He's making it difficult to get over him. >:(

So basically, I fell for this guy I really shouldn't have, we flirted a bit and I had suspicions that he had feelings for me too.

Anyway, I've recently realised that that is not the case and that he's too involved with another girl to feel that way.

I'm trying to get over him but he won't let up. I'm still friendly ('cause I work with him so kinda have to be) but I've started to change my ways around him (i.e. not staying late after work just to chat, no phone calls/texts, etc. etc.) because I know I need to get over him.

Problem is, he's making it difficult by continuing to be all flirty with me, etc. Like today he kept insisting he take me home because it was chucking it down, and he was all, "Are you gonna call tonight?" and stuff.

I don't particularly want to tell him that it bugs me because that would involve telling him about my feelings for him. And tbh, that's gonna make things complicated considering we'll still be working pretty closely (same department; quite a small one too) for the next couple of years.

So yeah, I'm kinda stuck.

Screw him

I don't think this will help somehow.....

That's not flirting, that's friendship.

I agree with the lifts home part. But guys don't generally have close friendships with girls where they ring/text each other whenthey have girlfriends, do they?

What?! Of course they do!

I don't really know any guys who do. I had a close friendship with a guy who's girlfriend told him to either lose me or her because we were that close...

So if he had had a non-crazy girlfriend, you yourself would be an example that it does happen?

Maybe you're really pretty or something, so girls get possessive with their guys around you and therefore none of your attached male mates text you?
I spent the afternoon texting a male friend and we're not that close at all. It definitely happens (from personal experience, brothers, other friends)...

Noo, I think you've mistook me. I also text male friends who I'm not that close to, just as my boyfriend texts females he's not that close to. From the perspective of the OPs experience, my point was that not a lot of people have one single person of the opposite sex who they constantly ring/text and are generally quite close to.

Have you seen When Harry Met Sally? I think Harry makes quite an accurate quote about opposite sex friendships when in a relationship. It's not that we can't be friends with another male if we're in a relationship, it's just that when you're with someone, in essence they become your go to person as well as your friend and lover, so they get everything about you. So the idea that you have one other male in particular who you go to with your problems and who you text/talk to into the late hours of the night seems a bit odd?

I don't disagree with texting the opposite sex generally when you're in a relationship, that would be silly!

And no, I don't think I'm really pretty at all, a lot of females tend to get jealous of my friendship with their boyfriend and I'm honestly not sure why.

Oh right! Well there's nothing to suggest that OP is the only girl the guy texts so...
I'm still a bit confused as to why we got onto this point then, but never mind!