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I'm such a BORING person
I'm that sort of person who would be nice to everyone- but there's actually nothing else to me. No one particularly hates me, or particularly wants to make the effort to make friends. I can make small talk with anyone, but that's it. Even my friends are just people I hang around with but I can only make general talk, I wish I had more to say/do. I'll never be interesting or have a kind of "scandalous" nature.
I've asked advice from people such as my sister, and she told me I have all the goods; e.g I'm willing to change, and I am a genuine person,
it's just I don't know HOW to change myself and become more of a person who has some sort of authority to them!
I've asked advice from people such as my sister, and she told me I have all the goods; e.g I'm willing to change, and I am a genuine person,
it's just I don't know HOW to change myself and become more of a person who has some sort of authority to them!
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I'm the same :-(
I just try to read up on stuff so I have relevant up-to-date stuff to randomly talk about
I just try to read up on stuff so I have relevant up-to-date stuff to randomly talk about
u say u have friends listen to wt they say and talk about and try to get into that also look at wt they do and how they act try to do this as well. I have had no such problem lucky me probably because I have a massive family so kind of have to stand out lol im guessing your family is not so big?
Get a hobby, find a passion. Worked for me mate! 
I used to find myself like you are now. You just need to break away from that mould - surprise people by speaking out, maybe it's something that you wouldn't normally do? Find yourself a new hobby and then you have something more to talk about. You just need to do something different, and experiment with different things until you find something you're comfortable with, something that'll make people sit up and notice you
Hobbies, Interests, Things that give you individuality so you're not just someone else to talk to.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
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u say u have friends listen to wt they say and talk about and try to get into that also look at wt they do and how they act try to do this as well. I have had no such problem lucky me probably because I have a massive family so kind of have to stand out lol im guessing your family is not so big?
Thanks for the advice, lol I have quite a large family, I live with 6 other people in my house and are always having cousins round lol- 19 of us altogether in my immediate family!
Davezk
Hobbies, Interests, Things that give you individuality so you're not just someone else to talk to.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
Lol! Yeah I play the piano, which no one else I know of really does, and sometimes I say words that my friends don't understand. I think I have too much of an opinion when it comes to things because I blabber on and people get bored of me!
Anonymous
I'm that sort of person who would be nice to everyone- but there's actually nothing else to me. No one particularly hates me, or particularly wants to make the effort to make friends. I can make small talk with anyone, but that's it. Even my friends are just people I hang around with but I can only make general talk, I wish I had more to say/do. I'll never be interesting or have a kind of "scandalous" nature.
I've asked advice from people such as my sister, and she told me I have all the goods; e.g I'm willing to change, and I am a genuine person,
it's just I don't know HOW to change myself and become more of a person who has some sort of authority to them!
I've asked advice from people such as my sister, and she told me I have all the goods; e.g I'm willing to change, and I am a genuine person,
it's just I don't know HOW to change myself and become more of a person who has some sort of authority to them!
Get some opinions and just generally voice yourself. Nobody is going to be funny or "scandalous" all the time but you can have a generally good conversation with someone just by being relaxed and saying what you think.
Just let it flow, don't try to be anyone or anything. You are who you are and you don't need to change anything. If you can laugh then you'll be fine - nobody expects you to do 90 minutes of standup comedy.
Any with small talk, it's fine. It leads on to better conversation if you let it. Don't expect to have amazing conversation with people you don't really know or are comfortable with. Just say how you feel, if you like / dislike... just be yourself. Make an effort to be extrovert and not hold in your feelings.
Davezk
Hobbies, Interests, Things that give you individuality so you're not just someone else to talk to.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
Everyone likes 'hanging out with friends' 'going out' etc. For example I love football, running, rock and metal and playing electric guitar.
Having lots of opinions on stuff as well, on top of taking an interest in whats going on in the world. It gives you a bit of character. Be someone individual and not a generic nice person.
Me too!!1!! we should be fwends
except i don't run or play guitar. Maybe we shouldn't!? 
That post bored me.
