can things ever go back...

wen we first got to uni, me & T met in our seminar group in oct & clicked right away. at the time he already had a girlfriend & i wasn't looking for NEbody so we gel'd really quickly as friends. we'd give each other advice about our love life & sit together @ lectures with our friends. his friends became my friends and vice versa. :smile:

i went out with him & his mates last week N drunkenly kissed each other...for most of the night. we ended up spendin the night together but not before me making him promise that we would be friends whatever happens (i'd pulled another "friend" the week before and things turned awkward even though we'd said we'd just stay friends hence the promise!) it was a really nice night & we stayed together again last night after going to a gig.
T tld a mutual friend that he didn't wana spoil a friendship, nd also said she got the impression that he just wants to be friends. i'm too scared to ask him because i don't want to lose a friend either through awkwardness. it's not come at the best time as our exams start this monday!
do you think it's possible for two people to become so so intimate but then go back to being friends again? i'm just trying to sort this out in my head! please advise! :confused:

Reply 1

Apricot Fairy

What is it that you want from him? Do you really just want to be friends, or do you want a relationship?

Reply 2

ickleangel

put it this way...i'd rather have his friendship than nothing at all. i've learnt that a guy's friendship is SOOOO much more important to me than a drunken kiss.

Reply 3

Apricot Fairy

But I'm guessing you'd rather have his love than his friendship...

Reply 4

ickleangel

to be honest i don't really know anymore. we've both got exams on monday so i guess i'm just goin to have to cool it over the weekend let both of us think about things & try and revise until monday nd see what happens.
damn timing.
but du think its actually possible for two people to become so intimate with e/o N then go back to being just friends as though nothing ever happend?

Reply 5

ickleangel

wouldn't things be so much easier if we were able to see wht goes on inside other people's heads?!?! gawd...i'm so so confused! boo.

Reply 6

ickleangel

hmm..have been talkin to him quite a lot on MSN over the wkend & can't decide whether we're flirting with each other or just plain insulting one another?!?! could be quite crucial really!
we've both got exams today so will end up gettin ridiculously drunk again tnite which cnt be a bad thing?! (depending what happens @ the exam N whilst we're out!)
xx

Reply 7

Piggsil

Why don't you just cool it with him for a while during exams and try not to let it bother you. After exams when you both have nothing to worry about it will sort itself out. :smile:

Reply 8

Hana_87

I really really think you should be asking and telling him all this rather than us.

In reality, we know very little about the situation and its hard to say if it could go back, not really knowing how either of you really feel.

You need to ask him (probably best after the exams) whats going on, and what he wants.

Reply 9

ickleangel

hmm..i guess but it's too scary PLUS i don't wana scare him off either. decided to stay away from him for a little bit just to get my head straight (and to really revise!) & sort out what i really want N whether i really do like him or is it just the fact that i became intimate with him that made me like him?!?!?!