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    i feel i'm in too deep

    basically, i'm not a people person AT ALL and feel the more i try to overcome this and mix/be sociable, the worse i feel and the more sure and determined i am that i don't mix well with other humans

    however, i know i must deal with this and get used to being around and with people to survive i guess, even though i find it soooo difficult and quite frankley, painful

    so, i'm doing voluntary work at a day centre for people with learning disabilities, riding for the disabled and, to top things off, have got myself a job as a care worker at a residential home for the elderly.

    i now feel extreemly stupid in what i've got myself into as i feel completely out of my comfort zone and control (nothing new there). i'm also awear that i can't back out of this job as i've only just started and don't want to have gone through all the checks and training for nothing, thus wasting their time

    my voluntary work isn't too bad as it's a once-a-week-for-a-few-hours arrangement; it's more this job i'm worried about: shall i give it more time as i haven't been working there long?

    sorry to rant on, it's strange how much easier it is to write to strangers than speak to people you know
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    yes - give it time. I know you feel out of your comfort zone but remember that this willbe a good personal challenge for you, and things like this do get better with practice. Imagine how good you will feel if you manage to overcome this. Think of this as an opportunity to change your life and your social skills. You can't run away from everything in life - there are some things you just have to face head on, and this is one of them I hope it goes well. x
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    Disappointing thread..
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    (Original post by Spongebob*No*Pants)
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    Exactly what I thought.
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    (Original post by Spongebob*No*Pants)
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    Take it I'm not the only one who took a completely different meaning from "too deep"?

    On topic: just give it a go. There's no point giving it up before you've even started, heck you might surprise yourself and end up enjoying it.
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    (Original post by Spongebob*No*Pants)
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    lol

    keep at it OP
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    Yes, give it more time. I volunteer at a hospital; at the beginning I was never too comfortable seeing 'sick' individuals all the time, looking at me with discouraging eyes and feeling completely helpless. But you learn to deal with it and eventually, you'll realise they're just human beings and will be able to empathise, communicate and have fun with them.
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    If you left this job what would you do? Get another job? That's a long way from easy at the moment. Or sit at home all day dwelling on your own anxieties? How is that going to make things better? Stick at your job, you might find yourself enjoying it. If you still find you're very anxious in social situations consult your GP, they may be able to help in a whole range of ways.
 
 
 
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