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Just being friendly or flirting?

Last night i went to a gathering with my close friends and guys we've known from way back. Neways, there was this particular guy, Phil, who i've only briefly met once before at a party. During the course of the evening we got more and more touchy feely, if i walked into a room he would pat the space beside him so i'd sit there with his arm around me and then he would never let me get up again. other stuff happened like messing around on top of each other and he didnt do this with any of the other girls. when i said i was going to bed, he was like no stay downstairs so we went to the plasma screen room (the only time when it was just us two) but he didnt really make a move. the next morning we were the same touchy feely (but with no one else, just between us). but when he left we didnt get a chance to hug.

was he just being friendly or was he flirting? bcos he never made a move when we were alone (i was wearing my pjs at the time though & the top is kinda seethrough!) so phaps he thought it was inappropriate. & i dont have his mobile no.
Reply 1
sounds like it could be either!
Reply 2
sounds like he was caught in 2 minds
Reply 3
lessthanthree
Was there drink involved?


yeah I thought of that one, could still be either even with drink though. Its all so complex!
Well gee, I know I get touchy feely and mess around with all my friends. Or, y'know, not.
Reply 5
He was flirting
Reply 6
alphapat
He was flirting


You can't be that sure though can you...? Some people are just touchy..okay so he aint like that with 'the others' but there could be many reasons for that.
Perhaps when you two were alone he didnt make a move cos he was being shy and didnt know how u felt, i.e. he was thinking the same "is this friendly or flirty".

The more important question here is, did u want him to make a move?
Reply 8
I think he was flirting. Things like this take time to develop, maybe he didn't want to come onto you straight away!!
md_red_uk
Perhaps when you two were alone he didnt make a move cos he was being shy and didnt know how u felt, i.e. he was thinking the same "is this friendly or flirty".

The more important question here is, did u want him to make a move?


yeh i did want to make a move but was thinking i dunno, is he interested in me. we were pissed at night but by about 3 in the morning and then after we woke up we'd all sobered up. my friends said that we were flirting bcos he really didnt touch any of the other girls b4 even though he's met a few of them a few more times. we were also having little play squabbles etc. its sooo confusing, he might be coming to my ball tho
It sounds as though he was flirting... If he was drunk he would be unlikely to focus upon one person exclusively for the entire evening. Just a hypothesis though!
Reply 11
I think he was flirting.
Give it some time :-)
I think he was flirtng, but maybe too shy or embarassed to try it on with you. Did you flirt with him? Because maybe he didnt want to make a move until he knew if you liked him. Next time you see him, try flirting back and see what happens.
Reply 13
Me and my boyfriend dilly dallyed around for ages before we got together! i thought he didn't like me in that way and he thought i didn't like him in that way! It'll just take time to show if he likes you as more than a friend.
He wanted to kiss you passionately and have your babies :P. Seriously tho, he did, least I think so.
lessthanthree
hmm, I did used to play-squabble a LOT with my current boyfriend before we wised up to the fact that we were madly in lurve


Maybe I'm being silly, but what is "squabble"?
Reply 16
Bicker, argue over small and insignificant things
Oh. I knew that.
a little qu, i'm gd friends with one of phil's friend's (adam) so shall i ask him if phil said nething or ask him for his mob no?

also adam told me y'day they were coming to my ball but then told someone else they're not bcos its too expensive, v confused. guys (or gals if u want to pretend ur a guy for this scenario) would u spend £18 on a ball ticket if a girl u liked was going?