I am having a gap year next year and will be living in a flat with one of my good friends. The thing is I have started to fall for him in a big way and he has a long term girlfriend. Do you think this is going to be a nightmare?
umm, does he know that you like him? if he does it might be a problem. try not seeing him much untill you move in with him, you might go of him then.
No he doesnt know I dont think although he may suspect. I think that some of my feelings might stem from the fact that I only see him once in a while at the moment. Maybe when Im picking up his dirty socks everyday I will feel differently?!
Honestly, yes its going to be hell.
Have you signed a lease yet? If so, you're doomed, if not, move in with someone else while you still can.
Sounds like a recipe for disaster. I have known many a situation like this and none of them have ended looking pretty that's for sure.
It really could be bad. Be very careful, Loving someone elses partner can really only lead to heartache. That said, you cant actually stop yourself from falling in love, imho, all you can do is not act upon it in a way that will harm others. good luck.
U'll grow to love his smelly socks
Hey Mittens, I think you should go 4it, maybe?! I don't know, either way ul get hurt. Get with the g/f thatl make him jealous...jst jump in2 bed with them both itl b fine. Hope it goes well....fingers crossed x
Hey everyone thanks for your comments. Were both doing a gap year job so can't really avoid living together. I have been thinking about it though and I think that it will be ok. At the end of the day the worst thing to do would be to lose his friendship as we will be living together for a year so I will tread very carefully. Another thing to consider is that as wonderful as he is, and im sure he would make a fabulous boyfriend, he is someone elses already. I did try it on ( and i doubt he would go for it anyway cos hes too good a guy) It would be hurting her feelings and I would hate to do that, even though I don't know her I couldnt do that. Hopefully I will meet someone else who will blow this problem out of the water. It is going to be difficult but I am determined to have fun next year and so i will just have to try to be level headed. any other comments or tips?