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Meh, should i be annoyed?

Hey guys,

My girl friend has been a bit down recently, and i am always there for her when she needs me.

Last night, i told her i was going to a pub, and i did, and i admit, i drank far to much.

She then text me stating how she needed to talk to me, i text back saying i was a lil drunk, but will call when i get in...

I got in, she was saying stuff like "its ok" in reallly harsh manner, and "when your sober you will see what the problem is".. i was like... please just explain it to me.. i was starting to sober up now..

she then text me stating she had spoke to her EX and he had sorted out the situtation and she feels all better as he was there for her.

I was excuse me, u tld me never to spk to my ex, but ur ex can be there for you and stuff because im apparently "not" and he is "use to it"...

Basically i feel like **** right now.. i always try my hardest, but her ex always seems to kick about and i have to put up with it as she once told me "I am always guna there for him", even thou they split on really bad terms..

gggaaawwwdddd :confused:

i feel all icky :frown:

_Cr

Reply 1

ciara

Hmm, this is undoubtedly her way of making you jealous, and it's obviously working! She knows you're not comfortable with the whole ex thing so is using it in this situation to make you feel bad for getting drunk when she needed you. I mean, I'm sure she spoke to him, but it was deliberate so she could say this to you maybe?

Firstly, for this situation, you should just arrange some kind of night in (with no alcohol) and talk to her about her life. Apologise for being a drunken fool when she was upset. If she really does need you at the moment, give her lots of hugs and promise to always be there for her (as long as you actually will).

This ex thing is a separate issue though. Tell her you can get upset sometimes by her attitude to him. Something explaining that you get jealous but focussing on how you trust her a great deal and would never stop her from seeing him (cos i hope you're not that controlling).

Hopefully you'll both be happier once you've talked. If you're as strong as you seem then you will compromise and help each other!

Reply 2

ChemistBoy

Man, you've got to be able to let your hair down at some point. I'd be on the warpath if my gf tried to guilt-trip me like that because I'd had a drink.

Reply 3

The Crow

well it sounds like she was just down n takin it out on you...?!

Reply 4

ChemistBoy

lessthanthree

She's probably only said all of that to you to spite you, and I think it's best that you don't make a big deal out of it, and let it go.

But, don't let her get away with it too much. She behaved in an unreasonable way and you need to let her know (without having an argument) that that is how you feel about it.

Communication is very important, if you have been upset or annoyed by something you have to let her know.

Reply 5

saz_1989

if she's genuinely friends with her ex then that should be fine. i'm such good friends with one of mine, that when a more recent ex told me not to talk to him, he understood, and didn't contact me too much. but if she just used him as a substitute to piss you off, and it sounds like she did, then you need to talk to her. talk about what was wrong, talk about why she felt she had to go to her ex, etc. he's her ex for a reason.

Reply 6

marychrist

Crunchie

don't let her dictate what you can / can't do.

Reply 7

tis_me_lord

She's being a whiny cow, I wonder if she'd be so caring if things were the other way around.

Reply 8

Ferret_messiah

If the ex is always going to be there for her, you should help with that. Give her his embalmed body, gift wrapped.

Reply 9

naelse

she's being really unreasonable... you should let her know how wrong it is to a) have double standards about communication with exes and b) expect support from you like it's some kind of job. you are there for her because you love her, not because you have to be. you have a life too and a right to live it as you see fit.

if anything i think you're underreacting. my peter would be in full sulk mode if i was like that, and i would be too if he was as unreasonable to me.

Reply 10

KingAS

Ferret_messiah

If the ex is always going to be there for her, you should help with that. Give her his embalmed body, gift wrapped.

i like ur idea :biggrin:

Reply 11

JonnyB

God damn, I hate it when girls pull **** like that!

Unless she's really worth it, get the hell out.

Reply 12

LubyLoo

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You are entitled to get drunk once in a while, and you even went to talk to her when you were drunk, showing that you do care about her/put her first. I think you need to talk to her about the ex thing. It's not fair to have one rule for you and one for her. Hope you're okay anyway.

Reply 13

Wild Thing

Mmmmm I understand her....when girls feel depressed they take it out on everyone...and usually the first person that listens to the becomes the hero of the day :rolleyes:

Basically....dont do anything...dont talk to her for 24 hours so it gives her time to reflect and she'll feel bad and realise that she over reacted. Then send her a text saying like: hey babe Im really sorry..I dont get why you're mad.
And then you'll see...shell say sorry :smile:

Reply 14

hippieglitter

Its a bit harsh that she is allowed to talk to her ex and your not allowed to talk to yours. I talk to my ex all the time and i know my bf is a bit jealous, but if he wanted to talk to his ex i wouldn't try to stop him. Talking to ex's is often a trust thing, by bf despite his jealously trusts me not to get back with my ex and i trust him not to get back with his. If she won't let you make contact with your ex if you want to, then she doesn't trust you enough.