See what I did there
See what I did there
Dye your hair blue.
I'm exactly the same
I am quite nice to people, but apart from that, I'm a pretty boring person, and no-one is too bothered about talking etc to me.
It can be hard sometimes, especially when the last thing you want to do is change yourself :/
But dont despair! As long as your a good person, thats all that matters
I am quite nice to people, but apart from that, I'm a pretty boring person, and no-one is too bothered about talking etc to me.
It can be hard sometimes, especially when the last thing you want to do is change yourself :/
But dont despair! As long as your a good person, thats all that matters
Get a zany haircut and amusing t-shirts that detract from your witless void of a personality.
I'll try and offer some proper advice:- At the moment you think you need people so that you feel more interesting and wanted and accepted by others. You do need people as no one should be completely alone but you don't need them for self-acceptance you need them for company, that's it.
People don't want individuals who just taketaketake from a situation to feel popular and worthy they want people who give and express love. I don't mean hugging and kissing everyone I mean being open and friendly and genuinely interested in other people but having enough of your own mind to know when people aren't worth knowing (i.e. they're being ***** etc). That's about it really.
You recognise that you have good points about you and that's good. Focus on what you're good at. I doubt people reject or are as uninterested as much as you think. Accept yourself and others will accept you more.
And being completely genuine is a rare gift I struggle with that.
Also, you say you need to 'change' but you don't need to change. By saying that you are rejecting yourself and you don't want to do that because it's painful and leads to trouble. You just need to accept yourself as you are and focus on your good things because that's what will make you happier. There's essentially nothing wrong with you that you need to change.
Actions you can take:-
1. Make an effort to do something you have always wanted to do. e.g. learn :- to ride a horse, to play an instrument, to write poetry, to learn a new language. Not to be more interesting just because it's something you know makes sense with who you are. My examples are just obvious things so if you think about it hard enough you can come up with something which excites you more I'm sure.
2. In a social situation no matter how inadequate or boring you are feeling make an effort to talk and really listen to the other person. That way you are giving rather than taking. You feel better that way about yourself.
I think that's all you should do for now. Just remember to keep being genuine!
I'll try and offer some proper advice:- At the moment you think you need people so that you feel more interesting and wanted and accepted by others. You do need people as no one should be completely alone but you don't need them for self-acceptance you need them for company, that's it.
People don't want individuals who just taketaketake from a situation to feel popular and worthy they want people who give and express love. I don't mean hugging and kissing everyone I mean being open and friendly and genuinely interested in other people but having enough of your own mind to know when people aren't worth knowing (i.e. they're being ***** etc). That's about it really.
You recognise that you have good points about you and that's good. Focus on what you're good at. I doubt people reject or are as uninterested as much as you think. Accept yourself and others will accept you more.
And being completely genuine is a rare gift I struggle with that.
Also, you say you need to 'change' but you don't need to change. By saying that you are rejecting yourself and you don't want to do that because it's painful and leads to trouble. You just need to accept yourself as you are and focus on your good things because that's what will make you happier. There's essentially nothing wrong with you that you need to change.
Actions you can take:-
1. Make an effort to do something you have always wanted to do. e.g. learn :- to ride a horse, to play an instrument, to write poetry, to learn a new language. Not to be more interesting just because it's something you know makes sense with who you are. My examples are just obvious things so if you think about it hard enough you can come up with something which excites you more I'm sure.
2. In a social situation no matter how inadequate or boring you are feeling make an effort to talk and really listen to the other person. That way you are giving rather than taking. You feel better that way about yourself.
I think that's all you should do for now. Just remember to keep being genuine!
Original post by Anonymous
I'm that sort of person who would be nice to everyone- but there's actually nothing else to me. No one particularly hates me, or particularly wants to make the effort to make friends. I can make small talk with anyone, but that's it. Even my friends are just people I hang around with but I can only make general talk, I wish I had more to say/do. I'll never be interesting or have a kind of "scandalous" nature.
I can't stress enough how exactly you've described me there.
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