I want to bring this up...

I'm posting as anonymous because he knows I have an account on here.

Aaaanyways.

My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half now. We have a great relationship.

I was using his laptop the other day, and was searching for a picture I'd saved off t'internet (it got sent to some random file) and came across a folder full of well, ahem, porn.

I don't have a problem with porn. Infact, if it stops him from wanting it about 15000 times a day, it's great. I've told him before I think it's fine. Especially as I'm really not all that pretty, so yeah, I don't blame him.

However, I was flicking through some of the photos (I'm not sure why... morbid curiosity perhaps) and there were a couple of pictures of a girl we both know. She's in our school, one of the 'stupid/pretty' crowd. They're not great friends, they share a class together but nothing more than that. I know he'd never do anything with her (she's not really a nice person) and she'd never do anything with him, but still, it's rubbed me up the wrong way (no pun intended).

I want to bring this up with him, but then he'll know I've been looking and, quite frankly, I'm a bit embarassed, because I don't want to be like ZOMGZ UR CHEETIN ON ME!11!!!ONE!!1!

So... any advice?

Reply 1

username114658

Just tell him exactly what you wrote there :smile:

Make sure that you emphasise that you are only curious as to why he has a picture of her but don't do the entire over jealous act.. :smile:

Reply 2

rscully

Set a trap. Tell him one of your male friends said he'd heard that this girl was sending out naked pics, has he heard that. If he denies it them kill him, if not it's all good.

Reply 3

TK2 King Pin

maybe he 'saved the picture to send it to someone who was asking what she looked like over msn'
otherwise, he was masturbating over it

Reply 4

anameofsomesort

You shoudl definately talk to him about it.
Dont try and come across too attacking though, just try and be like 'so whats that about then?'
Usually pics like that get thrown around school all the time and when boys get them, theyre not gonna be inclined to delete them, so its probably just something hes been sent and kept.
odds are he'll delete them if he knows you're hurt by it.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I left this out of my initial post (oops) but yeah, I forgot to say that it wasn't a naked picture of her or anything. Just a picture of her in her bikini that I found on her facebook, when I was checking it was definitely her and not just someone that looked very much like her. So I know what he's doing with it!

Reply 6

Trishyy

Talk to him about it... I personally detest porn so wouldn't want my boyf looking at anything like that. And to look at another girl? That he knows, that's totally different and out of order.
Definitely confront him and ask what the hell he's up to??!!