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how does everyone cope with not seeing your partner for so long.

my gf is going home next week for 3months for summer and this will the longest, I dont know if I will cope but at the same time im gona try not moap about-try and see her once or twice...

thanks folks! :frown:

!!

Reply 1

laura789

9

this is gonna sound really lame but if you really love someone you just do cope. you have to.

Reply 2

soilman

OP

12

laura789

this is gonna sound really lame but if you really love someone you just do cope. you have to.

Thanks for that, I know I have no choice. Just wondering how everyone else has been able to deal with it thats all.

Reply 3

happydinosaur

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sm0273

Thanks for that, I know I have no choice. Just wondering how everyone else has been able to deal with it thats all.

You get used to it and not seeing someone for weeks becomes normal..

Reply 4

laura789

9

and then its more special when you do see them. u have to look forward to seeing them again and make sure you make time for eachother e.g. with the telephone etc etc

Reply 5

KdySk8rGirl

I could never do the long distance thing, I would go mad!

Reply 6

laura789

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KdySk8rGirl

I could never do the long distance thing, I would go mad!

one of my mates used to say that about my relationship but now she's in one herself. you could do it if u had to i bet

Reply 7

misses77

1

You talk lots.. let each other know what's happening in your lives, n tell each other how you still feel. That's vital.
Other than that, yeah.. you just cope, n look forward to the next time you see them. It's horrible, but it's worth it.

Reply 8

_poptart_

2

is there no way you can visit her? obviously just things like keeping yourself busy and regular communication with her is gonna help.
I know its a cliche but if the relationship is strong enough you'll be able to make it through these few months. Awww isnt love wonderful :love:

Reply 9

Mean Mr. Mustard

It's difificult, really difficult, but if you're in love, you make it work, talking lots helps, and trying to always alwys have the next time you see each other planned, so you've got something to look forward to. I find I miss my girlfriend most when I don't know when I'll next see her...

Me and my girlfriend have a 2 week rule as well, which helps lots, even though it does start to get *really* difficult in the second week. We've managed to stick to the rule ok so far, though obviously not everyone can afford to/live close enough etc...

So yeah, distance sucks...but the waits are always worth it! :smile:

Reply 10

xx_ambellina_xx

14

Well, I don't think the wondering about how you're going to cope ever stops. You just have to make that extra effort to make sure you talk every day, and visits are nice too.

Reply 11

soilman

OP

12

jeni8686

is there no way you can visit her? obviously just things like keeping yourself busy and regular communication with her is gonna help.
I know its a cliche but if the relationship is strong enough you'll be able to make it through these few months. Awww isnt love wonderful :love:

yeh it is lol!!! i will be able to see her a couple of times, and im sure i will cope :frown:

everyone else seems to i suppose

Reply 12

queenselphie

Unfortunately for me, I "dealt with it" by flirting with someone else, to distract myself from missing my partner. I fell in love. It got messy. Dont try this at home, kids.

Reply 13

blissy

15

You have to be really dedicated and think to the future - so you have to be ina relationship you think you want to pursue no matter what.

Also, and this may sound stupid, you have to keep in touch. Both of you. It's no good one person doing all the running because if it's one-sided it WILL fall apart.

Reply 14

_poptart_

2

sm0273

yeh it is lol!!! i will be able to see her a couple of times, and im sure i will cope :frown:

everyone else seems to i suppose

Dont be fooled into thinking everyone manages, dont wana put you off but some dont manage it - mine didnt for example :frown:

But thats only because it wasnt meant to be y'know?
And obviously those that do work out are the relationships where both partners are committed to each other and can look to the future - if you think you and your girlfriend can do that; you're fine!! Good luck :smile:

Reply 15

Lucas

yuh will be going into a distance relationship when i go to uni next year and my gf stays at home...feels so ****d up but hey, life is full of challenges i guess :p:

Reply 16

ChemistBoy

16

I had a long distance relationship for about 3 out 5 years of my previous relationship and I can say that we did really 'grow apart'. Eventually the wheels fell off our relationship and it didn't work out. Long distances are damaging for a relationship and should be minimised really.

Reply 17

Manxie

Im in a long distance relationship, my fella is in the army and i see him for three weeks every 3-4 months. Its well hard but if you send letters and call it helps. I tend to send things that remind me of him. If i see a funny card i send it just to make him laugh and so he knows im always thinking bout him

Reply 18

Piggsil

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sm0273

Thanks for that, I know I have no choice. Just wondering how everyone else has been able to deal with it thats all.

MSN. It's not great, but you have to make do.

Reply 19

ruthiepoothie

11

blissy

Also, and this may sound stupid, you have to keep in touch. Both of you. It's no good one person doing all the running because if it's one-sided it WILL fall apart.

I agree wholeheartedly with this statement...both of you have to want the relationship work, and you both have to work hard to make it work, make comprimises etc....one person can't do it on their own....

So for example, if one person is always the one to visit the other one, it will begin to take it's tole on the relationship- it's too much for one person to do on their own (I know this from personal experience :frown:

), and relationships are all about loving, caring, sharing and comprimise anyway so there is no excuse for you both not putting some work in to make the relationship work. If you don't, then it's unlikely that it will last. However, if you both put in the effort, and both want it to work, then it can, it's not unheard of and it's not unlikely....

Good luck to everyone, especially those in a LDR :smile:

Ruthie xx

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