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If one of your future children was gay...

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Angel_Cake

Ummmm yeah...the queen over 100 years ago. They also used to think women shouldn't be allowed to vote, man would never fly and deaf women should be sterilised back then :rolleyes:

And that female masturbation was a bad thing... and male masturbation too come to think of it.

Glad times have changed, but without the latter foolish view, we wouldn't have Arsenal football club today, so even stupid policies have their upsides.

None of this has anything to do with the topic at hand.
Homophobia is one of the things I understand the least. Personally I believe it's because some men are threatened by their own urges. I think it's a terrible pressure for a parent to place on their child though.
I will never forget, when my mum found out about my first proper girlfriend, her first words:
"thank god you're not gay".

this shocks me. I understand it - especially coming from my mum, who is insane in many ways, and who i hardly listen to anyway - but I couldn't bear my children to repress who they are to conform with society. It's inhumane to force them to do so.

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Stylephox

If I ever decide to have children, and they turn out to be gay...I would be extremely dissapointed and sad. Before anyone jumps on me, let me just say now I am not homophobic. It's just that I don't want them growing up being ridiculed and teased which is bound to happen (call me cynical).Growing up is hard enough already! I was bullied as a child, and I know how much it sucks.

Reply 82

veryjammy

Sometimes I think that people actually over-exaggerate the problems gay people have - a lot of people are saying they're worried about the bullying and stuff but I'm 20, been out for roughly 5 years, and I have NEVER been bullied, been insulted, persecuted or name-called because of my sexuality.

Maybe that makes me lucky, I don't know, I've mainly lived in Manchester and London which are big, inclusive, multi-cultural places , I guess things could be different out in the country and stuff. But honestly it hasn't made my life any harder.

I don't think you can say how you would react. For 3 years my mum wouldn't accept it and then she realised that I was still the same person and that it didn't fundamentally change who I was, so never say never.

Reply 83

Flicker

i'd worry that they'd suffer abuse and that they had been miserable before telling me!

and selfishly i would be disappointed they couldn't give me grandchildren! but then i'd realise they could adopt if they wanted or IVF and that they might not want kids even if they were straight and get over it :smile:

but i honestly think that would be my primary reaction.

Reply 84

eurasianfeline

I wouldn't mind at all. gay/les people are perfect normal to me...in fact...most gay guys are much more sensitive than straight guys!!

Reply 85

KingAS

i would mind it, and i would worry more about them, because of the amount of discrimination gay/les ppl face at school and in the world in general.

Reply 86

eurasianfeline

KingAS

i would mind it, and i would worry more about them, because of the amount of discrimination gay/les ppl face at school and in the world in general.

put the worrying about discrimination factor aside...what's wrong with gay/les people themselves? there's no "right" or "wrong" for sexual preferences. and it's not their fault if they are gay/les.

Reply 87

The Crow

gay people are always so much HOTTER than us straights...not fair

Reply 88

veryjammy

RiOt GiRl

gay people are always so much HOTTER than us straights...not fair

Thats a generalisation if ever I heard one......

Reply 89

LennonMcCartney

eurasianfeline

put the worrying about discrimination factor aside...what's wrong with gay/les people themselves? there's no "right" or "wrong" for sexual preferences. and it's not their fault if they are gay/les.

No there is no right or wrong preferences. Although, homosexuals can't further their line, of course.

Reply 90

ben!

magiccarpet

put a gay woman/man in bed with a proper patrner of the oppostie sex, and wahey they have sex, they are ungay... all parents should make sure this is what happens. i have gay frinds but i think they are just a phase and will be normal and get married in the future.

I hate to point this out, but sexuality doesn't just revolve around sex. Being gay and sleeping with a women does not make you 'straight,' anymore than if you were straight and sleeping with someone of the same sex would make you gay.

You clearly don't have much idea of what you're talking about...

Reply 91

Cazzi

i wouldnt mind if my kids were to be gay.

i mean their youre kids?! surely u should love them no matter how they are. i mean parents love their kids with a disability. so why should sexuality be different. its a natural thing that has been around forever.

Reply 92

ben!

wizard

I don't think i would be....i'd be very shocked and upset...

I'm going to agree with you here. My mum occaisionally said that if I was gay, she'd be ok with it. And she is. BUT, I think it's important to stress that for the majority of parents it is a very big shock, mainly because they don't usually suspect it. The fact that it shatters their plans for you (grandchildren etc etc) also is a big shock.

Reply 93

RetiredAccount89

magiccarpet

yes i agreee!!! nothing MAKES you act upon it! gay people could easily just act normal and have a proper partner and just secretly look at the weird porn in privado

the reason gays are bullied, laughed at, and generally treated like freaks isnt because of ignorance or homophobia. its because they are so open with their unusual sexual preference. there's no need for this. they could just go off somewhere private and be gay there and thats fine

for me i dont mind if my kid wanted to experiment as long as nobody ever found out, and i'd discourage them from it as soon as i found out

if they want to be gay in public we should make special areas for them, so people know when they go there that there may be these weirdos around.
We could call them 'concentration camps' for posterity. :rolleyes:

Reply 94

yuki

if my kids said they were gay, i really wouldn't have a problem with it, if thats what makes them happy, so be it. I have a male friend whos openly ni, at the moment he has a boyfriend, and a few female frind who are also bi. s I guess that the policy I take with my friends would apply to my children, afterall, if their your children your going to love them no matter what.

Reply 95

ben!

foolfarian

Why don't we start building burning pits and shooting walls while we're at it? :rolleyes:

It only takes a few more steps before we start burning people for being themselves.

Reply 96

IB student uk

yer or we could have like an isolated country, where u put all the gays... maybe murderers and pedos too (almost as bad as gays :rolleyes:

), and then no1 would ever have to go to that country and it would be barred up so they cnt leave!

Er... get real - I dnt see how it makes a difference to your lives whether the man across the road gets his jollies from men instead of women. Get over it already!

Reply 97

RetiredAccount89

benji_flavs

Why don't we start building burning pits and shooting walls while we're at it? :rolleyes:

It only takes a few more steps before we start burning people for being themselves.

what are you a barbarian?
WE must first check that they aren't just pretending to be themselves. A good dunking will make sure we figure out whose gay, and whose a witch

Reply 98

Wild Thing

i wouldnt be too happy but Id get over it and love them all the same.

Reply 99

silver~planet

I wouldn't feel any differently towards them I don't think... 2 of my best friends are gay (one's a guy, one a girl). The girl told her parents she's a lesbian and they were really cool about it, they're very open-minded people which is great. The guy on the other hand hasn't told them, and I think he's worried about what they'll think when he does. It puts a lot of strain on him, knowing his parents might react badly to what is just one aspect of their son's personality and character... so if I'm ever a mother, I'll want to make sure my kids don't feel like that :smile: