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Reply 1

Trust can be earnt, and can come back sometimes, but it depends on the person. But you say you've done nothing wrong, so tbh I doubt it. If the trust is gone without you even doing anything, it's unlikely to work really isn't it.

Reply 2

It wouldn't work without trust. I know girls don't like boys being consious , which is exactly what I am. I would need to trust the girl a lot to pursue a happy relationship. Hence why at my age relationships for me don't exist.

Reply 3

i vote you stick around and help rebuild the trust :smile:

Reply 4

PoisonDonna
Trust can be earnt, and can come back sometimes, but it depends on the person. But you say you've done nothing wrong, so tbh I doubt it. If the trust is gone without you even doing anything, it's unlikely to work really isn't it.


When I say I hadn't done much wrong, I mean I haven't cheated or anything. However the person I'm with has strict boundaries which I've crossed a couple of times- once by getting overly flirty with someone, and once by speaking to someone I shouldn't have behind his back (though in an entirely innocent way).

Anyways, I wasn't asking whether or not I should stay with him- I fully intend to and don't really have any doubts atm. I was just wondering if I'm alone in thinking that I can't deal with this lack of trust not improving over time, or if other people would feel the same. We have a problem and we're not sure how to solve it and that's a bit scary, tbh.

Reply 5

from my experiences 16 months.

Sadly some people are so insecure they will never trust you even if you prove over and over again that you are trustworthy.

Reply 6

Anonymous
When I say I hadn't done much wrong, I mean I haven't cheated or anything. However the person I'm with has strict boundaries which I've crossed a couple of times- once by getting overly flirty with someone, and once by speaking to someone I shouldn't have behind his back (though in an entirely innocent way).

Anyways, I wasn't asking whether or not I should stay with him- I fully intend to and don't really have any doubts atm. I was just wondering if I'm alone in thinking that I can't deal with this lack of trust not improving over time, or if other people would feel the same. We have a problem and we're not sure how to solve it and that's a bit scary, tbh.

Relationships will commonly run into unsolvable, scary problems - but the most you can do is keep trying to solve them, so to speak. They're hard work, and the strong relationships can overcome these issues.

I'm confused though... you can't deal with the lack of trust not improving over time but you fully intend to stay with him?