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I have a boyfriend, but briefly kissed another guy
Oh no I just don't know what to think
I really love my boyfriend, but I dont think he fancies me a lot though I know he loves me, and when out clubbing a few hours ago I was dancing and this guy went to kiss me a few times and then one of the times I let him for about five seconds It felt so exciting to feel wanted and desired but I hated myself straightaway. I took the guy to the side and said honestly that I found him very attractive but I had a boyfriend and I shouldn't have let that happen, and then I ran away.
Texted my boyfriend then and said basically what happened. I'll see him tomorrow. I feel **** as I know I should. My boyfriend is the love of my life, I would gladly give my life for his if it came to the crunch and I would never make a fool of him... I dont know why Im posting Im just so unhappy with the whole situation
I really love my boyfriend, but I dont think he fancies me a lot though I know he loves me, and when out clubbing a few hours ago I was dancing and this guy went to kiss me a few times and then one of the times I let him for about five seconds It felt so exciting to feel wanted and desired but I hated myself straightaway. I took the guy to the side and said honestly that I found him very attractive but I had a boyfriend and I shouldn't have let that happen, and then I ran away.Texted my boyfriend then and said basically what happened. I'll see him tomorrow. I feel **** as I know I should. My boyfriend is the love of my life, I would gladly give my life for his if it came to the crunch and I would never make a fool of him... I dont know why Im posting Im just so unhappy with the whole situation
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I think that
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
Drummer23
I think that
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
Also, I think that "evgerythingt" is a very exciting word
i do love the chivalry of calling someone a dirty slag under the veil of anonymity...
personally OP, im not sure i'd be able to look at you in the same way again - even if he forgives you, do you not think maybe everytime your late or miss something, or he thinks what your telling him doesn't sound right that he's gonna think, even fleetingly, that your not being faithful? Relationships are built on trust, and don't last long without it.
Guess its up to him though...
personally OP, im not sure i'd be able to look at you in the same way again - even if he forgives you, do you not think maybe everytime your late or miss something, or he thinks what your telling him doesn't sound right that he's gonna think, even fleetingly, that your not being faithful? Relationships are built on trust, and don't last long without it.
Guess its up to him though...
Mistakes happen and there is a good chance he will forgive you, however, mistakes happen for a reason and if you don't find out what it is and do something they happen again and again. You need to decided if you want to be in a relationship, if you want to go out flirt, pull and live the single life or find someone who is willing to be in a polygamous relationship. If you don't there is a chance you will at some point feel bored in your relationship and go out and kiss someone else for the excitement.
Then again if you have any will power, which very few people do these days, you will just be able to control yourself in future.
Then again if you have any will power, which very few people do these days, you will just be able to control yourself in future.
You did do the right thing, don't worry. Its down to you and your boyfriend to sort it out now really.
I could sympathise with you if you were drunk, coz I sort of did the same but I had no control over my actions, you sound like you did. Me and my boyfriend got through it. However it will put a little strain on the releationship in terms of trust. He should trust you, just not when your out again for a while. And if he really loves you too it will hurt, from both perpectives.
Also, if you feel this bad, you won't do it again, and will make sure of it. What i mentioned about happened early april, and I haven't been out with my friends since in fer of doing it again. Next time I'm out drink my boyfriend will be there.
I'm giving an example of how it might be.
Anyway, just explain your sorry (you might have to do this many times) explain why (you might be asked) and be aware that he might be angry.
I could sympathise with you if you were drunk, coz I sort of did the same but I had no control over my actions, you sound like you did. Me and my boyfriend got through it. However it will put a little strain on the releationship in terms of trust. He should trust you, just not when your out again for a while. And if he really loves you too it will hurt, from both perpectives.
Also, if you feel this bad, you won't do it again, and will make sure of it. What i mentioned about happened early april, and I haven't been out with my friends since in fer of doing it again. Next time I'm out drink my boyfriend will be there.
I'm giving an example of how it might be.
Anyway, just explain your sorry (you might have to do this many times) explain why (you might be asked) and be aware that he might be angry.
Drummer23
I think that
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
i) there are some absolute wan kers on this forum ^
ii) You did the right thing. It sounds like you were genuinely sorry, you explained evgerythingt to all parties... I mean, it may just highlight that there is a bit of an issue with your boyufriend, like - if things are going a bit stale or something? But I mean, thats something for youi to figure out. As far as this goes, I really do think you did the best thing you could be telling him strasight away. I hope it works out for you...
