tell him even if he is bi you still want to be with him? and it IS a risk to the friendship but tell him you can promise each other to be friends even if it doesnt work out.

    his reaction is pretty weird tho. my honest guess is he is using the fact that you fancy him to build his ego whilst he is having doubts about his sexuality- whether he's gay/bi and whether he feels less of a man being attracted to other men.he probably loves you only as friends. if he fancied you all that time, he would leap at the opportunity to make a move.it would also implyhe was being your best mate just to have the opportunity to get closer to you. but saying 'we are better as friends' is an excuse not to take it further. how does he feel about u going out with someone else? if he gets jealous, perhaps he does mean he likes you too. also it may be you turinig him down dented his ego and him making you say u lov him may prove to him he can have you.

    i dont think the probelm is with you, i think its with him for whatever reason
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    he knows....
    i told him...
    n he sed that wats meant to be will happen...how if we dont do anmything
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    he knows....
    i told him...
    n he sed that wats meant to be will happen...how if we dont do anmything
    Firstly...Why do you like this guy so much? He seems to have no respect for your feelings, as he knows how you feel about him and is blowing hot and cold. It's not big and it's not clever.

    Secondly...I don't understand how, if you did get together, you wouldn't have a problem with his job. The fact that he does it for money doesn't make it better, he's still sleeping around. Why does he do it? Does he have self esteem issues or something? By sleeping with lots of different people he's putting himself at risk of STDs, and you if you sleep with him. It's not fair to either of you.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    he does respect me...i think wer both just pretty confused at the mo?
    no. he wants to b rich. n i dnt get how im k wiv it either the fact is - i am
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    he does respect me...i think wer both just pretty confused at the mo?
    no. he wants to b rich. n i dnt get how im k wiv it either the fact is - i am
    There are better ways to get rich than prostitution. Have you thought about how dangerous it is?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Well... as you are friends, I actually think that this relation ship has more of a chance than it would otherwise. I mean it sounds really complicated, I'd go slow, but don't make a rash decision you may regret later. If you leave him waiting any longer that would be kind of cruel though... try and think it all through, but also listen to your heart. It may not work out, but that is always a risk you take, and if you are friends first, that should make the risk less normally.
    I don't really know what to suggest, the situation is complicated... but should try and come to some sort of a decision, he deserves either you going out with him or a clear rejection so that he can get over you (as in start looking round for other girls to go out with...). He will probably take a rejection badly, especially as you do seem to care for him a lot, but he should come round. It seems the best thing would be for you two to sit together and work on your problems before starting a relationship (like talk to him about getting a proper job :rolleyes: ).
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    yeah. i know his jobs bad. at first i was rlly worried that hed get hurt but iv met them n i just think theyr lonely, randy guys...
    sigh.
    now hes not txtin me. mayb just outa cred...?
    im sooo messed up.
    spoke 2 him last nite. i was in bed at the time so he kept tryin 2 get kinky with me but i dint wana lead him on until i get my head sorted....
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    I think lessthanthrees advice has been the best so far...

    Sort out your own problems before his...
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Does he take or give?
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by JonnyB)
    Does he take or give?
    why, you interested?? :p:
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by metta)
    why, you interested?? :p:
    I'm interested that a 17 year old could get paid for it.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    why, you think they should do it for free? :confused:
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by metta)
    why, you think they should do it for free? :confused:
    Jesus christ, no way to win with you is there?

    Maybe i'll send him over to yours!
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by JonnyB)
    Jesus christ, no way to win with you is there?

    Maybe i'll send him over to yours!
    eh???
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    You heard.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    jonny b he has over 5 clinients that i know about. he only does men. he thinks it should be more meaningful if its with women...
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    jonny b he has over 5 clinients that i know about. he only does men. he thinks it should be more meaningful if its with women...
    Ok.

    I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, EVEN-FROM-THE-INTERNET-REALLY think that is such an appalling thing for any 17-year old to do. Now I'm still unsure if you're taking us for a ride here, but if you're completely serious, as I'm sure so many people have said, he is putting himself (and you might I add) at such a risk.

    I think anyone with any dignity would get themselves a real job, and stop this s***. Because it's disgusting. I don't know anyone who is THAT strapped for cash who would resort to that. Hell, he's probably got more money than me without working!

    You know what to do.
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    yeah. i know his jobs bad. at first i was rlly worried that hed get hurt but iv met them n i just think theyr lonely, randy guys...
    sigh.
    now hes not txtin me. mayb just outa cred...?
    im sooo messed up.
    spoke 2 him last nite. i was in bed at the time so he kept tryin 2 get kinky with me but i dint wana lead him on until i get my head sorted....
    "lonely randy guys" - well...fair enough...but um...what if he gets another client who isn't your average desperado. he might actually get hurt, it's a really dangerous job. seriously, riot girl, it's not worth risking his health or your own for.

    and good for you, not leading him on till your head's sorted. at least that's one positive.
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RiOt GiRl)
    jonny b he has over 5 clinients that i know about. he only does men. he thinks it should be more meaningful if its with women...
    sorry lovely, but if he did it if you got together, it's cheating no matter how you dress it up. it's exactly like someone having an affair "only for the sex"...it doesn't make it right, whether it's with a man or a woman. if he respects you, he'd stop this madness for you, and get a nice saturday job in a shop or something.
 
 
 
Poll
Brexit: Given the chance now, would you vote leave or remain?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.