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is age an issue in a relationship

ykceb

is age an issue in a relationship?
:confused:

what are people boundries when it comes to going out with someone?

Reply 1

username18215

10

Not to be annoying, but we had this thread a while back.

I would search for it, but im revising :-)

Reply 2

Steph!

13

it depends how old you are I guess. it matters less if you are in your 20's if there is say a 2 yr diff, but if you are say 13 and your partner is 15/16 then you will be wanting different things.

my ex seems v. happy with someone 2 yrs younger and my friend is v. happy with someone 2 yrs older. my friends parents are v. happy with 36 yrs between them. It depends on the individuals

Reply 3

Piggsil

16

I dunno, it depends how old you both are. The younger you are, the more important age is. For example if a 15 year old was going out with an 11 year old, that seems wrong to me, but a 25 year old going out with a 21 year old would be fine.

Reply 4

dappleddawndrawndauphin

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md_red_uk

Not to be annoying, but we had this thread a while back.

I would search for it, but im revising :-)

very true i remember posting on it :smile:

Reply 5

Socrates

17

Just reading in the paper 2day, a 27 year old woman went out with a 58 year old man, who was older than her dad. Beat that.

Reply 6

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

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My friend is 17, with a 46 yr old. I don't see how there can be any kind of attraction, they should be on completely different wavelengths right?
I usually... no, always, go for older men. I'm 17, and the youngest I have been with since I was 15 is four years older. The oldest is ten.... but I wouldn't go that far again I don't think.
Usually about 22-25... Don't know why, just get on better I suppose. As long as everyone is a consenting adult and happy, I don't think it's much of an issue, although sometimes sick and wrong...

Reply 7

Helenia

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gonnabavet

My friend is 17, with a 46 yr old. I don't see how there can be any kind of attraction, they should be on completely different wavelengths right?

My friend was "seeing" i.e. having casual sex with a 34 year old when she was 16/17. Basically it worked like this: He gets to have sex with an attractive young girl, who he only has to see every so often (she was at boarding school, so only saw him in the holidays); in return she gets to be arm candy of successful businessman who buys her lots of nice stuff a boyfriend her own age couldn't afford.

Reply 8

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

13

Yeah I used to think that was what it was for my friend - that he just wanted to prove he still had it! But they live together now, and have been together for a long time. It could still be just those reasons, I don't know! :confused:

Reply 9

technik

13

well im 21 in a few weeks...so i'll base it on that.

if i was going out with a girl the youngest i would go was 17, oldest probably 23-24.

of course thats not rigid, you could meet someone not in that range. (not too much younger mind. dont want to be classed as a kiddy fiddler)

Reply 10

Sugar_Puff_Fairy

13

technik

dont want to be classed as a kiddy fiddler

Hehe

Reply 11

LennonMcCartney

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Reply 12

-TMG-

9

Yes...and no. I think both people need to be aged well MENTALLY (mature). Of course there are 16 yos who are more wise than 25 year olds.

Case in point - my ex gf told me tonight 'you (me) are all the way down there, so I'll do what I want. What she wants is to go out with some lad every night, and go on a date with him this Saturday. The cheek of it is she still wants to go out with me in September, when its convenient for her and when I move near to her. She does not realise what it looks like and how much it hurts if she's going out with a lad every night, out on dates with him etc. Also, adding insult to injury she says she doesn't like him one bit, and still wants to go out with me.

That of course is a major problem in a relationship, she has no idea about how her actions affect other people, and what is right and wrong in a relationship.

Anyway...yes age can be a problem lol, although age is only a number, and it really is mental age over how many birthday cakes you've eaten.

Reply 13

pixie05

6

Well, personally, I wouldn't go out with a guy younger than me, at a stretch maybe a year younger but thats the max, as for older, I'm 18 and would say probably 25

Reply 14

bobthebluenose

My 'girl'friends 84, i just love saggy veiny boobs

Reply 15

dramaqueen_18

Age is a difficult one. You think you have an opinion on it until ur actually in that position of making a real decision. As long as the mental ages are similar it's ok I reckon. But if a guy is much older than a girl and she's immature then that's a bit wrong. I think it always comes across worse on the older one and friends and family never see it from the right perspective. But if you're both consenting and comfortable with an age gap, then go 4 it, jst dnt expect loadsa support from other ppl!

Reply 16

KdySk8rGirl

I dont think age matters, but maybe if theres a generation gap. If your bf refers to your friends as kids then you have a problem. And be aware of any sentence that starts with "during the war" :biggrin:

Reply 17

jd27

It depends. I have only been out with two girls, and they were both much older - 23 and 25. The first was a disaster as she was very manipulative and was getting off on her own power. The second worked much better, but was still doomed to fail.

I think prior to university, if you plan to go, the age gap needs to be smaller. Going out with someone much older is most likely to fail as it can deprive you of the fantastic experience you should be having. After uni though I don't see much of a problem with age gaps. Unless it's massive, and even then, if it works for you why not?

Reply 18

Everdawn

13

Funny, my friend is concerned about the same thing, but the guy shes started going out with is 4 years older, shes 18 hes turning 22. I didn't know what to tell her becuase my bf is only a year olfer than I am.

Reply 19

frost105

14

It depends very much so on where you ar ein life. The older the person the more issues, baggage and desires to settle down they're gonna have.

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