Sadness :(

i dont know if im just having a off day but i feel so hurt by my boyfriend today

hes just gone home and left me at college in tears. im not upset about much (time of month) but he wouldnt even stay for a few mins and cuddle me better. he just wanted to go home

The thing is that i tend to cry alot. and he always seems ok with it and hugs it away. But recently hes been so cold with me in that way i dunno whether its stress of exams or if hes really angry with me

please help i dunno what to do.

I don't want to sound harsh here, but maybe he's just gotten fed up of your emotionalness (if that's a word). I know I personally find it hard to be sympathetic for people who cry a lot. If I sound harsh don't get upset, but I also want you to know that I've been through a phase where I just cried and cried for no reason and eventually my friends got annoyed with me and told me to snap out of it and that brought me round and I don't do it anymore!

i do know...but ive been doing it much less recently as ive started to gain control of my hormones.

hes never really got annoyed before tho. most of the time he thinks im sweet when i cry.

Maybe he didn't want to make things worse by staying, it is easier to just let you get over it.

lol im awful tho i dont get over it for hours...silly me

i dont know if im just having a off day but i feel so hurt by my boyfriend today

hes just gone home and left me at college in tears. im not upset about much (time of month) but he wouldnt even stay for a few mins and cuddle me better. he just wanted to go home

The thing is that i tend to cry alot. and he always seems ok with it and hugs it away. But recently hes been so cold with me in that way i dunno whether its stress of exams or if hes really angry with me

please help i dunno what to do.

tears only work every so often and you need to stop relying on him to make yourself feel better, you can do it on your own trust me have some chocolate

I have to confess to (whilst at school) splitting up with someone because they seemed to break down in tears all the time. Unfortunately crying during an argument is seen by many men as an attempt at blackmail, especially if it occurs a lot. It's a bit like 'the boy who cried wolf'.

chocolate i wish....it dont help that i aint allowed any happy food....ona diet!

Why do you rely on others to make you feel better? I mean, sure, cuddles are nice when you're down, but...well...there's only so far you can push people before they start to feel you take them for granted. Don't be so needy and stand on your own two feet.

Incidentally, he sounds like a nice guy. Appreciate what he does for you by all means, but to be honest it sounds like you've begun to expect it. Which isn't nice for anyone.

i do appreciate what he does...but a hug isnt too much to ask tho is it? id try my best to make him happy if he was upset...

prob just the way men are!

but anyways thanks everyone...im calm now and happy. was just one of those silly hormonal swings....oh i wish i could rid of them!

You're allowed chocolate on a diet.......a square of Green&Blacks organic dark chocolate is all you need! It's so rich you won't want any more. Or have a really bright fruit salad! That always cheers me up!

I feel a bit sorry for guys sometimes, simply because we can get really emotional for "no reason" [see: periods] and they just really don't know what on earth they can do to make it better. It seems as if they're damned if they do and damned if they don't sometimes.

I hope you feel better though - don't take it personally, boyfriend might have had an off day too.