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I am having a gap year next year and will be living in a flat with one of my good friends. The thing is I have started to fall for him in a big way and he has a long term girlfriend. Do you think this is going to be a nightmare?

Reply 1

Ariel4

1

umm, does he know that you like him? if he does it might be a problem. try not seeing him much untill you move in with him, you might go of him then.

Reply 2

Piggsil

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Mittens

I am having a gap year next year and will be living in a flat with one of my good friends. The thing is I have started to fall for him in a big way and he has a long term girlfriend. Do you think this is going to be a nightmare?

If you don't tell him it will be fine, because he'll never know so there won't be any awkardness, and the feeling will pass.

Reply 3

Mittens

OP

No he doesnt know I dont think although he may suspect. I think that some of my feelings might stem from the fact that I only see him once in a while at the moment. Maybe when Im picking up his dirty socks everyday I will feel differently?!

Reply 4

KdySk8rGirl

Honestly, yes its going to be hell.

Reply 5

Ferret_messiah

8

Have you signed a lease yet? If so, you're doomed, if not, move in with someone else while you still can.

Reply 6

ChemistBoy

16

Sounds like a recipe for disaster. I have known many a situation like this and none of them have ended looking pretty that's for sure.

Reply 7

queenselphie

It really could be bad. Be very careful, Loving someone elses partner can really only lead to heartache. That said, you cant actually stop yourself from falling in love, imho, all you can do is not act upon it in a way that will harm others. good luck.

Reply 8

username18215

10

U'll grow to love his smelly socks

Reply 9

Cazzi

12

Mittens

I am having a gap year next year and will be living in a flat with one of my good friends. The thing is I have started to fall for him in a big way and he has a long term girlfriend. Do you think this is going to be a nightmare?

i fell in love with my best friend who had a long term girlfirend.....
Its a VERY difficult situation...as u prob know already!

Be very careful about it (i did end up with the guy as his relationship with the girl wasnt working anyway - im still with him too this day)

IF his relationship is stable. try and fight your feelings and move on..and believe me i know how difficult it is!

GOOD LUCK....

prob is best to stay friends tho....are u both going to uni?

Reply 10

Adhsur

15

Are you two going to be living on your own?! If so, how does his gf feel about this? :confused:

Reply 11

nikk

15

Mittens

I am having a gap year next year and will be living in a flat with one of my good friends. The thing is I have started to fall for him in a big way and he has a long term girlfriend. Do you think this is going to be a nightmare?

I have been in this situation and no it will not be nice. Think how you will feel if you heard him getting it on with his girlfriend etc.....From my own experience I would say don't do it!

Reply 12

dramaqueen_18

Hey Mittens, I think you should go 4it, maybe?! I don't know, either way ul get hurt. Get with the g/f thatl make him jealous...jst jump in2 bed with them both itl b fine. Hope it goes well....fingers crossed x

Reply 13

hels bels

Hey everyone thanks for your comments. Were both doing a gap year job so can't really avoid living together. I have been thinking about it though and I think that it will be ok. At the end of the day the worst thing to do would be to lose his friendship as we will be living together for a year so I will tread very carefully. Another thing to consider is that as wonderful as he is, and im sure he would make a fabulous boyfriend, he is someone elses already. I did try it on ( and i doubt he would go for it anyway cos hes too good a guy) It would be hurting her feelings and I would hate to do that, even though I don't know her I couldnt do that. Hopefully I will meet someone else who will blow this problem out of the water. It is going to be difficult but I am determined to have fun next year and so i will just have to try to be level headed. any other comments or tips?

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