Looks like someones been drinkinggggg
Oh and I agree with it
Hmmm, yeah it is easy if you don't feel desired. That sounds like the issue really. Perhaps explain that to him and it's not that you don't love him. See what he says.
OP, do you feel that your boyfriend is better than you and you need to prove how great you are to him to feel wanted? Or is he just not affectionate?
OP, do you feel that your boyfriend is better than you and you need to prove how great you are to him to feel wanted? Or is he just not affectionate?
Fact is you cheated on your boy-friend. No 2 ways about it, hes going to be hurt/pissed off and possibly not able to trust you so much any more so expect to have to put in alot of work if you want to keep this going.
People should learn to use their head first (excuse the bad pun). 'Getting losed in the moment' is not an excuse nor a mitigating factor around cheating I find.
Though you did the best thing In telling him straight away to minimize the hurt.
As for the relationship it sounds like you've sort-of let it stagnate for lack of a better word, maybe try spice things up a bit? Cant give tips but Im sure you get what I mean
People should learn to use their head first (excuse the bad pun). 'Getting losed in the moment' is not an excuse nor a mitigating factor around cheating I find.
Though you did the best thing In telling him straight away to minimize the hurt.
As for the relationship it sounds like you've sort-of let it stagnate for lack of a better word, maybe try spice things up a bit? Cant give tips but Im sure you get what I mean
For a second I thought the post meant, you have a boyfriend but he kissed another guy..i guess i was wrong.
Anyways you should be faithfull to you B.f, if you love your bf as you say you do, then you could control any other desires you have for other men. you should seriously question your relationship.
Anyways you should be faithfull to you B.f, if you love your bf as you say you do, then you could control any other desires you have for other men. you should seriously question your relationship.
I think it's very easy to tar all examples of "cheating" with the same brush, but from what you said, there appears to be neither malicious intent nor a lack of feelings for him on your behalf. Whilst what you did was rooted in a fundamental issue in your relationship (i.e. the need for more attention/affection between you) which should ideally be addressed, the fact that you told him suggests you certainly are willing to act to save the relationship, and you two can hopefully indeed progress from this.
Understandably he might well be rather upset and/or angry about what's happened, so it may take some time before you can talk about what's happened without it descending into either argument or upset. However, if you explain it to him exactly how you did to us, then he should start to see that it was slightly deeper routed than merely a desire to be with someone else. Very best of luck, I hope it works out soon!
Understandably he might well be rather upset and/or angry about what's happened, so it may take some time before you can talk about what's happened without it descending into either argument or upset. However, if you explain it to him exactly how you did to us, then he should start to see that it was slightly deeper routed than merely a desire to be with someone else. Very best of luck, I hope it works out soon!
What he doesn't know can't hurt him.
You've told him so thats a start, explain to him that it didn't mean anything and he kept trying it on with you, if he loves you too then he will try to forgive you 
Hope it goes okay
Hope it goes okay
Loz17
I could sympathise with you if you were drunk, coz I sort of did the same but I had no control over my actions, you sound like you did.
I could sympathise with you if you were drunk, coz I sort of did the same but I had no control over my actions, you sound like you did.
Sorry, but being drunk is no excuse for cheating.
Barton1
Should of kept it to yourself tbh and saved the hassle! I think the ironic thing about this is today i was at a club trying to get my tounge down some girls throat who told me she had a boyfriend after. aha
And let him find out from her friends or something? Really would sound a lot better wouldn't it
don't worry about it, play it down and
stick to the fact taht you care and thats why you told him
as it was alot easier for you to not tell him
its basically a drunken slip, this kinda thing happens in the city all the time.
It doesn't mean anything, you just end up getting broed with life and want some excitement, but as long as you go back to him at the end of the day
i dont condone the above at all, but it does happen
stick to the fact taht you care and thats why you told him
as it was alot easier for you to not tell him
its basically a drunken slip, this kinda thing happens in the city all the time.
It doesn't mean anything, you just end up getting broed with life and want some excitement, but as long as you go back to him at the end of the day
i dont condone the above at all, but it does happen
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